My son is 18 mos and he has begun hitting people when he is angry or does not get his way. It is so horrible and i have no clue where he has ever even seen people hit. I have tried time outs, I have tried ignoring him, I have tried just about everything but he is still not getting it. He often plays with his cousin who is 15 mos old and he hits and pushes him all the time. I do not want him to be a nasty child, please help.
2006-08-21 06:26:10 · 10 answers · asked by jkcowgirl919 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am glad you mentioned about having a time out in a crib. i brought his playpen into the pantry just yesterday to use as a time out location. It's around the corner from the kitchen so he will be isolated from everyone for a few minutes. Thank you BeckyB
2006-08-21 06:41:59 · update #1
So an 18 mos old doesn't understand a time-out but he is supposed to understand "I see you are angry" or "what makes you mad?". And as far as "off your butt parenting" I spend more time playing right along side my son in one day then most mothers do in a whole week.
2006-08-21 07:43:30 · update #2
They will go through many stages but this one needs to be stopped. Put him in his crib and tell him he can't play with the cousin if he hits. Also if he hits adults put him out of the room into his crib where he will be safe. He will learn that if wants to be with ppl, he needs to not hit! The next lesson will be quicker to learn if you stick to this. All kids want to be where the action is! Just ignore him if he cries and make him stay in the crib for about 3 or 4 min. If he hits again, put him right back in the crib. He will catch on soon. I say use 3 - 4 min because(1 min per yr) 1 1/2 min is not long enough to shut the door and leave him or teach him anything!Best wishes!
2006-08-21 06:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is trying to communicate. It's very normal for kids this age to hit or even bite to communicate since they don't have all the words for what they want to say.
One of the best things you can do is to practice "get off your butt parenting" and be right there with him when he is interacting with others. Watch for what triggers him to hit and intervene BEFORE it happens. You may begin to see patterns or signs that you can recognize that it's coming.
Work on teaching him the words he needs to express himself. "That made you mad!" or "you sure look angry" or "I can see you're frustrated" or "you really wanted that toy" or things like that.
If he hurts someone else, the injured party gets all the attention.
IMO, 18 mos old is really too young for time out.
ADDING -
jennanderton2006 -
What an intelligent way to deal with it. "Don't hit" says mom as she smacks the kid. Can anyone else say "double standard?"
2006-08-21 06:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a phase. My son went through the same thing when he was 1 1/2 years old..he would kick, slap, bite, etc. It was horrible. Be firm with him and tell him that it is not acceptable behavior to hit other people.
Just be patient..my son is almost 2 1/2 years old now, and he rarely hits / bites anymore.
2006-08-21 10:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Chewie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All kids go through this stage. The best thing to do is to isolate him from the other kids. Tell him in a stern voice "No Hitting". Eventually he will grow out of this. Good Luck!!
2006-08-21 06:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Putting him in his crib/playpen is the best. He'll learn that it doesn't get him attention or what he wants.
One thing that worked for me is taking the hitters hand and saying we use hands to do nice things and as I say this I use the hitters hand stroking my hair or patting my shoulder or grabbing both and giving a hug.
When he's being good you can initiate the 'nice hands' game. What do nice hands do? Oh, they give hugs, they give high fives, they pat someone on the shoulder. They help clean up....etc..
2006-08-21 08:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by momoftwo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an 18 month old too, and he does the same thing. I just say "no hitting", or I distract him to something else- like tickle him, etc.
your lucky, mine climbs out out the playpen.
It will pass, try not to let it get you too upset, he will pick up on it.
Good luck.
2006-08-24 18:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by Eye Candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people advising to hit or smack are giving you bad advice. You should check below in this site. It really explains what hitting does to a child.
2006-08-21 07:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good idea to tell him to not hit. Just tell him "No hitting". If he continues, seperate them I guess.
2006-08-21 06:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by maeyumii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from what I have seen it is a phase, not saying you should ignore it or praise him for it, continue what you are doing to punish him and he'll grow out of it...
2006-08-21 06:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a phase.you need to teach him that hitting hurts smack his hand and tell you dont hit
2006-08-21 06:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋