Ok we had a family get together and my 5 year old son was insane, hes usually pretty good but he was just out of control last night i yelled at him once and got looks like i was being to hard on him, then i tried talking to him numerous times during the day and he was like "ok" and then ran off and was still being a jerk, calling names to all the guests and not listening to anyone just being obnoxious, the kind of kids i hate, and he just got worse and i was looked at like i was the worst parent in the planet, how do i teach him how to act in situations like this and how do i handle him in that situation without comming off as a jerk picking on his kid? i play rough and joke around with him, should i not be doing this? when were at home and he starts to go too far and i tell him thats enough and he stops and doesnt keep it going i dont even have to yell at him.
2006-08-21 06:24:37 · 7 answers · asked by Steve Dave 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i also put him in time out when we got home at the end of the night and sent him straight to bed. should i still talk to him again today about the way he acted or put it to rest and address it next time it happens?
2006-08-21 06:31:49 · update #1
i play rough at home not at the party. should i stop the rough play and joking all together?
2006-08-21 06:33:23 · update #2
Relax.....hes just 5 year old i used to be like that! maybe worse lol
I used to smash vase.
PS i change alot i goto school i get good grades and now going to six form
2006-08-21 06:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that kind of situation. It's hard because they kids get so excited and it seems like none of the kids are given any discipline or direction at the party. Just "go play" and then it gets out of hand.
I suggest before the party tell him what you expect from him. He should be allowed to be excited and run around, it's a special occasion. But warn him if he can't behave you'll have to leave (or send him to a quiet room away from the party, etc.)
If you have to pull your kid aside more than once or twice, you should take him away from the party. It's no fun for you, but sometimes that's the only solution.
2006-08-21 10:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putting him in time out after it's all over when you get home isn't going to do much. You need immediate consequences to his behaviour. Take him to sit in the car where it's boring or even leave early and take him home!
Make it clear to him BEFORE you go somewhere like this what kind of behaviour is expected and considered appropriate.
If he is rude or calling names to people, tell him to appologize immediately.
Stop worrying about how YOU look and think more about using these situations as a chance to teach him what is appropriate and what is not. Maintain your calm. Yelling at him may only escalate the situation.
Was this a grown up party? Was there stuff for him to do there? Could he have been feeling bored or left out and acting out in order to get attention?
2006-08-21 06:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest short punishments that he can equate with his actions. If he calls someone an unacceptable name, it's 10 minutes away from the party. At 5 he won't understand backward reasoning as well, but you should still talk to him today. My parents were often told how well behaved we were, we were spanked rarely, but we knew what was unacceptable behavior and that there would be consequences. The consistent application of rules and discipline for violating those rules will help him the most. Go ahead and play with him, I loved wrestling with my dad, but I would never just tackle somone else like I would him.
2006-08-21 06:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son is attention seeking and by the sounds of it he is getting it by misbehaving. I know it can be very hard at times and we don't want to loose face in front of people but if you continue to get upset about your sons behaviour and he knows it he will use his methods to gain attention and it won't matter weather it's good attention or bad. Ignore the bad behaviour if he is not injuring himself or anyone else and always always look for the positives and praise him for the good things he does. You must not go on about a problem you had yesterday a child forgets very easily and can put the situation out of context. Say what you have to say when you want to say it but forget it about it later don't harp on it. Don't worry about what people think of you or him and things will change, just sit back and watch and remember to look for the positives. You sound like a loving and caring parent so your child will most likely want to please you because you love him and he loves you. Don't stress about these things, he is looking for guidance from you and you give this to him buy the way you act around him. Good luck.
2006-08-21 09:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by slipper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 07:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a good role model...and do not play rough with him in these situations...
2006-08-21 06:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by TP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋