So I met somebody who seems like exactly the woman I've wanted to date and marry. Ironically, she's about 14 years too young (turning 21 next month). Even though we didn't date per se, we spent a lot of time together and we connected. She was only here for the summer on an internship, and now she's back at her college, 3000 miles away. I never thought it was possible to miss someone this badly.
So what's the best thing to do here? Do you think I should pursue a long distance relationship, being open with the fact that my feelings for her go beyond freindship? Or just stay friends by phone and email, hoping she takes the job she's been offered that will bring her back to the same company next year? Or just say no to the feelings because of the complications, and let the distance separate us?
2006-08-21 06:18:28 · 13 answers · asked by John D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should continue to be her friend for now...She will have a lot of decisions to make with college and finding a job when shes done and that can be a wrong time to be trying to have a LDR. But if you what until she is finished with school and maybe has more time to think about a relationship it will have a better chance of working out. If you start a relationship before it is time it will end badly and you wont get the chance again. Just wait a while and learn more about each other through letter, e-mail etc.....good luck
2006-08-21 06:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by Krista S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the distance separate you two but don't pressure a long distance relationship. If you really loves this girl then wish her the best and hope she takes the job she's been offered. As the old saying goes Let it go, if it comes back its yours forever but if not it was never yours to begin with. Wish you all the luck.
2006-08-21 13:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by The Plague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know which is worse, the fact she's only 21 and will change her mind hundred times in the next 5 years, or the great distance between you.
Move on and find someone close to home and close to your age - will save you a lot of stress down the road.
2006-08-21 13:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance is the problem, many people break up for this reason alone because they cannot stay faithful over the miles and times inbetween their togetherness. She's young, there will be many that will turn her head, she's just beginning life, she's needs to have that life.
2006-08-21 13:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really none of these are issues at least for me and my boyfriend, we arent the same age and he lives more then 3000 miles away in england. So go for, if shes the one of your dreams, make it a reality thats what my boyfriend says.
2006-08-21 13:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance is tough age dosnt or shoulndt matter im 28 my fiance is 42 we have been together for 4 years and has been the healthiest and best realationship i have ever been in .
2006-08-21 13:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by tony r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
distance and age are both big obstacles but if you truly have feelings for this girl then you might want to let her know and see if she feels the same way toward you!
2006-08-21 13:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by mommalyle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The distance will be the hardest part to overcome.
2006-08-21 13:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance shouldn't be a problem if you're as committed as you are dedicated.
2006-08-21 13:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by teh_sexi_hotttie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bigger obstacle -- distance -- age is only a number
2006-08-21 13:26:55 · answer #10 · answered by kunkko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋