We have not sent our invitations to our October '06 wedding (it's a quickie!). Would it be tacky to have the response cards say to email or phone a response rather than mail it? (as there isn't enough time for mailing back the cards anyway). And how would I word that in an elegant way? Thanks for any help!
2006-08-21 06:17:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I will be sending reponse cards along with the invitations, but how do I word it that I'd like them to repond by email or phone - rather than by mail. Also, how would I word it?
2006-08-21 06:27:28 · update #1
TN Girl, rosa_shadd, PT+L, and Churchmusicgirl - all are great suggestions.
2006-08-21 12:15:31 · update #2
I don't recommend doing the "regrets only" suggestion! This can lead to problems because sometimes guests don't receive the invite (it happens!). You won't know if they are attending by not phoning in the regret - or if they just didn't get the invite. You always want a way to account for each guest (esp. since you are paying for each guest to attend).
Anyway, I would recommend stating something like:
Time is of the essence! As you may be aware, we haven't had much time to plan! Therefore, your prompt RSVP via telephone to: xxx-xxx-xxxx would be most appreciated! If e-mail is more convenient, please feel free to contact us at xxxxxx. An RSVP by (date) would be greatly appreciated. We look forward to your response and hope you will be able to share this beautiful day with us!
2006-08-21 07:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people are going to consider the email / phone option tacky, but I figure that nowadays, you'd be thanked by environmentalists for saving trees! At least you aren't asking people to respond via Evite.com
Wording on the reply card might look like this (after the usual text about who and how many are attending):
The pleasure of your response is requested by September 25. You may mail this card back to us or give us the joy of hearing your voice by calling us at 555.123.9876
(It's a bit cheesy, but you get the drift.)
2006-08-21 07:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Email sounds a bit tacky and impersonal but I think by phone would still be polite. Just ask them to RSVP by phone and give the number- DO NOT, give a card or a mailer to mail it back- that will be the biggest clue ;)
2006-08-21 06:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still have time to send them out. If you do it in the next week or so. Unless you do not want to spend the money for the postage for them to send them back. I would not even include them then in the invites. You can include a note saying that your response is appreciated by phone or email. I think it's a bit tacky but it's your wedding and you do what you want to!
2006-08-21 06:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by weddingplanner06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point in having response cards printed at all if you aren't having them mailed back.
In lower left hand corner of the invitation itself, you have it say this four-line message using whatever RSVP deadline you've chosen and the full name(s) of the wedding host(s) answering the phone:
Kindly respond by phone
before the fifth of May
555.555.4948
Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Bridesparents
2006-08-21 08:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am also getting married in October, and in my invites i just put, please RSVP by phone, then listed the number.
my sister got married in April and she took the time to make response cards, address the little envelopes and put postage on them and less than half the people invited even did it. most of the people in the family just called anyway, so i just skipped a step.
2006-08-21 07:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by TN girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have people snail mail them anyway. Most people reply right away. It is easier to keep track of too. So start stuffing those envelopes and get the invites out ASAP :-)
2006-08-21 06:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by dudeman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Weddings become joyous celebrations
When family and friends join us as we take our vows.
Please email us at your earliest convenience.
(give email address)
We received a reply card like this and thought it was tasteful and elegant.
2006-08-21 07:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they can either email or call you regarding the response cards - that way they have every option available.
2006-08-21 06:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people do not return reply cards anyway. It might be easier to ask for regrets only. I would say something like:
If you are unable to share our special day, please phone or email so-and-so at such-and-such phone number or whoever@wherever.com by (give a date aout 2 weeks b4 the wedding).
Good Luck & Congratulations!
2006-08-21 06:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋