how do you try to ignore insults?

Question

my brothers are always makin fun of me and i feel really bad they make fun of me b/c i can't have a boyfiriend until im 15 and im barely 13 and i havent had a boyfriend and they have been little man whores since they were around my age and my sister is a skank and shes gonna be 15 already they call me a lesbian and an ugly ***** and say that no one is ever gonna go out with me because im so ugly what should i do i feel horrible!

Answer 1

OK, first of all, where are your parents with all this going on? They should not let your brothers and sister be sexually irresponsible and they should not allow them to be so mean to you. If your parents are neglectful you need to talk to some responsible adult about it like a school counselor or a minister or more responsible relative.

Second, remember that your sister is probably being so active in response to similar teasing when she was younger. Don't let your siblings push you into this dangerous and irresponsible behavior. They think if they call you ugly or a lesbian that you will run out and go with any guy you can get just to prove them wrong. DON'T FALL INTO THAT TRAP! You are too young for that sort of thing, and even when you feel old enough you should wait for someone you feel close to and can trust.

Finally, I'm sure you look just fine and your brothers are just being mean, but if you don't look the way you'd like remember that 13 is an awkward age where some parts of our body grow faster than others and you might look very different in a few years when everything catches up. I remember looking at young Tara Lapinski and thinking - "Gee I hope she grows into that face someday" and she did. She looked like a troll doll at the time but grew up to be a glamorous adult.

This is so important for you and how you grow up. Remember:

1] Talk to a responsible adult.
2] Don't jump off that bridge just because they call you chicken.
3] You are not done growing yet and might look very different in the future.
4] Wait until you're old enough and it's what you want to do. Then ALWAYS use protection.

Answer 2

First, let me just tell you that they are just saying this because they know that it bothers you. The same thing happens to lots of younger sisters and brothers, you are NOT ALONE. I didn't have a boyfriend til I was 16, and that was good, because it does not make sense to have one any younger than that.

I would tell you to try and tell them that this really makes your feelings hurt, that it makes you so sad, and you want them to stop. Maybe write them each a note and leave it on their bed. Try to say it when it is quiet in the house, when they are just sitting and watching tv, or when you are all eating dinner. If you can tell your mom or dad, maybe they could help. I know that you feel like there is nothing you can do, but remember that this will not last forever, that one day you won't have to listen to them any more, and they will probably even feel bad about what they said, once they get older. I used to call my little sister all sorts of terrible things when I was younger, and now it just makes me want to cry, ...I can't believe I was so mean, and I wish I could take it all back. Hang in there, you ARE IMPORTANT to this world, and don't ever forget that. God loves you, and pray to God to help you deal with your family, and to get through this hard time. Everything is going to be ok! God bless you!

Answer 3

Hey sweet heart

Darling your just a baby well, not a baby much to young for relationships like what your talking about. You have your whole life ahead of you for things like this, right now all you should being studing on is "School" and getting your education. I'm not saying that I didn't have crushes on boys when I was your age because I did, but I wasn't allowed to date either until I was 16 and I'm 34 now and the 13th of next month will be 15 years I have been married and I have a 7 year old son that's in the 1st grade this year.

When you become of the age to date guys I am sure your mother and father will talk to you about several other things about sexually transmitted things what to do to pertect your self from these things and many different things to do to keep yourself from getting pregnet until the right time comes.

Some of these things can not be cured and you will die from these things............I am sure you don't want this to happen, your parents don't either because they both love and care for you very much. Listen and do what they say because if they didn't care about you, they wouldn't say a thing to you at all about anything.

As far as your brothers goes makeing fun of you "ignor, them dear" they are just being ignorent. Show them that you care about your self and getting your education witch is extremely important to get a good paying job these days.

Answer 4

Trying is onething,but actually being able to is another. It seems like everytime I am actually having a good day... here comes my husband insulting me in someway. Nothing positive ever comes from his mouth to me anymore. I think he gets off hurting my feelings. Yet wonders why I don't want to sleep with him anymore. Oh I tried for a long time because I thought it was my duty as a wife, but all I could hear in my head was the insults and there I would go crying again. I'd rather he not even talk to me if all he's going to do is bring me down. Currently I am unemployed and when he starts in on me then I am upset and it's a little hard to go on an interview with swollen eyes let alone the heaviness in my heart. You know verbal abuse is sometimes worse than physical. I know I live it daily. I spend my time moving from room to room just to get away and have a little peace. Good Luck in trying to ignore it I have not been able to master that one myself.

Answer 5

where is your mom when this is happening? I have a 16 yr old and an 11 yr old daughter. I can guarantee you that this would NEVER be allowed to happen in my home. My 16 yr old is gorgeous and my 11 yr old is on her way to becoming a beautiful young lady. I dont allow my children to "date" until they are 16. My oldest turned 16 in June and loves going out with her friends. She has seen the crap that happens when boys and girls start going out too young and she is thankful I didnt allow it. (she hated me when she was younger) Now she and her friends hang out and everyone has a great time.

Dont let your siblings make you feel bad about yourself. And do not feel pressured by them to get a boyfriend. They sound like cruel mean brothers and sister ... just ignore them, One day they will grow up.

Answer 6

The best way is to laugh with them. Then smile and walk off like you have a secret that they don't know. It will drive them nuts and they will become more obsessed with the fact that you might be hiding something from them than bothering to insult you. Remember, it will take time to have an affect but the end result will be worth it.

Answer 7

oh dear girlat 13 not everyone looks their best,its part of growing up, the part that matters the most is whts inside the heart, yr bros are growign up too its typicla of them to tease, you, you should play the deaf and mute game, just shut yr ears to all they say,this will help you control yr temper and yr emotions as y grow up, and at 13 u shudnt be worrying abt boyfriends and going out, theres a time and age fr that, remember life is journey a hughway not a destination so enjoy growing up, have fun with yr friends.... and play the deaf and mute game with yr bros... they will soon grow out of their mannerisms. good luck

Answer 8

THE WAY PEOPLE TREAT OTHERS REFLECTS HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT THEMSELVES, AND YOU CAN TELL THEM THAT.
IT'S CALLED PROJECTION.
TELL THEM TO QUIT PROJECTING THEIR OWN INSECURITIES ON YOU.
WHEN THEY TELL YOU THAT NO ONE WILL DATE YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE UGLY, AS THEM IF THAT IS WHAT THEY ARE AFRAID OF.
YOU SHOULD FEEL SORRY FOR THEM. THEY ARE MISERABLE AND LONELY, SO THEY WANT TO TRY TO MAKE YOU FEEL THAT WAY SO THEY DON'T FEEL SO ALONE.
THEY WILL ONLY MAKE YOU FEEL THAT WAY IF YOU ALLOW THEM TO.
LOOK PAST THE PAIN, AND FOCUS ON THE WHY. FOCUS ON WHY THEY WANT YOU TO FEEL BAD.
DO THAT AND YOU WILL NOT FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELF, BUT RATHER FEEL BAD FOR THEM.

Answer 9

honey know who you are don't let anybody dictate to you who or what you are make your own goals out of life and fulfill them the more they say negative things the more you prove them wrong and NEVER let them see you hurt or cry stand tall and don't fall

GOD BLESS

Answer 10

they are family ignore them thats all you can do...or sneek up on them in there sleep and pour water, ketchup, mustard, etc. what ever you want on them...thats how i took care of my older brother when i was younger