me and by current boyfriend has been off and on since 9th grade im in the 12th now and he will leave me, go to another girl for about a month and then come crawlin back to me and my dumb *** always takes him back could somebody give me a hint on y he keeps doin this he always tell me oh i will never leave again and i love u but he does leave and i do have a big trust issue with him and he always tells me if we can't trust each other theres no relationship but don't u all think i should have a trust issue would't u??!! please fellas and ladies give me some advice cause im crazy about him and don't want to leave but if he keeps ****** up like this i mite just have to but it will b really hard!!
2006-08-21 05:59:11 · 13 answers · asked by Tee Boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl you don't want to hear the truth. I'm sure all your friends are probably telling you to break up with this guy but you won't. You probably defend him saying "but he says he wants to be with me and yadda yadda yadda...".
Well, let me tell it to you straight. Right now he is having fun. He has you and comes back to you b/c he knows you are easy to get with and you won't say "no". But when another girl says "yes" then he breaks up with you and stays with her a bit. Then if things go sour b/w them or he gets bored with her he knows you will always be there to take him back so right now he is living the good life. He is having his cake and eating it too in other words.
Look at it this way though...you are learning a lesson and it's all part of growing up. Just make sure you learn from it and use that knowledge so a guy doesn't do this to you again...especially when you hit college. lol
2006-08-21 06:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by unknowndiscovery 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the biggest part of a relationship....I don't think you trust him with all that he has done and you will never fully trust him as you should be able to. Thus the relationship is doomed forever. Find someone else that will love and respect you as you should be and then the trust thing will not be an issue and you will not have to think twice about someone leaving you for someone else. He is not mature enough to know what he wants and will probably cheat on girls for along time to come. I would get out now before he ruins any more of your life. Find someone that is worth your time. I know you like him and all but this is when you should cut your loss and run to high ground.
2006-08-21 13:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I don't understand is how he can expect you to NOT have trust issues, if he keeps leaving and coming back like that. The next time he leaves, tell him don't bother coming back. You've been dealing with this for four years? Move on hon, it's time.
2006-08-21 13:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him. From what I read, he's not trustworthy, so why should he give you the trust speech? He'll do the same thing over and over again 'cause he knows that you're gonna take him back. Break it off and find yourself another guy who's worth lovin'.
2006-08-21 13:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by ginie_in_a_bottle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's showing you how he is right now. He isn't worth it. Let him have all the other girls. It will be hard but there are better guys out there that you can trust and that will not mess around on you. You'll be graduating soon, enjoy your life.
2006-08-21 13:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and he eats it too. He wnats to jkeep you around because he knows you will stay with hima nd love him while he gets his kicks on the side. You should have to go through this, but the only way of knwoing that is figuring it out for yourself.
2006-08-21 13:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by someoneelse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he comes back because he knows you will..you are his door mat...there is no love from him for you...it comes down to he can not be alone...so he just tests the waters.. and when he is done he comes back to you because he knows he can... you just need to get your confidence up a little and kick him to the curb..you still have plenty of opportunities...you are in the 12th grade...enjoy it don't waste your time on that loser
2006-08-21 13:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by turner32542 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to graduate with honors, girl! As hard as it is, you need to close your shop for business and move on right along, with dignity & honor.
Don't let someone step all over you like that! That is no way to live. You need to say to yourself, I am so fabulous he doesn't deserve me!!
2006-08-21 13:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by lovelymanet 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont trust him. he will keep doing that because he knows that you will be there for him again. tell him if he does that one more time you are going to leave him.
2006-08-21 13:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does it because he can. You keep letting him. Stop kidding yourself. You know you can't trust him. Dump him. Yes, it will be hard, but life is sometimes hard.
2006-08-21 13:05:43 · answer #10 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋