things in my life has bin happening in a complicated way,a friend who i dot know if i can call her a mere friend or intimate friend am confused?i have known this gal 4 weeks and alot has bin happening quite good,together we used to smooch or kiss we did it like 3 occassions and the last took 1 hour and i enjoyed it.we were just friends but i was carried away by her beauty but all the sudden this gal after attending a very powerful crusade were people had to confess of their deeds,she decides that she has stopped the wrong doings we were doing like smooching or kissing because she confessed and gave her life to christ.Now she says that we should start a new life without involving smooching or kissing and that i should find another gal whom i can do that with and just remain friends and no strings attached.Should i take her advise or wait till the right time comes and this is wat happened wen i was going out with this gal a time back.I dot known if its me or i take things to fast.
2006-08-21 05:50:19 · 9 answers · asked by ajay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Patience is a virtue. If she just coverted to Christianity she will have a long period of conflicting emotions and overwhelming guilt for things deemed "bad" by the church. I'm a christian but have never paid much attention to what the "church" had to say, so I lived my life according to my own values as a moral woman not as a mindless sheep, but I digress.
If you really like this girl then let her know. Smootching and kissing are not evil nor are they Satan's plesures. Kissing an a natural expression of love and affection between two people. But if it makes her uncomfortable then dont do it. Be with her show her you can handle a pletonic relationship without all the physical stuff then when she decides she ready for a mature relationship you'll be right there waiting for her.
But give her space give her time, support her choices and be a friend.
Good luck sweety.
2006-08-21 06:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by Alpha Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mature love will take more than "kissing and smooching". Why don't you try going to one of the crusades with her. Maybe you could learn more about why she confessed and gave her life to Christ. There are ways you can give your life to Christ and enjoy kissing, smooching and even sexual intercourse. It is called "MARRIAGE". You have much learning to do or you could just leave her and continue to waste your time in meaningless physical entanglements with various females and addictions. I hope you make the right choice. Best wishes.
2006-08-21 13:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's my take on girls in this situation. Sometimes girls feel guilty or have other negative feelings when they are too sexually aggressive. According to society, 'good girls' are not supposed to be sexually aggressive. (She might also have some emotional issues, such as a history of abuse). As a result, sometimes these girls bury their heads in 'religion' or even start relationships so they will not be labeled as a 's-l-u-t.' Sorry if I sound cynical.
It sounds like you're interested in this girl for the smooching. If that's the case, then it sounds like you already know what to do. If you have a sincere romantic interest in her, then communicate that to her and see how she responds.
2006-08-21 13:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure what u are really asking but i think that u should just do as she says or ask her if she is sure thats what she wants to do u can never force a woman to do what she doesn't want to do just take things slow maybe u will find that in friendship u can develop a relationship based on being friends and companions and either a beautiful relationship happens or a really great friend emerges from all of this
2006-08-21 13:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by ndemby05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she told u to back off, so u should respect he wish. be there for her though. if she became too religious all of a sudden she might be messing with the wrong crowd. just be a real friend and don't pressure her into anything. if she wants it, she'll come back.
2006-08-21 12:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by Unicorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should respect what she wants but I don't see anything wrong with smooching
2006-08-21 12:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She changed her life, it has nothing to do with you, she just wants you to respect her now that she has found Christ.
2006-08-21 13:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not u! u jus like to do wut every girl wants in a man she jus doesnt no that and u should have jus moved on forget about her!
2006-08-21 12:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn thats messed up. if she dont want any, dont giive her any.
2006-08-21 13:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by lexusrydr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋