I have been going out with numerous guys and in the end all they want is to sleep with me.What should i do when I am looking for the perfect guy?Please help.
2006-08-21 05:40:53 · 48 answers · asked by Angela 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy you are looking for is one you will always reject because he isn't gutsy enough and would be weak enough to actually care about you.
2006-08-21 05:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by Gangantuan-Megalopolis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you hear the joke about the building of men with the elevator that stopped at different floors. The top floor was where the perfect men were; but when the elevator doors opened there was nothing there. I am afraid there is more truth than fiction to that joke. I am the only person I know who is perfect and all I do is work like a donkey every day and don't have a life. Suggest you go for a 90% model and cut your losses.
2006-08-21 05:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't say that all guys just want to sleep with you. Perfect guy is definately not the word. There is no such term as perfect guy. there has to be defect otherwise you know he is faking it. You have to choose your date more wisely. HAve u ever dared to date a midget or an ugly person. If not then how do u know how they feel about u? they might not ask for sex. Charm of a person is the main thing which should be the chemistry between two love buds.
As for me there is never been a chick who can handle a spontanoeus dude like me.
2006-08-21 05:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by nick360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop sleeping with them. Do you want a rep for being easy? Inform your date from the start that there will be no sex. tell your date what you expect. Stay firm on your decision. by the way, there is no such thing as a perfect guy. So, being a hot girl will not get you a perfect guy, but lots of horny guys for a hot girl.
2006-08-21 05:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ntrigue1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are young, and if you are dating men your own age...what do you expect? Because of testosterone, all men, especially young men, want sex pretty much any way they can get it. As for your quest for the perfect guy, you would be wise to adopt a more realistic goal. There is NO SUCH THING as a perfect person. All human beings are imperfect and even the most desirable male will have flaws that you will find irritating. In the words of Dr.Phil, "Get real."
2006-08-21 05:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Angela,
I have a question for you, about yourself. I have found many women asking this same question, and have a few for you:
1) Do you look for guys in the right places? In other words, pick them up at bars, frat houses, on the internet? Or, do you look in places like libraries, churches, etc.? Not that every guy in either place fits the stereotype, but the stereotype exists for a reason.
2) Do you dress yourself (or hang out with other women who dress themselves) to show as much skin or body as possible, or dress suggestively to show off your physical features? Men who respond to those cues the most strongly are likely to be after just that - skin and body.
3) Do you place yourself into situations where intellectual or more meaningful conversation is possible (libraries, coffee shops, gyms, jazz / piano bars, symphony) or in places where it's nearly impossible (loud bars, loud bands, crowded raves, etc.)?
Always remember that the kind of place where you are will tend to attract the kind of guys that want to be there. If where you are is filled with tons of women who will give out, then even if you're not that kind of woman, guys will take you for one.
Good luck!
-j.
2006-08-21 05:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by classical123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
99.9% of guys all they think about is sex. I know that they had some stats out about how much guys think about sex in a day and it was pretty high up there. Are you giving off a certain vibe, wear certain clothes, etc that you want to give them sex? Some guys get the impression from some girls by how they act, dress, etc. It could just not be them...think about it
2006-08-21 05:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by i_lovethis_bar03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a good guy I would say and I have dated girls for months without so much as a kiss. Not to say I would not want more but I like to respect a girl and her wishes. If you set that up as somethign that you are not giveing out then you will wash away about half the bad guys. Then the other half of the bad guys will stick in there for a little while just to see if you are serious about not giving in quickly. Be careful on cloths you were not to intise them to want just your body. Make them want you for who you are. You mind should be just as attractive to them as your body. I believe that the body just get the door open the mind keeps them there. I have been on several dates where that is the case for me as well. I am not so interested in casual sex as I am in a long term relationship. I have not found someone as of yet to fill that role but I am sure that when I do she will be just as attractive to me in her mind as in her body. I like to think that I will find someone that will be smart and funny and want to talk. Good looks only goes so far and so you have to make sure they understand that they are getting the whole package and not just your body. Not always easy to convey but that is what you need to do. Keep them at arms reach and don't flirt to much at first. If it is working out to be that they like who "you are" and not what you look like then you can be yourself and see where it goes. Good Luck!
2006-08-21 05:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place, that is why guys want to go out with the girl...coz' she's hot! Guys always think that when girls are hot, they are eazy. So if you don't want guys who are only interested to sleep with you, try not to dress so hot. Apart from dressing, I think the way you carry yourself is also very important. It can send the wrong message.
2006-08-21 05:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part, it is human nature to want to get physical with someone who is very attractive. To find the perfect guy, all you should do is keep looking. Sooner or later you'll weed out all of the losers and find someone who wants more than sex.
2006-08-21 05:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by J-Rod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking. You will find him. Not all guys are like that. Just the kind that you have been attracted to. Change the initial requirements for a guy and you will find a different type.
2006-08-21 05:47:02 · answer #11 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋