How do i make my dad trust me?

Question

im 15 and my dad is always thinking that evrey time i leave da house im goin to meet sum boy and have sex...even when i go to the park around the corner he drives by there to see if im there and embarreses me in front of my friends...all my friends moms and dads think i must have ran away or did sumthing bad cuz da way he is always on my back and i have never got
CAUGHT doin anything for him not to tust me how do i make him trust me?

Answer 1

1) ghetto talk? wtflip? That is far from ghetto talk ppplz! If you got a ghetto talk email, you wouldn't even be able to respond coz youd have no idea what they were sayin!.

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2) The ironic thing.. is that the more he does this, the more that you probably WILL do something he doesn't want you to do.

I am one to say that you can't earn trust.. either you have it or you don't. you take it away, but you don't give it. I gues I'm odd.

3) Anyway, there's not too much more that you can do to "earn" your father's respect. More than likely, he's just really scared and is simply overprotective of you. Imagine if you had a 15 yr old daughter - it'd be difficult. Especially if you knew what he knew.. about how guys treat girls. He probably sees older guys staring at you.. hears comments even.

Just remember, it's probably not you he has distrust in, it's probably the other people/kids.

And also remember, the way that he treats you.. has a lot to do with his childhood itself. If he had experiences... he's probably freaking out. He's worried about the things he knows that could happen, not about the things he doesn't know about.

SOLUTION: The only solution I can think of is... Myself, I'd work on the part about him stopping by. Sit down with mom AND dad if you have both.. if not., hopefully him and another adult of some sort. #1 Ask him if you've done anything significant to break his trust with you. (make it a short question, don't blab on.. let him do the talking on this one) #2 Tell him how you are embarassed.. see if you can work on a compromise. Being a 15 yr old girl is difficult enough without having him making it worse. #3 show him respect., tell him "i understand that you feel" yada yada yada. and don't say "but., I feel". Say I understand this, you undersatnd that.. how about we compromise..

Ask him to get a cell.. text message you and you can text him back. This way your friends don't know who it is.. you can just say it's another friend or whatever. It sounds as if you have always been truthful to him. I think it's time for him to give you the trust you've earned and not be driving by all the time. It could mean cutting down the amount of time you have with your friends.. i.e. home by 7 intead of 8 if he can't come stop by and check in on you.. but to me.. that'd probably be worth it. I'm with you on the being embarassed part.

And he has to realize... if you're going to do something, you'll find a way to do it whether he agrees or not. Either he's done a good job or not in being a parent. Being aware of what you are doing IS helpful., but being too aware can be very bad. Hopefully he will realize this now instead of later. It's a difficult balancing act.

And I'm not going to sit here and say you're too young to understand. There's parents that are in their 40s that don't even understand how to raise a child. Give me a break! So you could very well understand.. the hardest part.. is understanding HIM and vice versa. Wish yout he best :) - hugs.

Answer 2

looks like he is the overprotective dad. y'all need to have a long talk. Tell him that he can do that for all he wants but should you decide to have sex then he cant stop you. he can only follow you much but he needs to let go off you otherwise you dont have a life anymore. As for the embarrassment i am really sorry. Tell him that he can trust you and you need to keep that promise that you are trustworthy. or may be ask him what did you do to make him not trust you.

Answer 3

Maybe your ghetto talk (type) makes him think your someoone's baby girl. Or he remembers what he was like when pretty 15 y/o girls were around, and he wants to spare you that misery. Give him a break and let him hover over you a bit. He loves you and wants to keep you safe.

Answer 4

oh dear,,feel sorry for ya ,as i can relate my experiences with u,as i have person who did just that to me,but he was a husband,i guess those men needs help.they maybe beein,too over possessive,suspicious, or too critical or even guilt of have done the things that they suspect others of do!it really pisses me off,so if i were u,i would not mind his behavior,as long as i knew where i stood,and knew how to safeguard myself,,also try to talk over to ur mom about it,,my husband used to behave this way towards our daughters,16 and 22 yr old,and i ve always stand by their sides,but,i regret,for in the end.they turn up into a bimbo!irresponsible and uncaring one,who just think about guys,guys and themselves,so,maybe that;s what ur father fear about u,try to explain things to him nicely,and to ur mom,let her talk over with him,and make sure,that u won't end up like my daughters,and disappoint,ur parents..good luck

Answer 5

You can't make him trust you, you have earn your trust. Maybe in a few years you'll understand because ur much too young now.

PS
That ghetto talk doesn't help any.

Answer 6

ur dad is just over protective.talk to him and explain him the fact that u r mature enough to tackle and handle ur life well...and just leave the rest for him to decide...sooner or later he will understand u when he develops confidence in u...
try to do what he tells u to do..this will develop his faith in u...when u dont oppose his restrictions then he will understand u...best of luck!!!

Answer 7

u could try satying in the house for a while then ask ur dad y hes so worried about u especally if ur not gonna do what he thinks ur gonna do

Answer 8

i know it's aggrevating but he's just worried about you don't fight with him about it maybe u guys should have a real father daughter conversation about what you do and don't and how you feel you really do need your space sometimes u gotta grow up sooner or later

Answer 9

Be glad he cares about you and maybe try to show him some love and respect.

Answer 10

Ask him why he does this to do and why does he always embaresses you like that?