her name is desiree`
i feelwrong because im 15 and have a baby sshould i feel wrong is it right?
2006-08-21 05:11:32 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can not feel this way, if for no other reason than you don't want your daughter feeling like you regret her. Whatever you are feeling, you have to get over it and don't let it bother you. You have a baby now- you can't erase that, so there is no reason to ask if it was a mistake. Love what you have, whether it's "wrong" or not.
2006-08-21 05:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Milana P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing, and please dont take that as sarcasm, 15 is a very young age to bear that much responsabilty. it would be great if nature didnt turn on the ability to have babies until each individual were ready to handle it. unfortunately many girls end up in the same situation you are now in. assuming you have decided to keep and raise your baby, I can only hope that you have a strong system of support from your family, and that you will look for programs that can help you such as parenting classes. I've been a parent for 24 years now thru three different sons and I'm still learning all the time. A baby is a wonderfull gift in a persons life but other things must be taken into account such as your need to get an education and finish growing yourself. looking back I dont think anyone should think about having a child till they have a career under thier belt so they can provide the care that a child needs, certainly not before the age of 30 or so, but things dont always happen that way... if you are considering adoption then that is an option that is out there too, and sometimes it is the right choice even when it's a difficult one. because it gives you a chance to do the things that you need to do for your self and gives your baby a chance to grow up in a family that is usually very well screened and capable of providing every advantage. you have deep soul searching to do to find the right path to take, but whats done is done, dont beat yourself up over it, next time take precautions so you dont end up with another baby that your not ready for. there is plenty of time to be a mom further down the road. take care of your newborn and take care of yourself. and stay in school, because rather you keep your baby or not, you must have an education, repeat, you must have an education. good luck and best wishes, I hope things turn out well for you
2006-08-21 05:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Timothy C 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well, its not a matter of wrong or right any more. What is done is done, and while you may be very young, you can still be a great mother. Just remember that nothing is about you any more. EVERYTHING is about Desiree' Now- and if that is what you are willing to devote the rest of your life to, then no, its not wrong.
Despite your age, you can still show your daughter the love, attention and effection she needs, and hopefully you have some help financially becasue we all know baby's can live off love itself. Good Luck- If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to email me!
2006-08-21 05:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by nat_00420 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong that you have a baby at 15.
It's easy to to get discouraged and feel helpless because society views teen pregnancy as the ruination of your life. They treat it like you somehow messed up and can no longer live the life you were intended to.
It's ok, that you have a baby and your life is not over. There are so many things that can happen in life and you get to choose what they are. It's possible to go to school when you have a child. It will be easier if you give yourself time to rest and adjust and heal (having a baby takes a lot out of you).
Just remember that your life does not have to conform to anybody else's time schedule. You go to school; when you go. You have kids; when you have them. It's not a race and there is no finish line. There is no predetermined path that a womans life should follow.
Don't listen to Timothy C.
I'm not calling him wrong; but his thinking will bind you in chains.
That's not for you.
2006-08-21 05:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister had and kept a child when she was 15. At long as you have a solid support structure and will realize your life has become our life you will do okay. My mom and dad supported her and the child through getting an education , and my sister is okay. Her daughter is having the unfortunate experience of having a 10 year gap between her and her siblings and is feeling neglected. In alot of ways she never got the love and attention a child deserved because her mother was a child.
If you think you can really be unselfish and can get the father to go along, you may want to consider adoption. I gave a child up when I was 16, when he was 7 days old and it was the most mature and best decision for me and him. His parents are able to give him opportunities I was never able to. This is still a very viable option for a 3 month old.
2006-08-21 05:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by 35 and loving it! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you definalty have a hard life ahead. Being a single mom that young is hard. I know I got pregnant at 17. I guess the question should be, why do you feel wrong? Are you questioning the fact that you could give her a better life if she was with a different family? Like adoption? If so this is still something you can think about doing. Me, my son will 8 life is hard with being a single mom. You need to make sure that you get your life together. GO TO SCHOOL!! GO TO COLLEGE!! You will have to provide for your child. Also whatever you do don't have another one. It's already hard to have one, don't add another one to the mix. PROTECTION, PROTECTION, PROTECTION! Get on Birth COntrol. Use Condoms always! Just remember you have to protect yourself because you are the only one who will!!!!
2006-08-21 05:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, a baby is always a blessing. Even if you can't see it right now. I don't know if you believe in God, but I do, so I'm going to say this. God gave you this baby for a reason. I really believe that he gave you this baby because it's part of your purpose. Even though you're young and the situation may seems impossible, know that it will get better. Enjoy your baby. Remember, there are millions of women out there who try and try to get pregnant and can't. One day your baby will grow up and be so thankful for a mother who went through all she did but still loved and cared for her. Be around as many supportive people as you can. There is a lot of help out there for young mothers.
2006-08-21 05:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it's not right but there's nothing you can do about it now. I got pregnant with my first child at 15 and had him when I was 16. I'm now 24 with an 8 year old. So what. There isn't a thing in this world you can do but love and care for that child
2006-08-21 05:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 is extremely young to have a child! but she's here now and you have to do your very best to take care of her. Where are your parents or guardian because you will definitely need help. at 15 you can't really do anything but go to school. whatever you do think about the life of your child first. If you feel you cant handle the pressure you need to think about adoption.
DON'T do anything crazy like leave your baby in an alley. you're young but be smart about all situations!!
2006-08-21 05:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by Bambi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are loving and caring for the baby it should be OK. I hope you have someone to help you with the baby. Babies are a BIG responsibility. You really should have thought about the possibility of getting pregnant BEFORE you had sex. Live and learn my dear! But a mothers love is a bond that can never be broken. Good luck and congratulations.
2006-08-21 05:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by sweetestthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋