Is Timing Everthing?

Question

Girl tells a guy "No" when he asks her out on a date. instead they just become friends. Months go by & more then once over the phone she plane out implies she has thought about going out "a date" nothing is set in stone but a little more time goes by, maybe a month or so & when the guy asks the girl out again she gets up set and says "No" why you asking me again I told you "No" before where just friends . He replys " I know but you said some things over the phone & I thought maybe you had a change of heart? She replies "No" that's just what I was feeling at that time. Now to all the ladies out there what does this mean? Maybe timing is everthing? I take whatever comes to your mind.

Answer 1

Timing is important but it's not everything.
Women are confusing and confused. It sounds like she hasn't found what she's looking for. She sees a lot in you but you don't quite fit the bill, but you may someday or you may never do it for her.
Girls are often looking for something specific. They want it all: good looks, passion, romance, excitement, strength, security, thoughtfulness. Unfortunately all of the qualities they are looking for don't usually fit together in one convenient package. So they go for the jerk cause he's "hot" and "so cool" and then they end up getting hurt. When this happens they change their mind or at least momentarily until the next "hottie" comes along and so the drama rolls on.

Dude, don't get hung up over her too much. She could be the one but more often she's not. Be her friend but get on with your life. If it was meant to be she will come around and it will happen in time.

Answer 2

You could have a user on your hands. Some girls like to have guy friends because they know they'll keep hanging around waiting to see if someday they might get a chance. Perhaps she felt that you were losing interest, so she had to give you some hope in order to keep you at her beck and call - even though she was never interested.

Do you ever pay for both of you when you go out as "friends?" Does she use you as an emotional dumping ground? I mean, does she constantly tell you all her problems, but doesn't really seem to listen to yours? Does she ask you to do favors for her often? Do you buy her gifts, and, if so, does she not buy any for you?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, you probably have a user on your hands. Don't let this girl keep using you. Find a girl who appreciates your attention.

Answer 3

This isn't about timing..... this is about insecurity.

I was in a relationship where I always had open arms for my girlfriend. She would leave me, come back, cheat on me, sleep with other people.... but she would ALWAYS come back.

A lot of women have a guy they can go to.
Because he's a softie.

That no matter what, he's going to love her,
he's going to make her feel like she's never at fault.

And..... when you're in a relationship like that,
it's very vaguely implied that you're not, even though, you are.

It's not about timing, it's about owning up to things.
Maybe if the guy would just state his intentions,
and tell her that what he REALLY wants from her
is for her to be with him, it would pressure her to make a choice.

Yeah, I said it, pressure her.
The nice guys never pressure the girl because they don't want to hurt her. But if you never pressure her, you'll never get anywhere with her. If you're perfectly fine living on that "I wish you were my girlfriend" thing like I was for a year, that's fine. But it's going to end in disaster.

I mean, if the guy DIDN'T want to be with her, why would he try so hard. Why would he make such a special effort, when she won't even reciprocate.

Honestly, women like this are the worst. They take advantage of nice guys who set no rules. But watch, the second you start setting rules they shape up.

And if they don't, then you'll see... they weren't fit for you anyways. See how it works out?

If she was really able to, and really wanted to, she would. But if she can't..... she won't.

Just stop being her plaything for a second, and start setting some rules, and some limits, and YOUR input, YOUR feelings on the whole thing.

Love is a two-way thing, it doesn't work unless both of you are in it.

Answer 4

It's not 'everything', but it sure plays an important role. Feelings can change especially when you're not committed yet. Even the slightest most unimportant thing can change how we feel towards certain men, and sometimes, yes, in very short periods. Take careful steps and make your move at the very instant she's giving you a good signal. I hope you two will work out eventually, good luck!

Answer 5

OMG:: YES!!! Timing is SO everything. I was in a relationship once- a happy one I thought... and this guy asked me out. I said NO WAY.. i had a boyfriend. 2 years go by and that happy boyfriend I was with and I ended our relationship and I run into the other guy... He asked me out again and I say yes... years go by and here I am happily married to the guy I turned down many years ago.

Answer 6

The girl is your friend and that is all she is ever going to be. Look for love somewhere else. Generally, timing is everything; but that is irrelevant to resolving this situation. If you want a more intimate relationship, you will have to find someone else. Perhaps it's time you stop wasting so much time on this girl and pursue someone more amenable to your goals.

Answer 7

timing is everything, but only if its digital.

women, youre on youre own here chap. they change their mind like us men change our socks (twice a week then) and theres no rhyme or reason for it, so cease all futile activity and enjoy the moment... if she is your friend, she will be for a long time, and dont be in a hurry to get all nasty with her, it'll ruin a friendship, and things will never be the same again... and youll be that little bit more lonely.

Answer 8

she's playing with your emotions and possibly sweet talking you for the atention she is feeding off likely you are giving her cause you do have stronger feelings for her then she does you but she's using you....be her friend or dont..either way dont expect more there from it WOMEN AS MEN KNOW IN SECONDS IF THEY WANT YOU OR DONT WANT YOU AND IF DONT THEN
WANNA BE FRIENDS THEY ARE STATING IT CLEARLY "YOU ARENT MY TYPE"

women have no clue what they want "as many have said above even themselves" as a man we some how manage to keep our insanity inspite of them and leave when we cant take the head games any longer and cheaters ...dont stay there either

Answer 9

It sounds like you are someone she trusts and talks to about everything. She just wants you as a friend.

Answer 10

Yep, if the timing isn't set right, it's not going to run very well at all.