ok so my stepmom BEATS my little baby sister up, practically. i don't know if you'd consider it beating. my little sister is only 2 years old and whenever she makes little accidents my stepmom gets out the spatula and whips her repeatedly.. its horrifying. what should i do? i'm not going to the police b/c personally i wouldn't want to get whipped myself.
2006-08-21 05:07:29 · 33 answers · asked by eve 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
ok well it's more like a 'disciplinary action' but i just got so mad i call it beating.
my dad is usually at work.. and yes he's offended by how she hits my little sister, but we're asians, lol, so it's like it's necessary.
2006-08-21 05:39:58 · update #1
If you are being serious then you need to get some authorites involved. that's cruel.
2006-08-21 05:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's to teach discipline-no problem-sometimes you have to learn the hard way-and learn it, while your young-ME!!-I was spanked when I was little-I thought it was unfair-but it did come in handy. Remember, there is a fine line between discipline and abuse-if the reprimand is more serious than what it should and you think it is affecting your sister mentally or physically-you can't just sit there and enjoy the ride...you need to get up off, of your as s and take action-the only way for evil to spread is by a good person doing nothing about it. There are hot lines you can call; keep a note in detail about the situation, and even get a camera and hide it-so while she is being "beaten"-you can record it and show evidence-without it, you won't get far-or just sitting on your as s.
2006-08-21 07:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an anonymous call to child protective services. If you don't know the number, call 411 or call the health department. Then call them and tell them you know for a fact that there is child abuse going on in a home. They will come out and investigate. They may not do something the first time if they don't find anything and of course if the 2y/o doesn't speak. But after several calls, they will be forced to do something. They may even ask you what's going on. Act like you are frightened to answar, which you are because you don't want a beating. This will alert them without you saying anything to them that something is going on. It is illegal for them to ignore these calls. Somebody will do something. You have a respnsibility to help that little baby. Do it.
2006-08-21 05:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are and you say your dad knows about it and hasn't done anything. It would be easy to suggest that you tell them if they carry on you will report them, but as you say you will end up having the same treatment. It shouldn't matter what your ethnicity is, there is never an excuse for someone hitting a child. I consider it child abuse and I wonder what she will do next to physically chastise you both. It will be hard for you to report her, but it will be for the best in the long run, she may be able to get help, mind you,your dad is as much to blame as he allows it to continue. Please report this before it goes even further. In the UK we have childline which is an anonymous phoneline for young people to discuss things anonymously, don't know here you are living. if you cannot do this, is there a member of your family you can talk to who may be able to help? or a teacher ? Good luck with this and take care xx
2006-08-23 09:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you call the child abouse hotline, they will come to investigate. Yes it's true you may get a beating for it, but don't you feel an obligation to protect your younger sister? If Child Protective Services feels there is abuse going on, you and your sister will be removed from the home. That means no more beatings. If you are too afraid of your step mother, then set up a safety net for yourself. Find a friend who you can stay with.
2006-08-21 05:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should talk to ur dad about it, he should have a big say all this. that is too much for a two year old what she should be doing is popping her little hand, or a pop on the butt nothing like beating. thats abusive u should report the woman. i know i wouldnt want to get whipped, but i wouldnt let it go on any longer even if it risked me getting my but tore up. shes only two u got to protect her from harm, and that includes spatulas. u know its wrong so either speak up to her, ur dad, or the authorities. my mom says she should be reported to childrens services, she even says that shouldnt be done. not even to a grown child, not with a spatula.
2006-08-21 05:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Carlino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is seriously going to tramatize your lil sis...you need to get help for her right away call social services take pics of your lil sisters bruises or cuts to use as evidence against her she cant hurt you if shes locked up..but get help fast..your stepmom might change her mind one of these days and use something worse than a spatula and really injure ur sister
2006-08-21 05:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by tiffany b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are talking about domestic violence here, right?
Just because it's a family member doesn't mean that it's not domestic violence. How would you feel if the girl died? Call the cops if you think it's that serious. Think about it this way: if it were a neighbor who was doing this to her child would you call them? It seems like you should be even more interested in protecting the safety of a child who is a member of your family than a neighbor.
(If my brother was beating his wife, for example, I would call the police. No question.)
Where's your dad in all this? He's a parent too, right? He should probably be involved in this parenting/potty training practice.
2006-08-23 19:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is extreme. I consider it abuse but a lot of people don't. Two years old is awfully young. What in the world could she do that is THAT bad. Is your baby sister your stepmom's baby or her stepdaughter? I think the only thing you can do is get your dad involved.
2006-08-24 11:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should either call the police or tell a teacher or counselor at school. If you do not report this, and it is bad enough to be abuse, you are doing the WRONG THING. Your sister's whole life could be ruined due to this abuse, and you're not going to speak up?!
2006-08-21 09:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Document the episodes and tell your dad. that is against the law. She needs parenting classes. Or try to keep her away from her as much as possible. There is also a hot line for abuse. Dept. of social Services should be called. You give me her name and address I will definitely call. I know it is not safe to give me that info so do it yourself. It is confidential. If your serious add more to your question.
Be Careful
2006-08-21 05:17:17 · answer #11 · answered by always 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋