I just acted like a complete jerk,and that's not me.?

Question

this girl(who sometimes i felt she doesn't like to talk to me because i am from diffrent race )came to say good bye because it was her last day in this job and i just smiled and said goodbye,not shaking hand ,not wishing luck...
ugh,i act like an a...h...
i shouldn't do that,i know that my conscience would kill me, it started nagging me now.

Answer 1

Get over it.

It's not like you can do anything about it now, so don't feel bad.

Just try to be nicer in the future.

Answer 2

If you can get in touch with her, just tell her that you were at a loss for words, UNTIL she left, and you regret not sending her off at least with some good wishes for her and that you enjoyed working with her. If you like her, as in dating-like, then invite her out for a cup of coffee, or for donuts, or something like that so she can tell you about her new job, and you can "catch her up on all the gossip." Perhaps she is also interested in you, and maybe she thought you didn't like her in that way because of the race difference. Anyway, if you two aren't interested in each other, you could still be great friends! If you can't get in touch with her, well, don't sweat it, you honestly were tongue-tied at the time, and didn't mean any ill-will by not saying anything more. You are sweet to even be thinking about it, maybe she sensed this thoughtfulness in you, which could be why she came up to you to tell you goodbye. I hope you get to see her again!

Answer 3

definite. about 10 years in the past I went to a short nutritionchronic-in position to get slightly something that i might want to discover the money for with my very last $2. there have been no dollar Menus then, issues were kinda affordable nevertheless (God i think so old saying that). So I ordered and my comprehensive got here as a lot as more desirable than what I had. i became so embarrassed, and disillusioned because the fee became diverse on the marquee. an exceedingly sensible guy offered to pay, yet i became so embarrassed, I basically left. there became yet all over again years later that i became at a nail salon and my debit card didn't wish to artwork. So I noted as my brother to deliver me some funds and he became kinda taking lengthy (because he went to the incorrect position). And this fairly sensible lady offered to pay and promises me her volume to pay her decrease back. My brother ultimately confirmed up yet i assumed that became very sweet of her. in certain situations i imagine about those marvelous strangers and pray that their kindness has blessed their lives. and thanks to that, i won't be able to hesitate to help someone in want.

Answer 4

If you have her contact information, send her some flowers, nothing fancy, simple bouquet with a card, maybe explaining that you were under pressure for something that needed to be turned in and your head wasn't clear or that you were having a personal problem and didn't think before you acted but that you ment to wish her well. Good Luck Buddy!!

Answer 5

if you ask me, you didn't do anything wrong? you smiled and said goodbye! it doesn't sound like you owe her anything more then a simple good bye. Its not like you two had anything in common other than a job so who cares?. I think you acted just fine.
she treated you in way that all she deserved was the fairwell you gave her.
I think you acted correctly so stop worrying! im sure she isn't!!!!!!

its nice to know that there are still good people like you out there who still care about other peoples feelings =)

Answer 6

I do that sometimes. I go through a situation and then I replay the whole thing over and over wishing I had done things differently.

Truth is, most people aren't as sensitive as we think. She probably didn't even notice. And if she did, just let her know you're sorry if you sounded rude, but you had absolutely no intention of it. And then tell her how much you like her. It'll smooth things over really fast. (Girls like genuine compliments.)

Answer 7

You did fine, you're not a jerk. I too did it to people I use to work with, but they also knew I never cared for thier lying two faced @ss either. Seriously if you weren't good friends goodluck is all you needed to do. Unless the appropiate send off is back flips and cart wheels.

Answer 8

Forget it. You were polite and if you were not really friends she has forgotten all about it. If she has given you her phone number call her and tell her you are sorry that you did not wish her "Good luck" and say it when you are talking to her. Then let it go at that.

Answer 9

Well...
If you have you're phone number/cell number.
Call her and politely leave a message like "We're all going to miss you here and I'm glad we had a chance to meet. I'm just calling to wish you success. I hope we can stay in touch.
Goodbye _____"

Trust me it'll get you major brownie points. girls understand that guys aren't that talkative in public, but by calling her she'll really appreciate your thoughtfulness

Answer 10

Yes, I agree - that was not the best way to handle the situation.

That being said; you made a mistake, you're only human. Forgive yourself.

Now, can you do anything to correct the situation? If so, do it. If not, ask yourself what the REAL problem is, find a way to make it right for you, learn from it, and, (I repeat), forgive yourself so you can move on.

God bless you with peace. :)
~Amen.

Answer 11

Is she already gone? If not, then find her and hug her and say sorry for your reaction earlier.(or just shake her hand). Tell her good luck and you wish her well. If she is already gone, then try to find her number and apologize for your rudeness. Its OK to feel guilty. Good luck and don't worry about it too much.