We are getting married on Friday, and both of us are pretty much depressed right now! We think it is the stress of work, and all the overwhelming things that come along with a wedding, like family in town and decision making and all that.
We are excited to get married, are very in love, and know we are making the right decision...so what the heck is going on with us?!
Has this happened to anyone else?
2006-08-21 04:46:58 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yes, its a very stressful time for you right now. once the day gets here and gets over with, im sure you will be back to being your happy selves! congrats!
2006-08-21 04:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanine G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two months before our wedding, my husband was a part of some scheme involving his workplace. He was a supervisor to some wood reel plant in alabama, and some men tried to get his job by making mistakes that he didn't catch in time. They didn't fire my husband, because they knew that there could be a lawsuit. So, they gave him the job that he was on before he was a supervisor, a $4 cut in his wages. Now, I had already bought my wedding dress, made wedding spot arraingements, cake makers, caterers, and everything else, basically sent out invitations and everything. Two months before our wedding we had to start all over again because he was making less money, and we ended up having the simple courthouse ceremony, which is fine because I love him greatly, but we stressed over everything finances, the car being payed off, buying our home, and we had to in all this chaos, get married and have a wonderful honeymoon...well, we had the cute little wedding, and we had the wonderful honeymoon, it all comes together in the end, and believe me after the wedding there will be so much less chaos! I promise. You won't have to worry about all those other things before...the people get out of town, no wanting to look flawless in your dress, and everything that bothered you will be long gone...you and your husband will just laugh at all the stuff that has been thrown your way!
2006-08-21 05:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lyndsey H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called the "Wedding Blues"...this is caused from all the stress of getting ready for the big day. Nothing to worry about, most couple feel this, due to all the preparation that goes on before you do walk down the lane of love and commitment. Take a good bubble bath the night before and have a good nights sleep...Your big day will be full of joy and it will be a memory that you two can sit down and look over all the photos and cards and say..."That was sure a grand day, it was all worth it". So relax, it will soon all pass.
Take care and much Blessings to the both of you.
2006-08-21 04:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you all are crazy. Like you said it's probably just the stress of it all. But you said the most important thing of all: "We are excited to get married, are very in love, and know we are making the right decision" That's all that matters. Focus on that, and know that all of the stress will be over soon, and the best is yet to come.
Congratulations and may the good Lord bless your union!
2006-08-21 04:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by Confuscious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little unusual to be depressed before your wedding, however, with all that planning going on and you counting on everything to go well - it can happen! It didn't happen to me or my husband - but it's highly possible that the thought of all that planning coming to an end and the big day finally happening has got you a little down. I remember after the wedding was over, I couldn't believe how I got my life back. I had gotten so used to gown fittings and appts. for this and that regarding the wedding that it was nice to go through an entire week without having to do anything but work. Enjoy your upcoming big day -it will be simply great!
2006-08-21 06:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal, it's pre-let down...... Lots of brides have it right before and right after the wedding. Your getting depressed cause all the fun stuff is done and your only thinking about all the stress involved. Just try to constraint on the fun stuff like reception and being a "princess" for a day!
Why don't both of you check yourself into a spa for the day before the wedding to make yourself relax!!
2006-08-21 05:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole planning and emotional time before the wedding is a whopper. Don't worry. You'll be fine. Just concentrate on taking care of yourself and everything will fall into place.
Remember to enjoy your day and take in the big picture. You've got the details taken care of, kick back and watch it unfold around you.
Even as I am going through the process of divorce now (long story), my wedding day was still one of the best days of my life.
Just remember to be forthcoming about important things, it's a two way street (advice given by my grandmother) and don't go to bed angry (Little House on the Prarie caveat, advice given by my mom's friend).
I would wish you luck, but you don't need it. I will wish you beautiful weather instead and fun with family and friends.
2006-08-21 04:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal that 2 of you are depressed because of the stress on planning a wedding, getting everything booked, and getting everything done, dealing with the family for a perfect wedding, but on the day of your wedding all the stress and depression will be gone, once everything is settled.
That's why me and my husband decided to do a small wedding in june, so we wouldn't have gotten all stressed.
Congratulations, and have a happy marriage.
2006-08-21 04:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy. I was so stressed out from trying to keep everyone happy (my family and his family) that I made myself sick. I wanted to elope.
Our families wanted to help so much it was strangling me. I felt guilty if I gave my sisters more jobs than his sisters and I didn't want to offend anyone.
On top of it all I didn't want a slide show at my wedding but his sisters arranged it against my wishes anyway and had one.
Sorry, I digress, it is completely normal to feel depressed or blue. Come the wedding day once you are all dressed up & looking into one another's eyes you will forget everything else.
Congratulations!
2006-08-21 08:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by WWJD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens to everyone a few days before the wedding. your right, it's the stress from everything that's going on and the decisions that you have to make. Once it is all over with you will be able to relax and enjoy each other and laugh over the whole ordeal. I wish you a happy marriage.
2006-08-21 04:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by ctryhnny04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is exactly how my husband and I felt the week of our wedding. It is just all the stress that comes with getting married. Take a deep breathe, it will all be over soon, then you can enjoy the honeymoon. Things will be back to normal soon.
2006-08-21 06:56:36 · answer #11 · answered by kelynn1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋