Well, First off. My mom has lived with her mother her entire life. me and my sister were raised in the house with mom and grandma but grandma was always sole parent while my mom acted like a child, gambling, spending all her money on toys etc and neglecting the both of us. My grandma has taken care of her like she is still a 15 yr old child. Grandma is pushing 90 now and me and my sister both know it's only a matter of time before we lose her. The question is, since my mom is "unable" to take care of herself, pay her rent, etc. where should me and my sister's responsibilities lie with her. I live out of state and my sister lives about 30 minutes away from them. Neither one of us will feel comfortable allowing mom to live with us. I think this is what mom feels will happen when grandma passes. She always thinks somebody will take care of her. Do we leave her out in the cold or what?
2006-08-21 04:42:29 · 10 answers · asked by coconut 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh dear,well i wish that i could give u the best of answer in here,but i as i never had similar experience,with my mother,it;s not possible,.however,what i feel in here,is that,,ur mother lack both awareness and responsibilities.towards herself and others,she's behaving rather,selfish ,and since u mention here "that she wastes her money on "toys"it seems that she has got a mental regression compulsive disorder,in which she haven't fully grow to have responsible behavior ,u did not mentioned her age,but certain individuals,given their circumstances,and level of awareness in life,don't full grow ,before 55 or 60!,so in the case of ur mother,she maybe be suffering from a condition called,youth or childhood regression,in which a person is not ware of their responsibilities and acts pretty much irresponsible,so talk over with her about ,how ur feel,and a mother bee in a mother,it's always normal to be understood and worth our forgiveness,good luck,
2006-08-21 05:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by brasil_mulher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough,tough. I can't imagine telling you to leave her out in the cold,but if you can do that ,perhaps you should do just that. not to be mean but if there is no one to carry her weight she will have to do something. does she have mental or physical disabilities ? if not and she's just spoiled by her mom,let her go and see what she does.if this conversation were about a grown child we'd probably say toss the bum out so maybe that's good advice all around.
2006-08-21 04:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of the blame will relax entirely on the mummy (or relatives). infants at fifteen continuously experience persecuted no count if there 's a real existence rationalization for it or an imagined one. They experience they might desire to rebel against some thing. it somewhat is often physiologically defined by skill of their raging hormones and incomplete skill to handle it because of the fact they are no longer mentally matured yet. between the contributors of our community has a 15-3 hundred and sixty 5 days-previous son who's cutting instructions and occurring eating binges each nighttime. His mom and father are stalwart contributors of a non secular enterprise and are not wanting in education in direction of their infants and that they continuously have time for his or her infants. this is truthfully peer rigidity because of the fact between the acquaintances is often inviting him to drink. At fifteen, infants are no longer any further teenagers without accountability to their strikes. as much as oldsters are no longer thoroughly responsible, in addition they have accountability as to the morals they have instilled of their infants transforming into up. they might have preached one element yet lived in yet in any different case.
2016-10-02 08:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by goldfield 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should tell her that she needs to grow up and get a job and support herself. She cannot always depend on someone to take care of her
2006-08-21 04:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by manda_gardner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you call her "mom" doesn't mean she is one. Just because she gave birth to you doesn't mean you owe her anything. Your grandma was your mom, as you said. Tell your mom to grow up, or you won't have anything to do with her.
Sometimes tough love has to be shown from daughters toward their mothers. Sad, but true.
2006-08-21 04:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by Nani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think I would talk to my Mother right now, before something happens to my Grandmother. Since neither of you would be comfortable taking her in, she needs to know this now, give her some time to think about it. She really needs to grow up fast. Sounds like your Grandmother has her spoiled.
2006-08-21 06:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a life to lead, get on with it.
Your mom should have been responsible for you, she wasn't, you shouldn't feel responsible for her.
2006-08-21 04:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by nev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't say if your mom has disabilities if she does there are centers that will take her. if she is fine and cant take care of herself there are places for that to
2006-08-21 04:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by pighunter1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think they either have to be old, disabled, or crazy to be put in a home. you might have to talk to your sis and figure out a plan.
2006-08-21 04:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by flip4urkandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring her to a homeless shelter.
2006-08-21 05:57:35 · answer #10 · answered by Missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋