So I met this guy and he is amazing...successful, gorgeous, and a really nice guy. He's the kind of guy I could see myself spending a long time with. We hung out this weekend but I'm insanely shy...I just get so nervous when I'm around him...not a bad nervous I really like him a lot and I think things would work out if I got over my shyness...but I don't know where to start...I know that if we hung out more I would come out of my shell and my shyness would go away but I don't want to scare him off before that happens...can anyone help me?
2006-08-21 04:37:58 · 27 answers · asked by enjoyincubus295 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just let him know that you are a shy person and to get comfortable with a person you need time. Also tell him that he his an amazing guy and you sure wanna spend time with him. How bout a movie or dinner togeather?
2006-08-21 04:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by ash_m_79 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use this as a topic for conversation. Tell him you feel especially shy around him and when he asks why, use that as an opportunity to tell him how you feel. This will not only get you through your shyness but will also get through the nervous feeling you are getting so you can finally relax. Don't be overbearing, just tell him that you really like him and were hoping you could go out in an 'official' capacity. Dinner and a movie always allows opportunities to get to know each other better. Even if the dinner and movie are at your house-- I love to cook for my dates. Good luck and have a great day!!!
2006-08-21 11:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean cos I'm just like you.
The best way is to tell the guy over the phone: yeah im really shy when I meet people for the first few times and once I start meeting them often Im my normal self
Or along those words and trust me he's gonna put in an effort to remove your shyness like he'll make u more comfortable. It works by being honest cos then he wont think that you arent interested ;)
Good luck!
2006-08-21 11:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by Puja N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your probably thinking that your shyness Is a put off, but trust me, If he likes you, I'm sure that he'll realise this & wait for you to open up. I personaly think that shyness Is a sweet quality. I've been out with a shy girl before & I found that shyness goes hand in hand with alot of amazing qualities such as trust, honesty & unshakable love. Be happy
2006-08-21 11:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me too! I mean, I met this guy who is gorgeous,successful, and really nice. I am extremely shy and I get totally nervous because I really like him. I talk to him about his interests. I started with the weather because it can branch out into so many things. I then started finding out about him by asking him questions like; What do you like to do for fun? What's your ideal vacation? Where did you go on your last vacation?Where are you from? What's your family like? There are so many things that can branch into something else. Now, everytime I see him I can talk about something new. Just relax and be yourself because chances are he probably already likes you for you and your quiet nature.Oh, and I know that you will get over it and come out, I always do. Good Luck!
2006-08-21 11:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the 321 plan. It's where you figure out what you want to say, then take a deep breath, count 3..2..1.. then breath out as you are walking to the person you are going to talk too. You can't stall either, the minute you say 3, you are not allowed to chicken out! It's the best way to do most things that make you nervous.
2006-08-21 11:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by mylipshurtrealbaaad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Caution shyness can come across to people as stuck up. Best to be very honest with him and the shyness will go away. You sound like a beautiful girl and your beauty will shine through.
2006-08-21 11:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by Just ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that too.
When you're with him, don't let the conversation run dry because it will get awkward and you'll be too embarrassed to do anything to improve it. To do this, think of things you two can talk about before you go see him. The more you two talk, the more you two can open up.
One thing that motivated me was that I put it into my head that if I don't go for it, someone else will. You should think about that too, if you think he's a great catch, 4723847 other girls probably think so too.
2006-08-21 11:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking him to do something that he's interested in. When your with him don't think about how amazing he is. concentrate on something like his inner ear or something that isn't so great to look at. Remember he's just an ordinary person like you are and nothing special like a King or President. Good Luck
2006-08-21 11:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by ctryhnny04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being shy is part of who you are . he hung out with you this weekend so evidently he likes you too. be yourself always.talk with him on the phone also. he cant see you blush over the phone.....be patient, if the connection is real it will stand the test of time.and you are right. the more time you spend with someone the easier things will flow.
2006-08-21 11:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by greg f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋