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Okay, here is the situation. This girl i like is 13. I'm 15. She used to be all over me, i mean, we would always do everything together, and we would stay up really late at night, and talk every night. Well anyways, people started talking about it, and she really backed off. So I asked her out, she said I dont know. I thought it was a nice way of saying no, but she told her friends she might like me. Well it's been about 2 months now, and she has completely backed off. I mean she recently got back from Costa Rica, and we hasn't even talked since, and she got back on Sunday. And rumor has it that while there, she was all over these two guys in my youth, just like she used to be with me. Well now her friends say she dont like me at all, and just dont wanna hurt my feelings. But her and her mom are really close, and her mom says she's just scared, and cant decide between me and these other guys. But she says she duz like me. What should I think. I mean i just cant move on.
I mean i've liked and many girls, but none like her. There is just something about her, and I know I sound crazy since I'm only 15, but i'm being dead honest. I would do ANYTHING to get her back, will she come back around? And what should I do? I mean because, it was obvious she liked me, she even sent me a song one time, and I think she was trying to say something to the effect that she likes me, just doesnt know what to do. But i missed the point. Well now it seems she has lost those feelings, for no apparent reason, so what should i do to get her back??
I mean, she has barely talked to me. It seems like she is trying to avoid me. But i have no clue why. Should I ask her. I mean, she could be mad because, I havent talked to her. But i dont wanna pressure her. Because today, her mom told me, that if I really like someone else, I should move on. But that if I really like her daughter, I should be patient. What should i do??
2006-08-21 04:36:32 · 7 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
listen to the mom! Either wait till she gets bored with others or move on!! Christ ur only 15 which means you will meet and greet at least 20 more girls before u get married! So take it easy and play the field GOD knows she is!!
2006-08-21 04:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by stewiegrif27 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should follow the advice of the girls mother. She is very young and it may be that she is not experienced with boys and is scared. Don't pressure her into being your girlfriend, just be friends for the moment. Also perhaps you need to back off a little bit and give her some space, don't try and do everything together. Spend some time apart with your other friends. You are both so young, if you give it time and take things very slowly you may enjoy many years with this girl (either as a couple or as friends). Push her too much and you may push her away.
I hope things work out for you with this girl.
2006-08-21 11:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by sally r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she's scared since she's only 13 and what she had for you was just a crush back then and since you asked her out, she's been nervous. I'd say be a little patient if you really like her, as her mum said because maybe this girl needs some time to think it over. Don't give up unless she tells you directly that she doesnt want to go out with you. Don't listen to what her friends have got to say, if her friends tell you that she doesnt like you anymore, tell them that you want to hear this from her, only then will you back off.
Good luck and dont worry you really seem to like her so I hope you get a good result :)
2006-08-21 11:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by Puja N 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first things first realize that this girl is only 13 and is still a kid, And "a child will do childish things" it sounds like she cares to mush about what other people think and that's why she backed off because other people wanted her to. She wants to be the popular one with the mystery boys. so you should make here feel stupid by being happy with someone else. that will make her grow up and make her want to put her happiness above what others think about her.
2006-08-21 11:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by bigmj75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok..the old play hard to get ploy....
do the same to her...once you start ignoring her---she will begin to think why....
other than that move on....your done - - either way your better off - cause you wont be thinkiing of this constantly
my guess is you talking to her mom---was in her mind the NON coolest thing to do anyway...so your probably history
its not good to be obsessed with one person....if you keep it up---you might need to see a shrink...
bottom line: you have a lot of years to go...find someone else. if she was with all these other guys ---well that should tell you something right there
2006-08-21 11:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jack Kerouac 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow that's deep. try approaching her in a different way. i mean one minute i like a boy, and then when i'm away from them i don't like them. and then if they say 1 word 2 me the next day i'll like them. start being a friend 2 her and if she really starts 2 like u again ask her out!
2006-08-21 11:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by MS.PHiLAD3LPHiA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
play the cool card, if u see her say hi. but dont sweat it. think abt it she got 3 guys or was it 2 ....anyways... she`s in to and she cant choose, she has u but not sure if she has those 2 , but everyone knws we want wat we cant have.... right???? so just play it cool , move on date sumone elseor at lest act like it. if she really likes u she`s gonna come back and try to b in ur life. but wat happens after that is all up 2 u. and i think u just need sum time away from her.
gud luck
2006-08-21 11:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋