2006-08-21 04:20:34 · 34 answers · asked by memoryloss 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Treat him normally. If he's only got that time left I'm sure he doesn't want to spend it in front of everyone crying or showering sympathy on him. Make the best of the time left.
2006-08-21 04:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by JeffE 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's really nothing that you can say to make him feel any better, just remember that actions speak so much louder than words and Unfortunately, many people are going to stray further and further away from your Friend as he gets sicker, as a lot of people can't deal with watching someone die. What you need to do now is help make sure that your friend lives the rest of his life to the absolute fullest, always be there for him and his family, and most importantly when he needs to talk to someone about what he's feeling, emotionally and physically, just listen, the majority of the time cancer victims aren't looking for someones sympathy so don't "baby" him in any way or treat him much different than you had before.
Your friend will be in my prayers!
2006-08-21 18:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by nkkidw040602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I 1st saw my uncle after his diagnosis (lung cancer) i said I was sorry and would always be there if he needed someone to talk/shout/cry/laugh with. My uncle was like a 2nd dad to me. After that we always acted as normal. He was given 6mths to live but was with us for over 2 years. I will say this tho...they get quite bad towards the end (cancer is a horrible disease, it takes the person away from you well before they pass on, you will know what I mean). At this time we just spoke normally to him - no tears etc- and later on, when he couldnt talk, we just had normal everyday conversations around him. I really am sorry for you and your friend and his family. I hope they stay strong and I wish you all the best.
2006-08-21 04:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey my dad also has cancer, and my mom passed away from it last year... a few years ago the doctors said to my dad that he only has a limited time left, but a month or two ago the doctors said that he will be fine and that the level has decreased....
my advice is don't treat this as if you're getting ready for him to die and you have to think of nice things to say. let nature take its course. let him live his life as normal. don't keep thinking about it. just be strong... or if you really want to say something, then why not say: wanna go watch a movie? or wanna go grab a cup of coffee?
doctors aren't always right, and if they are now. then you just have to accept that that's how life sometimes is. (p.s i am sorry for you, it is a hard thing to go through and just accept. good luck : ) )
2006-08-21 04:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by wad 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say what you would say if he didn't have cancer...make sure he knows you dig him though, and as his friend you want to share more good times with him...it's okay to talk about the cancer or ask him questions...what tends to bother a lot of people with terminal illnesses is that people often avoid asking or discussing it with the ill person...it's like a huge elephant in the room that people pretend they don't see...
Tell him you're sorry he has cancer...offer to do or bring him things to help him feel better physically...and let him talk to you about it if he wants to...
2006-08-21 04:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing special you can say to him. You can just be there for him and be a consistent and helpful friend. His days may be numbered now, but that won't change the way he sees and wants to do things very much until he's too weak to have much physical activity. Just be there for him in any way that's natural for you. Let him know you care about him. That's about all you can do.
2006-08-21 04:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by quietwalker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to say anything, tell him once that you are there for him and that if he ever needs anything to just ask, but after that behave normally.
My partner died of liver cancer and in the last 6 months of his life shut out the people who behaved like he was going to die soon, that is the last thing they want to be reminded of.
2006-08-21 08:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by n2mustaches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry some of the people who answered your question made a joke about it. And sorry about your situation.
I could answer better if I knew your friend's age, but the followiing should help for anyone.
Treat your friend normally. Let him know you're willing to listen to anything he wants to say. Try to answer any questions he has. If he needs help planning for things, be ready to pitch in.
2006-08-21 07:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by johntadams3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that. i had 2 brothers and my mom who died from different types of cancer. the only thing you can do is be there to listen to them and try not to treat them any differently. Don't discuss it unless they want to. maybe they have a dream they would like to fulfill that you could help them with. please be there for this person any time of the day or night. good luck.
2006-08-21 04:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by pjlinda8888888888888 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for your friend (if still a child) is to contact the "Make-A-Wish Foundation" . This foundation can do a lot for your friend as his last wish may be granted!! Sorry to hear your friend has cancer!! Best wishes!
2006-08-21 08:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by Antoine a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋