I need an opening line to break up with my boyfriend :(?

Question

I need to tell my boyfriend tonight that we need to take a break from our relationship because Im not sure he's the one. He has NO idea it's coming and the idea of hurting him is killing me, even though I know its inevitable.

Does anyone have any suggestions how I can begin the conversation to try to ease through it? Like an actual opening sentence to get the conversation started?

Answer 1

we need to talk..................

Answer 2

Just be blunt. Avoid the routine...it's not you it's me garbage. We've all have said that and we all have been told that. What you should do is just be honest and open about it. Don't try to soften the blow. Keep it simple. You say that it's killing you to know that you will be hurting him but you must remember that the hurt he may feel at your break up is a good thing. It's a good lesson to help him learn to deal with future situations of the sort. That is unless he's a complete nutcase in which case you should tell him over the phone and then move 3 states away. There comes a time in most relationships where it's just not what one of the people wants or needs at that point in thier lives and that it's no ones fault that's just the way things are. It's when you reach the point that your at now and try to avoid the situation that things tend to get ugly and someone...probably you..comes off looking like a B* or Ahole.

Answer 3

First off, how long have you been together? The length of time is going to dictate how you approach this difficult situation.

I would like you to reconsider however, i mean it is going to hurt him tremendously if he has no idea it is coming. Why do you feel like he isn't the one?

You need to evaluate honestly what you really want, it isn't right or smart to just throw away this relationship where there is really nothing wrong unless you can put your finger on what you want that you aren't getting out of this relationship. Because maybe your relationship can change to fit what you are looking for, or maybe you are getting it but dont' realize it.

The reason I say this is that you are always going to find your relationships wanting unless you know how to have this conversation with yourself. You need to identify what is important to you, and why it is that you are not and cannot get it from your current situation otherwise you will just be bouncing from guy to guy.

I would hold off, don't burn your bridges until you know what is wrong. Have a serious and honest conversation about where your relationship is and where it is going.

If he has no idea it is coming, none at all, then you have not done enough to save your relationship, and if you are concerned about "the one" then you owe it to him, and to yourself to have these conversations before you pull the trigger on breaking up with him.

But... if you have made up your mind then you have... and you want to say somthing like... we need to talk, and you aren't ready for the serious relationship that he obviously is.

Don't say it's not you it's me... because no guy believes that, and no girl really means it, because if he isn't the one then the problem IS him.

Good luck, and think about what I said even though it doesn't fit with what you seem to want to do.

Answer 4

"So what do you think about __________ (enter a girl's name that he knows)"

actually, its not going to be easy no matter what you do. The more you beat around the bush with telling him, the worse it's going to get. I would advise against the whole "I think we should see other people" because the FIRST thing that is going to tell him is that you have someone else in mind.

But in giving you a suggestion... just flat out tell him that you don't see this relationship making it all the way, and rather than get deeper in a relationship that you feel is going to end, you'd rather stop now because it's only going to hurt worse if you wait until later. The big thing is to say things in a way that makes it sound like you're doing it to BENEFIT him. To open the conversation, just simply say, hey, I gotta talk to you.... then go straight into it... don't brush him up, don't delay.... because if you start talking about little nothings, he's going to KNOW it's bad.

Answer 5

I would just start by saying, that we have been together for 5 years, months, days (whatever) and its been great, but I don't think this relationship is going anyway. We can't grow together so maybe we will be more successful apart. Im sorry if this hurts you but it wouldn't be right to keep you in the dark about what I've been feeling lately.

Answer 6

well i can tell u wat not to do. i broke up with my bf for the exact same reason at ...... my best gal pals birthday. so if i were u
1.treat it as a seriouse thing dont use jokes,
2.uuhh just incase be on the opposite end or accross from him, u never knw wat might happen.
3. be honest dont hold anything back just to spare his feelings, cuz the truth is gonna come out soone or later and it wont b good.
4.u could b like "i have sumthing to say and plz hear me out, it has been a great journey for me yada yada yada.. but i dont feel they way u do and i`m sorry for hurting u. but i cant do this no more etc etc"
5 DONT BREAK UP AT UR APRTMENT!!!!!!
g`luck. cuz ur gonna need it.

Answer 7

Try to be somewhere where it's just the two of you with no real distractions and tell him that ( what-ever his name is)..".We have to talk"...that is generally the opening where the other person will know immediately that something serious is coming ( and usually not on the happy end)
Good Luck....

Answer 8

Try...I need to talk to you about something serious or we need to talk (classic that says what you're going to say before you do.)I think you should start by telling him why and explaining to him because sometimes the truth is the best way.

Answer 9

I think you just need to be honest with yourself. And when you are telling him this be positive then he knows that it's nothing really bad. Start with all the positives about the relationship and just assure him that he's the one you want to be with but you just want to be secure about that decision and you need to do it by yourself.

Answer 10

i'm having the same problem...i wish i could help...i do care about my boyfriend and i know it would hurt him if i broke up with him and i know it would hurt me too but sometimes i just don't feel like we're suppose to be together forever...i'm not even sure if i know how to tell

Answer 11

Tell him that. Dont worry about him he will be okay. YOu have the right to find your happiness. And if you are second guessing then OBVIOUSLY HE ISN'T THE ONE. read iylanda vyzant books. very inspiring.