im not scared of the people...i just dont see why i can confront other people but most people i cant...
2006-08-21 04:06:44 · 10 answers · asked by Kirsten 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
A lot of people shy away from confrontation...it's generally uncomfortable and people don't like to put themselves in uncomfortable situations...
People will tend to take advantage of you, if you don't learn to stand up for yourself though...confrontation doesn't have to lead to a fight or argument...but there are times you need to look someone in the eye and say your piece...don't be afraid to do that...many will respect you more when you do it, than if you always cave or avoid dealing with an issue altogether...
2006-08-21 04:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want some people to accept you, so you do not confront them because you fear rejection. The ones you do confront, you don't really care whether they accept you or not. Life should not be about confrontations with the people you care about, but you should be able to voice your opinion. If you just accept what these people do and don't confront them, you will be treated this way forever. Try starting out with one little confrontation, see how it goes, then continue from there. If someone takes offense to you speaking your mind, then they are not your friend and will never accept you anyway.
2006-08-21 11:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by skipped82451 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say u are probably worried about either hurting their feelings..OR that they may hurt yours once you "attack". =T confrontation shouldn't scare you, however the way you go about it and the way you handle yourself Should be extremely important to you. u have to be able to assess yourself, the situation, And the other person! especially if u know them, u will be able to somewhat guess whether they will listen, or get angry, or not care. or u can gauge it by their reactions to your confrontation. the thing is, a conversation is 2 people. therefore, the only thing u can really do is figure out what u are trying to say; hopefully it is not negative, or u are trying to make someone feel bad about themself. once u figure out what u want to say, u have to feel around, say certain things, see if they are responsive. once they respond, u can in turn respond to what u think is best, most Conducive to the situation. it takes work...but it's worth it, and it's important to put that effort in, because it will be appreciated. even if it doesn't go the way u want, the least u can do is TRY to be fair, and explain without accusing. if the other person just doesn't wanna listen, is being selfish or mean, there's not much u can do =T at least u tried to be as nice as possible. u can't force other people to do or react the way u want; u can only control how kind and understanding and trustworthy You are, and see if they respond. good luck!
2006-08-21 11:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are afraid of the outcome. You are probably not sure how the person will react when you confront them and that may scare you. People are usually afraid of things when they do not know how it will turn out. Or perhaps you do not like to upset people. My mother has a hard time confronting people because she does not like to make waves. She doesn't like to upset people and she is afraid if she confronts people she will upset them.
P.S. You and I have the same first name. I have never really meant anyone with the name Kirsten.
2006-08-21 11:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by Smile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't confront most people because you tend to want picture their reaction to your standing up and putting an end to being taken for granted.
2006-08-21 11:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by jsimpkinsv2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem as you many years ago. Maybe it's because you are not very confident in your own beliefs and tenets. But don't worry, it will disappear with time. Just pretend you are confident and without fear and you'll be surprised how well it works. The keyword is PRETEND... And don't forget that nobody is right all the time.
2006-08-21 11:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by Agocs V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have a mental or emotional issue get that checekd out, like Anxiety
2006-08-21 11:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no clue why, but that happends to me all the time. to some people, i don't care what i say to them. but then to other people i say nothing. it's really wierd.
2006-08-21 11:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by guess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unsure of yourself
2006-08-21 11:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by JunAlo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋