My beautiful doggy died about two/three months ago...i still wake up eveyday with an unbearable feeling which?

Question

is uncomprehendable. I miss her and want her back....how do i deal with this?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear that... but don't get another dog to replace her. Just let time do the healing for you...

Answer 2

This happened to me this year too......my doggy was 14 years old. She was suffering a lot and sometimes I feel happy that she's gone to a better place. You obviously need a dog to love like you loved the last one, and maybe in a few months(or years) you'll be ready to adopt another. The best satisfaction will be if you adopt one from the pound. Just know that she's in a better place and instead of crying over her death, you should think of the happy times you spent together. Crying does help though. Put some photo's of her around the house to keep her memory alive and with you forever

Answer 3

So sorry for your loss. Losing a beloved pet can take many months to get over. I still cry over dogs that died years ago. I start thinking about them or see an old pic of them and the tears start to flow. It just takes time. Getting a new puppy might help, but some people just are not ready to get a new one soon after losing one. Sometimes a new pup is the only thing that will ease your pain.

Answer 4

I have read a lot of your answers. I also feel sorry for your loss of a very good friend.

There is no way, even if you purchase another dog, that would ever take the place of the one died. I had a pit bull boxer mix that was 13 years old. He was so gentle with everyone, especially little kids. The kids in our neighborhood would talk to Sampson and not say a word to me. So I know the feeling of your loss.

Time--time--time. That is the only healer. AND when you see other dogs, you will always be reminded of the one that is gone. I do hope that you have pictures of your friend. I have pictures of Sampson. There is no other dog that will or ever could take his place. He was a one and only.

I feel for you and understand your sorrow.

Answer 5

The death of a loved one is never easy however it is so hard when we love and miss someone that gave us such pure and honest love... as a beloved pet does. Most of us aren't even worthy to have such blind love and devotion and it is to be cherished.

I learned something a long time ago that I will share..... after the death of my first dog (an Afghan Hound) when I was 7, my Dad said he was taking me out to get a puppy. This was a few months later. Most kids would jump at getting a new pup but I said NO. When he asked why I told him I couldn't love another dog again. Penny was just that special. And he taught me something I have taken throughout my life. What would Penny think if I could never give another animal a loving home because of her? Would she want me to never have a companion like her again? Would I be using the unconditional love that she taught me to give if I never loved another dog again?
He told me she would be disappointed if not angry with me because all she taught would have been a waste.
I was seven years old and it is still the greatest lesson I learned.
Many years have passed and many awesome companions.......... I loved each one..... but all in a different way. Just like I love my kids.
There is no getting her back but there is a way to prove what she taught you. I hope my Dad's lesson has helped you too.
May peace enter your heart again. Much love from one who knows what you are going through.

Answer 6

I know how u feel i lost my Shepperd 6years ago and still find it hard some say to get another dog but i think u had a special bond with ur dog Grove for a bit then if u think u can give a dog a home then go and get one but not the same breed u will only be looking for Ur departed dog here/s a tip my grandad told me once he said if a animal needs someone thay will come to u and vice versa and i believe this to be true i hope this help/s

Answer 7

the feeling never totally leaves you. My dog died 12 years ago and although I live a really full life, there are times I remember him and how he looked and what great company he was and miss him terribly. I dream about him sometimes, that he's next to me in bed (he used to sleep with me-I was only a kid-didn't care about smelly paws, hair etc.,) and wake up really believing he's been there.
I know a lot of people suggest getting another dog - I would go with what feels right for you but the next dog won't be the same personality or character of the dog you've lost.

Answer 8

I am so sorry for your pain. Only a real animal lover can understand how deeply we can grow to love and depend on our pets emotionally. Of course, you will never be able to replace your friend and truly hope you don't try. I also hope you don't try to not think about the times you shared.Although it hurts now, these are the memories you will always cherish. In a little time, you might consider another dog. You might not feel like it now but being with and learning to love a new dog will remind you of all those little things that made you fall in love with your first dog. Good Luck! Thom

Answer 9

There will always be people like Anglik, who tell those who are grieving to "grow up" or "snap out of it". These people are to be pitied. They will never experience what you had with your dog.

You have not lost a replaceable item, you have lost a family member. "It's only a dog", some say. Or, it's only someone who shared your life for the last X number of years, who you loved and who loved you back, unconditionally. Where else but from your dog would you get such devotion?

Allow yourself to grieve but don't lose sight of what's around you. Your friends, family, and yes, your job and your work colleagues. There'll be a lot of people who don't understand your grief. They may be unsympathetic, they may give well intentioned but poor advice. Some may prove to be the rock you need.

There's a lot of replies on here, some from people who have obviously been in the position you are in now. There ARE people who know what you are going through, who care.

My first dog, Jason was diagnosed with cancer. 6 months later he died and the grief was indescribable, but in the meantime we rehomed a couple of Yorkshire Terriers. They were lovely dogs, they got on well with Jason and made his last few months that little bit happier, but I personally could not bond with them. I was not ready. That was 6 years ago.

In January this year we rehomed a retired racing greyhound from dogs trust. My stepdaughter named him Ginger. He has some similarities to Jason, a lot of differences but we've bonded well with him.

Should you get another dog? - only you can say if or when to do so. The new dog would NEVER replace the one you lost, it couldn't. I still shed tears for Jason now, but I wouldn't be without Ginger for all the money in the world.

The pain doesn't go away, you never stop missing your dog but it does get easier in time.

Answer 10

Enjoy her memory. My first dog died 3 and a half years ago - my parents bought her for me when I was 12 and we were inseperable - she slept on my bed, came out to play with me and my friends, and even sat outside the bathroom waiting for me whenever I went to the toilet- and I still think about her all the time, and miss her incredibly. I couldn't face having another dog for a long time, but last July, I decided I was ready, and I now have another incredible dog - very different and in no way a replacement for my first - but perfect in his own way. I really hope you feel better soon. Maybe the thought that there are so many mis-treated dogs in the world, but that your dog was lucky enough to find you, and vice-versa will comfort you?

Best wishes.

Answer 11

lt me first say that my heart goes out to you i know it's like losing a member of the family. in reality it is losing a member of your family and grieving is normal and very helpful. however you seem to have a large void in your life that needs to be filled. i would suggest that you go to your local shelter or rescue organization and maybe volunteer or just visit several times in a short period of time. i think that you will come across another pet that really pulls at your heartstrings. one that you just have a connection with that also has a connection with you. you will probably go home and be unable to get this new found friend out of your mind and give him or her another chance at a good life with someone that deserves him. although this new friend will never make you forget the one you lost, it will definately fill the void in your life and you may just be surprised at the loyalty and love that a rescued animal can give you. they usually turn out to be incredibly devout friends and members of your family. i really do think that this would help alleviate the pain and emptiness that you feel since the loss of your beloved dog. it certainly wouldn't hurt to give it a try. it wouldn't hurt you or the friend you are guaranteed to make. makes me smile just thinking about what this could mean for you and an animal that would otherwise be destroyed if not given an opportunity to share its love. hope you consider this whole heartedly. there is a friend out there that needs you as much or more than you need a new friend, give it some thought anyways, please!