Many men believe that offering to buy a woman a drink at the bar or dinner on a first date is the first step to getting her in the sack. I DON'T.
In my experience it has the exact opposite effect. Answers and comments please.
Viking xxx
2006-08-21 03:31:48 · 20 answers · asked by Viking 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've never bought a women i just met a drink. I think that is the dumbest way to meet girls. Out of all the men that buy women drinks i'd say a very small % actually hook up.
2006-08-21 03:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Supa M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having dinner with someone that you don't know is "breaking bread" to get to know each other.. most people are so worried about dropping food or spilling something from nerves that men should not expect sex right away however..
I did meet a man and he bought me a hamburger.. after listoning to the way he talked and his body language..i told him that we would never work.. then he brought up that "ohhh sure you get a free meal and then you go" I had brought enough money with me to pay for meal if need be.. (if i went to the bathroom and he was gone) And i did offer to pay for my own.. he insisted no.. but i did leave the tip..
Friends pay for each other's meals all the time.. and don't expect anything in return.
2006-08-21 03:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a coffee on your first date is fine I think, but a 3 course meal when you hardly know eachother could be embarressing on a first date....offering to buy a drink at a bar well that's normal practice, and a good way to get a girl to at least notice you.
2006-08-21 03:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by Dan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Drink, yes, dinner, no. A drink's no big deal. If I'm really interested, I show it in other ways, too. If she's not interested, NBD. As for dinner, I prefer going dutch on the first date. Less expectations, no discomfort.
Some girls EXPECT guys to buy them drinks and to do that ancient mating ritual by numbers. Needless to say, they're not my kind.
2006-08-21 03:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by Paul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An emphatic NO if I'm just meeting them at the bar. If I go out on a first date, then yes, I should pay for the dinner, however, it will be reasonable. If she gets upset because I didn't spend a wad of cash on dinner for our first date, then I don't want her. I have money, but I'm not a sucker either. I want a woman to want me, not my money.
2006-08-21 03:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by Velociraptor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends when, where, how, and why. some blokes may do it with good intentions and not think like you. If your out on the town and you see a girl you like what else are you supposed to do. Offering to buy her a drink is a way of breaking the ice and get chatting to her. If she accepts then you can chat to each other over the drink.
2006-08-21 03:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by 90210 aka Hummer Lover 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said-"on a first date" So that means you are out with her. Of course you should buy her a drink! One drink doesn't mean- get drunk and sleep with the guy. A drink can lighten up a sometimes stressful situation. Please give women more credit.
2006-08-21 03:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mating dance is not complex - if you don't want to play by the rule then don't accept the dinner/drink offer. We are happy to move on.
2006-08-21 03:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by M S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not to get them in to sack! Its to get them to like you or as an introduction.In hopes the may want to talk and try and start a relationship. but it has never worked for me. my picture tells the reason why
2006-08-21 03:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-08-21 03:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by Mishrik 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋