i mean when i was in middle school i hung out with a certain gril. and now that this is my last year in high school and i am hanging with her again (cause we stopped being friends for a few years)my family has started trippin all ova me. the only reason they r acting like this i think is because she has 2 kids and a bad rep. but i mean just cause she is like that . don't mean i will follow in her foot steps rite? but is wrong for me 2 stop hanging with her for tha sake of my family? or make the desison for my self.? plz help me
2006-08-21 03:30:33 · 8 answers · asked by princesspooh1987 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was in the same situation your parents are in now with my now 23 yr old daughter. She has a girlfriend who got pregnant-dropped out of high school and also had been involved with drinking and smoking pot prior to having her "twin boys". I did not like her hanging around her because of the irresponsible ways she had and then after talking with my daughter and husband and thinking thru things I came to the conclusion that my daughter had not exhibited any of those negative traits, acted irresponsible and was doing well in school so therefore maybe it would be ok on a trial basis. My daughter who has graduated, has a good job and is a wonderful mother now actually became this girls mentor and because my daughters values were as I raised her she never got involved with doing what this other girl did and I could trust that I had done a good enough job in raising her that she wouldn't behave the same. The other girl actually went back with my daughters help-got her GED, works a job, does not drink or do any drugs and has proven to be a good mother to her sons. She says she probably would not have been able to achieve this if my daughter had not befriended her as she did. IF YOU are a responsible and reliable young person and have proven this to your parents then state this to them. If you have followed in this girls footsteps and are influenced by her bad behavior then you have no business befriending her-you need to concentrate on you own life. It might help if you talked with more proper english rather than the slang you use on here-that shows to me you have a bit of "street" in you and not enough self esteem to speak like a young lady but a teenage wanna be like the rest. You reap what you sow in life and your actions will always speak louder than your words-not just to your parents but to everyone-if my daughter spoke as you type I would have poured vinegar down her throat and told her to write a 3 page essay on proper use of the english language. I am not kidding either! You will be treated according to how you act and not by what you say you will do.
2006-08-21 03:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your friend has made some wrong decisions, I mean in high school w/ 2 kids!!! I can see how your parents would maybe in your sight "get the wrong idea about her" I would too. You are influenced by those around you. Peer presure is a very powerful thing. Though you might not see it now your friend with her wild unprotected lifestyle could eventually pull you down with her. I say there are many other people you could be friends with. Others that can set you on the right track in life & help you to suceed.
2006-08-21 10:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your are being viewed as Guilty by Association.
If you were hanging with people doing drugs people would think you did drugs and if the cops come by they would arrest all of you until you can prove otherwise.
Your reputation will follow you a long time.
Friends come and go but Family is forever.
2006-08-21 10:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by railcar_exp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family just wants the best for you and they think that her lifestyle will have an influence on you. I think that it would definitely have an influence on you that you would not want to have that sort of life style. Your family is just trying to protect you. You should really talk to them about her and find out what they have to say ans tell them how you feel about her. I'm sure they would love to listen to you. Good Luck
2006-08-21 10:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by amy d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your family is probably wright although you might not think you will not act like your friend you will be influnced and over time you will start picking up her bad habbits i hope you will make the choice that will best for you
2006-08-21 10:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by T****A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she has made more than one bad choice. your family cares about you and does not want you to make the same bad choices. I would keep my distance
2006-08-21 10:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by majesticwife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
losers hang out with losers... it's an age old dilemma and I'm sure your parents have witnessed it in their past. They fear for you and that's normal. I'd be more concerned if your parents didn't care who you hung out with!!!
2006-08-21 10:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by MadMaxx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all i can tell u is family is all anyone has. talk to ur family dont yell at them! and try not to argue. just listen to their conserns and then tell them yours communication is key
2006-08-21 10:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by rooney8dabom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋