when we first started dating she cheated on me with her ex boyfriend of 2 years... now we are engaged but she is at college right now and i am saving enough so i can move down there with her... she wants to go drink and party with all the college people and she says she loves me and she would never do that to me again.. but she never seem real sincere about it.. its not so much that i dont trust her.. i dont trust horny drunk college guys who will do anything for a girl as good looking as her... please help me
2006-08-21 03:27:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you can't trust her, you can't be with her fully.
College engagements are different strictly because the folks involved are young. I knew this girl in college that was engaged when I met her. She had a few rules, one of which was, "if it happens in a different state, it didn't happen." and she didn't consider oral stiumlation to be cheating.
does your girl have any rules like that?
2006-08-21 03:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should trust her becaue with time people do change and mature into an adult. She wouldn't cheat on u again, she knows what she has and she doesn't want 2 loose u. She loves u but doesn't know how 2 show it because she knows u don't trust her, trust her and u will c that ur relationship will boom to a next level.
2006-08-21 03:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by Italian Empress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my first impression of your question I'd have to say no. Do not waste your time and energy saving your money to move to where she is. Of course she's going to say that she'd never do that again...blah blah blah. The important point of it is that she has done it once, although two years ago, she hasn't reached the point in her life to where she is ready to settle down. I'm no Nostrodameaus but I'd be willing to bet dollars to donuts that if you were to proceed with your plan you'd end up regretting it later.
Cut your losses. If nothing else you can use your story to pull some sympathy tail. The reservations your having are probably more likely coming from small indications that your subconcious has picked up on that your concious mind isn't ready to unravel yet.
2006-08-21 03:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Emporer_Smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if i would trust her because you aren't there and I had a boyfriend and i know i am still in high school but over the summer I didn't get to see him because he never was in town as he says and he was cheating on me with another girl. so i would either get the money fast to move down there or break up.
2006-08-21 03:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,u gotta trust her...trust is the foundation of every relationship n when trust starts shaking u have a warning!!
talk to her n let her know about all tht u feel n get to know her say too!!
2006-08-21 03:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wellif u love her u were supposed to trust her but if u can't then something is goin on .so jus sit dawn wiht her and talk to her.cuz its not fair 4 u to be waitng 4 her when she might be doin somethng u hate.goodluck
2006-08-21 03:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥♣BABY GIRL♥♥♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never trust a woman they all cheat as soon as they get a chance
2006-08-21 03:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she really loves u she'll understand ur point of view too.. but if she has betrayed u once there is no guaranty tht she wont again... but u know better isnt it so follow ur heart but not blindly
2006-08-21 03:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is like a glass once broken it s difficult to rebuild it.....take ur time....think is she worth all that trouble and pain?? if its true love then go ahead else chuck her ..
2006-08-21 04:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by topgun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same dude.
Best is to just ignore it.A relationship is nothing without trust.
Learn to live with it, it could kill you if you don't.
2006-08-21 03:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋