My future mother-in-law says that the rehersal dinner is for the bridal party AND out of town guests...I always thought it was just for the bridal party...
Can someone clear this up?
2006-08-21 03:21:22 · 29 answers · asked by Kitten 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
well the obvious is the bridal party, if children and spouses of the bridal party are welcome then include them, the parents of the bride and groom, and special guests like grandparents, if you are having anybody do the readings then they should be included, but more often than not who is paying for it, yur future mothere in law or you? if it is her just let her invite who she feels like, but if it is you draw a line in the sand and quickly, but on the other hand is this something she will hold over your head forever? think about whats better for all in the long run....good luck.
2006-08-21 03:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by plcl32003 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is my understanding that it is considered new etiquette to invite out of town guests.
The good news is that it is also new etiquette that a rehearsal dinner can be very casual...not like the big fancy's they used to be. So if money is an issue--have a barbecue in someones back yard or go to a famous pizza parlor...or a piano bar for free entertainment and some inexpensive tapas...
I assume you are the guy, because it is up to the grooms family to throw the rehearsal dinner.
Either way, just have fun.
Oh, yeah, and if it is an intimacy issue, have a separate bridal and groom breakfasts the morning before with the wedding parties. Only problem is that the groomsmen usually go golfing and the girls have breakfast, so you still won't all be together.
Good luck...
2006-08-21 05:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Rackjack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both right actually. The rehearsal is just for the wedding party, but the dinner has grown to include out of town guests nowadays so that you get a chance to actually see people that made an effort to attend your wedding when you're not all super busy on your wedding day and so they're not just left staring at a hotel room wall once they're in town before the ceremony. It's just considered a nice thing to do, it's by no means mandatory.
2006-08-21 03:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thought was just the bridal party as technically dependant on when its held the out of town guests will be out of town right ?
that and its the bridal party that has to rehearse the ceremony etc NOT the guests
2006-08-21 03:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ðêù§ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should invite the out of town guests to it. It is just the polite thing to do. And only if you know beforehand that they will get there the day before. If you are paying for this on your own though then you don't have to. If she is paying for it then by all means invite them all. My husband and I just went to Milwaukee for a wedding and stayed for two nights. We were not invited to the rehearsal dinner and my husband thought it was rude. I just told him that maybe they didn't have the money for it. Which must be true cause it was a cash bar, with no seating arangement! It was disapointing. Adding all the money we spent on this couple it was over 400 dollars and then we get there and its a cash bar! We had no money to spend! So we drank water, and ackwardly sat by people that we didn't know. Some people couldn't even find seats with the person that they came with! It was disapointing.
2006-08-21 03:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rehearsal dinner is for the bridal party and anyone taking part in your wedding who you are close to. For instance one of my best friends performed a dance before the ceremony therefore she was included in the rehearsal and so were our readers. At my sister-in-law's wedding although neither I nor by husband were in the wedding, she still invited us to the rehearsal dinner. I hope this helps. Do whatever makes you comfortable and is affordable.
2006-08-21 03:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It usually is for the bridal party but if you have people that have traveled from out of town, and she is paying, I don't see a problem with it
2006-08-21 03:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can invite the bridal party AND out of town guests. Here's the clincher -- the groom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner so she can invite whomever she wants. Let her - she's paying for it.
2006-08-21 03:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the bridal party, check out the rest of the answers, but I am sure you are right!
2006-08-21 03:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Little miss naughty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's for the bridal party and yes sometimes it does include the out of town guest.... just to be nice.
but the real key is who is paying for it?? if she is paying for it- then let her invite whomever......who cares if more people are there. But if your paying for it and can't afford all the out of town guest... then tell her straight up NO!
2006-08-21 03:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋