he has 4 kids that are 10, 8, 6, and 5 he is 29 and i am 20
2006-08-21 03:17:15 · 14 answers · asked by Marty Johnson 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She should not dislike him, she should tell you her concerns, but like most when we are 20 we are going to do what we want to do anyway. But does he provide for them?? That's the main thing. You don't want to end up being one of his babies moms. Do all of the children have the same mom. These are just some of the things to consider when picking a mate. It tells a lot about what type of person they really are. Remember the first 6 months to a year you are dealing with the representative, not who that person really is. The other side comes out after the impressing stage....... and your mom has probably been there, and did that already so give her some credit. I always found out later and the hard way that whatever my mom said was true and I always said I should have listenen......... Good luck. And it doesn't mean to dump him but be careful...........especially if you don't have any kids of your own.......guys will try and get you to do the mom thing and you will end up really playing the role...........
2006-08-21 03:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by SweetT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are these all by the same woman? Or is there multiple moms? He was 19 when he fathered the first and OBVIOUSLY not acting responsibly at the time. And fathering a child every two years is not responsible, either. With him paying out that much child support, he'll never be able to afford the nicer things in life. And are you ready to live a very restricted life? A life where all holidays and vacations are dictated by visitation schedules? Are you willing to deal with these kids and their mommas for the rest of your life? Because that is the reality of being involved with someone with kids from a previous relationship.
And if you say he doesn't see his kids that much, or have to pay out that much child support, then he doesn't sound like a good candidate for a long term relationship. And if you are not using double protection (birth control AND a condom) when having sex with him,then you are a very dumb 20 year-old and deserve a "Jerry Springer" style life.
2006-08-21 11:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just concerned about your future. 4 kids is a lot
to take on, and for a 20 year old it's HUGE! You are young, and this is the time in your life for going to college, getting your career
started, and beginning to make a life for yourself. If you end up in a serious relationship with this guy, that could really put a hold on these things. Besides, when you think about it, are you really ready to have 4 children? You didn't mention, are they all from a past marriage or was he just having children with many different women. If many is the answer, I would stay clear from this guy, and defiantly could see why your mom doesn't approve of this relationship.
2006-08-21 10:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Cjs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having 4 kids is not reason to not like him as a person, but it is certainly a good enough reason for her not to like the fact that you're going out with him. Do all the kids have the same mother? If not, what makes you think he won't get you pregnant and leave you? There is plenty for your mom to be concerned about.
2006-08-21 10:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by In the light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you as a 20 year old want to take responsibility for 4 children because that is what you are getting yourself into.
If i was your mother I would have an issue with this arrangement too
2006-08-21 10:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hes probably just using you for a free babysitter. Dont become pregnant with the 5th!
2006-08-21 10:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,you would become a entertaining mama for your 4 children.you should obey ur mother
2006-08-21 10:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers are a good judge of character!!!
2006-08-21 10:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by karimckenith 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
as a mom myself i can her point because history has a way of reapeting itself she might be worried you may wind up with four kids all by youself try to see her point of view please
2006-08-21 10:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. As long as he can provide for them and is a good father I don't see a problem.
2006-08-21 10:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by BarbieQ 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋