do i have the right to be a little ANNOYED at this?

Question

my last question was about my friend at work immitating me. i found out today she went a little too far (in my opinion)

i had a thing with a guy from work a yr ago. we were crazy about eachother but decided to remain friends because of the work thing. she knew how crazy i was about him.

thing is the guy told me today that she has been coming onto him in a big way and they slept together. i'm not bothered about him, i felt hurt that i didn't hear it from her! she still hasn't mentioned it to me.

here's the clincher tho, she is MARRIED!!

i'm a little annoyed at this, should i be?

Answer 1

The first thing that springs to mind here is, why did he feel the need to tell you about this woman, if you and he are finished. Could it be that he still wants you, or is he trying to annoy you or make you jealous. Befor doing something drastic, like telling her husband, you need to check that this is really true....maybe you could ask her or someone could ask for you.
Even if it is true, and they did sleep together, maybe you should give both of them a wide berth, as they are both undesirable in my eyes, she for sleeping with someone else while married to someone else, and him for not sparing your feelings in this by telling you all about it. Like i said, if this true, be very annoyed with both of them and avoid them in the future. If it isnt true, then your ex-boyfriend is one hell of a liar, who is hell bent on making you suffer.
I hope this helps you, and i wish you luck.......oh, and i also hope you find yourself a NICE boyfriend.

Answer 2

If everybody else is doing something foolish, that's no reason for you to do it too. In fact, it is a grand opportunity for you to stand out and to advance quickly ahead of the crowd.

Just because something is popular does not necessarily mean that it has value. Would you rather live in slavery imposed by what others think, or would you prefer the freedom of deciding for yourself?

When your instincts tell you that something is not right for you even though it's popular, listen to those instincts. Going along with the crowd can be a big mistake when the crowd is going in a negative, destructive direction.

By all means enjoy fellowship and cooperation with others, yet always do so as your own person. Don't compromise the immense, unique value of who you are just so you can become lost in the crowd.

Consider the merits of what popular opinion has to say. Then base your own opinion on your own knowledge, wisdom and experience.

You are a unique and valuable person with your own special perspective. Decide for yourself, and bring that value to life.

Answer 3

Imitation is the truests form of admiration, or so the saying goes... I understand how you would be upset that your friend has no values and chooses to sleep around instead of working on her marriage, or ending her marriage and then sleeping around. But, I think you should feel more sorry for her than annoyed, obviously she's not that good a friend and the guy is not all in the up an up either. Move on and don't let it bother you. Also, remember that you don't have perpetual dibs on a guy you chose not to get involved with (and that's not going to change in the foreseeable future, is it?).

Answer 4

Yep, this has gone into freaky territory. Anybody see Single White Female?! lol Leave her alone, stay as far away from her as possible. I wouldn't speak to her, I would have a little to do with her as you can during the course of the day. She's trouble. She's also not your friend, in case you really weren't sure about that point. Can you tell her husband she messed around on him? Anonymously, of course! that should put a crimp in her style, or your style, whichever she is doing that day!!! Be careful!!

Answer 5

Well you and the guy are not dating, but if she did know how you feel about him, then yes you should be mad. You need to confront her as a friend and tell her what she did was way out the line cause she knew how you felt about the guy and plus she is married.

Answer 6

Whondo you think you are ? why should she tell you ?
She is dong a wrong thing but why you should bother about it.The guy in question just a friend of yours. Who he sleeps with is not your problem.Are you envious ? do you want to sleep with Guy ?You should not be annoyed,Just beacuse both are your friends you feel kept in dark by Gfriend you feel ignored. In case she had told you they are sleeping together what you could have done.? Don't spoil your mood and day- keep calm

Answer 7

if your friend knew you like him,then yes you should be mad at her,but remember she is married so why would she tell you?sounds like you and the guy are really just good friends and that is all it will be so you decide whither you want to confront her or not,but make sure you confide in her for she is not a friend at all!

Answer 8

Shes taking the living p i s s!!! She cant sleep with the guy you are possibly into. No way!! She is not a work friend darling. Shes a b i t c h.

Answer 9

I would be. Sounds like this girl is a little jealous of you.I think I would have to call her on cheating on her husband.I tell my friends when I don't like something they do or if I don't agree with something they have done.I expect them to do the same.She sounds like she has some major issues.

Answer 10

Well girl, that's one friend you don't need! Yeah, you should be annoyed but let it go. She's got more to worry about now she did her thang, like her husband finding out so just be done with all of them.