2006-08-21 03:12:19 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not your problem, the trust issue is his, do not worry about it
why is he so controling...?
2006-08-21 03:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. I met my boyfriend in India and we were living together for a year after that back in Ireland. I came back to London a few months ago. We would talk on the phone quite a lot and as the time went on - we were just getting distant. He wasn't happy. It wasn't because he didn't trust me, just that he was so insecure with the situation. We ended up breaking up for about a month and then suddenly, two weeks ago we started to talk and he then came over to see me this weekend gone.
I think the reason that we are ok now is becuase we didn't communicate for a while in any other form than e-mail. I told him how I felt about him, explained how I thought we had a serious future together and how his paranoia was destroying that.
Also I told him to think about it, if he is sitting there complaining and bitching to you about trust - there isnt much hope of you having kind thoughts towards him whilst you are away - therefore, pushing you away from him.
If he loves you then he will take a long hard think about and most probably decide that he needs to change the way he thinks.
If not then do what is in your heart to do.
2006-08-21 20:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all relationships, it is inevitable that a couple will spend time apart for various reasons. The fact of you being far away from each other should not be the cause of lost trust. If you have done nothing to lose his trust, then he has some issues and you may want to consider if this is a good, healthy relationship for you. If you have done some things that have made him lose his trust, then it may be best to end the relationship now. It will free you both up to spend some time being yourselves, which is more important than being a part of a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
2006-08-21 03:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r in a relationship where there is no trust there is no love. To love u have to trust!!! If he doesn't trust u, he will think that u r 2 timing him and he will 2 time u. Two timing doesn't makes any sense u can catch STD's or STI's. Trytalking to him first and tell him how u feel about him not trusting u and if he doesn't trust u then he doesn't mean well 4 u and is not the one for u. I WON'T TELL U 2 LEAVE U MAKE A DECISION AND QUICK B4 IT'S TOO LATE.
2006-08-21 03:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Italian Empress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long is your holiday? he really should trust you as long as you don't do things that chip away at his trust. I had to trust a girlfriend living away from me for 6 months I wanted to end the relationship cos I knew what it would be like. by the end of the 6 months I was a nervous wreck cos of the stuff she would do. I would suggest only one thing. before you do anything think to yourself now would I like my partner to be doing this. it give syou an easy and quick answer to what you should and shouldn't be doing
2006-08-21 03:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its his problem, not yours. You have nothing to prove if you're not cheating. Have a good time on your holiday, and let him deal with his own insecurity. If you have never given him a reason not to trust you then it isn't fair that he is trying to ruin your time with his insecure nature. Forget about him for now, talk to him when you get back, and if he's still like this, leave him and find someone confident to date.
2006-08-21 03:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by mcnees79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should both trust each other. My bf is leaving for his country in 2 weeks and will be gone for 2 weeks if there is no trust them there will be cheating you have trust.
2006-08-21 03:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by dburk79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him, if he doesn't trust you then he never will and that is a real problem. on the other hand when you are far away are you going to trust what he's doing?
2006-08-21 03:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by justem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont have trust in a relationship then it will be very hard to make it work. Trust is essential in any relationship.
2006-08-25 02:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by sweetrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy yourself ... there's a saying "What goes on on holiday, stays on holiday" so do what you want and don't tell him! Just remember to practise safe sex and use condoms - you wouldn't want to catch anything to pass on to him, would you?
Who says he not doing the dirty on you while you're away?
2006-08-21 03:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What grade are you in? You are on holiday, huh? With your parents maybe? I dunt no whet u r ascing, bot I thenk ef u r ascing huw ta ern ur buyfriands trest beck, u shuld sind hem e nute. Thet meght werk! Guud lock!!
2006-08-21 03:21:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋