I am a 28 yr old guy, good manners, friendly, sober, sincere and caring. I have one bad quality, i get frustrated very easily and this spoils my whole image. the reason behind this is that I feel the urge to have sex with a female and i dont know how to go about it. my way of thinking about sex is that it can take place only with ur wife after marriage. I cannot marry cos of some social issues in my family. I dont know how to solve my problem as I some times get very angry and this is going too far. it is also spoiling my relationship with my colleagues in my office and my parents are also getting very upset. Kindly advice.
2006-08-21 03:09:53 · 11 answers · asked by kshahida 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Turn to God in prayer for the strength to endure. Be specific in your prayers. Daily Bible reading will help also. Try reading the books of Proverbs and John.
Try to feel your life with things that help to keep your mind off of sex. LOL...much easier said then done.
Remember thinking about sex is normal, however we are imperfect and it becomes a main focus in the world we live in today.
That's why we need to rely on God for help and strength to endure. Old fashion answer some might say, but it can't hurt to try right.....
2006-08-21 03:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by sweet4october 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As has been said... masturbate, for the immediate relief. However, there are issues you need to separate yourself from. It's your life and you need to take on the responsibility for it and not have others determine what's right or not right for you. If you feel that sex outside of marriage is important, then it's important. No if, ands, or buts. If you let others determine your social values, then they have the power in your life and you don't. The responsibility is yours and with that goes the authority. It's not your parents nor your colleagues jobs to make decisions for you. Your parents raised you with love and values. At 28, their job is done. Your colleagues have no say in the matter, whatsoever.
Live your life as you see it. Make your decisions based on your values, knowledge and experience. If you need advice ask for it and then make the decision for yourself. You are the only one that counts and will have to live with that decision, no one else can nor will live in your shoes.
2006-08-21 03:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by Morphious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot give you advice because I don't live in your world...
In my world, you can have sex with anyone who wants to have sex with you and there is nothing bad that comes from it.
People love eachother.
In my world, my families social issues do not reflect on my own behavior... I do what I think is right at the time and I don't need to inform my family unless it affects them too.
Good Luck! I hope you are able to leave your oppressive lifestyle some day and have some fun in your lifetime before your days run out... no one knows for sure what happens when you die - regardless of what they want you to believe.
2006-08-21 03:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by rabble rouser 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to rethink why you feel sex is bad out of wedlock. If you continue with this type of behavior, you will become even further sexually repressed to the point of mental illness, which causes men to become rapists and child molesters. You would be much better engaging in healthy sexual relations than becoming a sexual offender.
2006-08-21 03:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by Olive Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please forgive me for assuming, but by your name it seems that you are Muslim. Your situation is easy for me to understand but hard for you to deal with! I have a lovely muslim friend who is 31 years old and still a virgin. She is looking for the right man (she is beautiful but she has extremely high standards!) and is also in a family/social situation that would disapprove of her having pre-marital sex. Even though she lives on her own away from home, she is very faithful to her religion and beliefs and has maintained strict control over her sexual passions. There are things you can do to relieve youself from your sexual tension without having sex with a woman, but I don't feel that I'm the right one to counsel you in these matters publically. If you would like, you may reply to me with a private message.
2006-08-21 03:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ms T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think a marriage before sex can be disastrous...sex is a huge part of any relationship so to build a relationship without it is to block off a huge part of yourself,,when the issue does finally come up and you find you are not compatible, what do you do then? stay with someone who doesn't excite you? what kind of marriage is that? i think people should be responsible about it but cutting yourself off from sex is not responsible, it is somewhat cowardly....no offense :)
2006-08-21 03:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by susuze2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a psychiatrist or get help right away.
Low frustration and lack of impulse control could be a sign of something wrong mentally.
2006-08-21 03:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not your issue. I think that a course in stress management would be of much bigger benefit to you than 'getting laid.'
2006-08-21 03:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need professional help, either go to a Shrink or a prostitute.
2006-08-21 03:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by areyoustupid3214 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family sounds like mine. I understand how you feel.
2006-08-21 03:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋