Could you marry a guy with the most wonderful personality you ever came across, IF you don't love him, and he isn't just that physically, and just doesn't move you at all.
2006-08-21 02:58:51 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no but its a shame when that happens...
2006-08-21 03:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by *Kali* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Think of it this way, would you like a guy that absolutely thinks your awesome - but doesn't LOVE you to marry you? Would it be fair to you in a marriage that he's not attracted or in love with you at all but he got in it because he thinks that since both of you get alone super that he'll never find anyone else good enough for him to love so he would rather settle with you than no one? If you think you can bear to be married with a man that does not have an ounce of love for you other than friendship, than there's your answer. Not to mention, when kids come along, things get even more complicated. When you get married for any reason other than true love for each other, the true test will come on each others bonds when real life begins to happen. Family, financial, vacations, outings, friends, decisions will have to be made. In times of crisis that's where love is usually the only reason why true pairs remain strong in spite of the odds for everyone else. Don't do it because you think he's great and that's all you can do.
Also - think about how much divorce will cost you if it doesn't work out. It's a fortune! The hassle over dividing everything and if you have kids the pain it will bring them. What if you find true love and your married? Things happen at the funniest moments. Be wise! :) Best of luck to you.
2006-08-21 03:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by KittieKittie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this guy has such great personality, why don't you love him? Maybe you are giving too much thought about how he looks physically and that is why you won't fall in love with this guy.
But no, you will only hurt yourself and him if you persue this relationship and marry. Move on. Tell him how you feel... looks more a best friend type to me than a lover... maybe he will accept your friendship and then things will surely go their own way
2006-08-21 03:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by trushka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a great roommate, but the only reason I could possibly see to marry someone like that is if you needed a break on your taxes, or if neither of you could get a decent apartment on your current income (at least in Texas, married couples' incomes are counted jointly to determine affordability, which is what saved my bacon in 2000).
In any case, it would only be a legal marriage and not any sort of emotional or spiritual commitment. Which I'd still kind of chafe at given how many people out there are aching for the chance to give legal recognition to THEIR emotional and spiritual commitments. But that's another rant. =)
2006-08-21 03:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much money he makes.... lol just kidding. Personally, I would fall in love with someone with a personality over the physical stuff, so it wouldn't be an issue for me. But there does have to be attraction and 'sprark' to some degree, it's part of being in love. ;)
2006-08-21 03:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by FairyGirl73 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats funny im having the same issue. he's a great guy and i know if i marry him he would never cheat or hurt me but there is no passion i think i would just be going through the motions cause hes a safe bet. he would be a good husband and father and all off the good things, u know, but i wouldnt feel those butterflies in my stomach.
2006-08-21 03:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by michelle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I take relationships very seriously, if I don't like/love the guy that special way then I'm not going to be with him, let alone marry him.
2006-08-21 03:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Marriage is about LOVE. That'd be like marrying a good friend. That to ME anyway, is not what marriage is. I love my bf and plan to marry him because of the love.
2006-08-21 03:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have 2 be 100% completely in love with the the guy....personality and looks
2006-08-21 03:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by jaxxie1982 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, there has to be something emotionally and physically that stirs you, that make you get goosebumps all over. PLease don't stay with somone just because hes nice, or b/c you know he adores you, or b/c you'll be economically stable, I tried that once and it was the biggest mistake. Marry someone that makes your heart smile don't marry them b/c you make their heart smiles, its a two way street. Don't fall int that trap, be honest with them and yourself. Love yourself first and enjoy life...Take it easy sweetie and God Bless!
2006-08-21 03:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could not marry I guy that I didn't love. Who cares if he has a nice personality? I don't want to be in a loveless marraige. Besides, it wouldn't eb fair to either of us.
2006-08-21 03:05:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋