My father abused me for years and child and famiy services came. I wouldnt tell then any thing that my father did, and I know that was the wrong thing to do. I was then hospitalized in a mental hospital and found out that i suffer from depression and bi-polar disorder. WHile i was there i told them about what my father does to me. THey confronted him about it and he denied it. so they didnt believe me!! (this was years later) I was stuck with him after I got out of the hospital and the abuse continued. I threatened suicide again and was again hosptialized. I continues trying to tell them and they insisted I was making it up and crazy! Finally I got to the age where I could deciede rather to move in with mom or dad. Of course i chose mom. Dad threatened me! SO i didnt. then i decided to move in with mom and didnt let my dad scare me. when i was visiting my mom i just decided not to return. Now my dad hates me. He is now fallinginto a deep depression. Its my falt did i do da right thing?
2006-08-21 02:52:05 · 8 answers · asked by Broken_Inside 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Only one lady at the hospital believed me. But there was not much she could do.
2006-08-21 02:53:21 · update #1
oh yeah, my dad is an alcholic
2006-08-21 02:53:43 · update #2
Now my dad is going to take my mom to court to try to get me back! what should i do? Im afraid if I tell the judge what he does to me he will either put my daddy in jail or not belkieve me!
2006-08-21 02:55:08 · update #3
I don't know why they failed you so far. When you go to court, tell the judge exactly what happened. Tell them he's an alcoholic. None of it is your fault. Your father has made his own decisions which brought him to this point.
2006-08-21 02:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is sick and needs to get help. Abuse is not something you can just turn off like a light switch. You should not be ashamed as to what happened because it is not your fault. You did the right thing by telling people about the situation. If you don't want the abuse to continue then you need to tell the courts about every incident that has occurred over the years. Don't be afraid of your dad going to jail. He has to be punished for the things that he has done to you. Protect yourself and stay safe. If living with your mom is the safest thing for you then stay there. I'd seek some counseling for yourself because things like this can take a long time to recover from. Take Care and Good Luck
2006-08-21 03:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by smorgan1124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I never knew your dad abused you this bad...I'm so sorry! I can't believe they don't believe you, because that's just so crazy. I'm so glad you lived with your mom still even if your dad threatens you. But why does your dad want you to go back home? So he could abuse you more? Just wondering, you don't have to answer this question if you don't want to. You did do the right thing to go back to your mom because then it'll probably be worse if you still live with your mom.
And the first person to answer is right. Tell the judge that your dad is an alcoholic. I think he'll believe you. I'm just so angry that some people just don't trust some children even if they're telling the truth. They should have like a truth/lie detector :(
And I was wondering how old you were. (You still don't have to answer the question).
I'll pray for you as much as I can, and god bless you =)
2006-08-24 12:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing hunn. Don't let your father hurt you. Tell the judge what exactly your father does. A child like you shouldn't be getting hurt like this. You shouldn't be suffereing. I mean he's an alcoholic which means he's probably drunk half the time. Just tell your mother what your father does and she will call social services. You need help with this fast. Just stay with your mom. She will NOT hurt you. How someone can hurt a child is very very bad! I mean you didn't do anything. I Bet you your father was drunk the whole time. Just try to avoid your father. Thats the best thing to do. Good Luck! I'll keep you in my prayers.
2006-08-21 10:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you told your mom about this? Does she believe you? Then you shouldn't have any problem.
YES! Tell the judge everything, but practice before hand so you are comfortable and coherent in the telling.
None of this is your fault. Your dad is an adult and responsible for himself. Make sure you stay safe, like supervised visits with your dad until he gets help.
PLEASE contact a local branch of Al-Anon. It is a group for families of alcoholics. You will find a lot of people who have gone through much the same thing as you. And they can probably direct you to the right resources for further help if you need it.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE and YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME. Bad things happen to good people. You just have to work to overcome those things. You can let it ruin the rest of your life, survive it, or come out better for it. It's up to you.
2006-08-21 03:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not you fault, if this man needs to beat you to keep sane, he should have been locked up long ago. In court if you can not talk, have your mom talk on behaf of yourself, tell her what you want to say, and bring up the point that you don't have injuries now, you haven't been in a mental hospital, but when you were with you father, those things hapened, probably because he was an insane drunk. Tell her threatened to kill you when you left, but you were sick of all his crap so you gave him no heed. Tell her you won't have to commit suicide to be dead, cause he will beat you until you are dead, or just plain kill you, and then they will be sorry they never took you away and locked him up in the first place.
2006-08-21 03:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing when the child services came to you the first time and you lied to them that was a bad mistake. You should have told them what he was doing to you but i guess you reallly know that now. the nurse that believed you should have told her side of the story to everyone that didn't believe you and you should tell everyone about what youd told the nurse. About going to court just tell the judge why you should be with your mom and about what your dad did to you and that is why you don't want to live with him you want to live with your mom:) Good luck, DJ
2006-08-21 03:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by jordanssissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be elementary and supply to take a parenting type and surely your boyfriend shouldn't stay with you and your son till after he has gained help for himself...that doesnt mean you cant be there for him yet you merely cant take the possibility of your son being injured or staring at his dad kill himself see if social provider can help getting him some help and as long as there is no checklist on the two one in all yall for abuse issues ought to artwork out solid social centers will verify the two one in all yall archives and could evaluate all opportunities solid success and happy holiday
2016-12-11 12:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋