I am a single parent and I know my first priority is towards my son but I feel as though I need a significant other in my life, should I pursue getting that significant other even though I believe the Lord God want me to concentrate on my son?
2006-08-21 02:25:57 · 15 answers · asked by alexandria 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't think you should try to "look" for someone...if you feel that God is calling you to focus on your son, that's what you should do. The rest will fall into place! I have to give you LOTS of credit for being a single mom...that can't be easy! Hang in there, don't try to find love, let it find you...and enjoy the time you have w/ your son! Good luck!
2006-08-21 02:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by Renee B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on what kind of time you have in your life for a significant other and if you are disciplined with your schedule. Being a single parent is demanding, but you also need breaks to stay fresh and cheerful for your child.
You believe that God wants you to concentrate on your son, there may be a reason for this. Whatever happens, don't let yourself become bitter. Perhaps in the course of enjoying life with your son the perfect significant other will fall into your lap.
2006-08-21 09:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by BettyBoop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the Lord God wants you to concentrate on your son but at the same time the Lord God does not want you to suffer yourself. So in as much as you want to take good care of your son, you need to balance this with the need to ensure your own happiness. If the significant other i your life will bring you happiness and joy, then you should pursue it legitimately in reasonable terms . Whoever it is should accept and take particularly good care of you son as this will in the overall secure your happiness as a unit, but if the person is not genuinely interested in the boy's welfare then it's better you remain with your son and bury the idea of the significant other.
2006-08-21 09:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by lara123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there....
I think that you definitely should get out there and look for the person you feel is missing in your life. I dont know if you are an man or a woman but the fact every human being needs that significant other in their lives at one point or another
Just because you have a son doesnt mean you should forget that you exist : God wants YOU to look after YOURSELF too..
I think your first priority should also be yourself: because your son would feel unhappy if his parent felt unhappy...kids can sense pain very easily
2006-08-21 09:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by Angel_like 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the first answer. I am a single parent also, and there are times I miss having a boyfriend to be with. But at the same time, I feel like I have to take care of my daughter and myself, before I can start to care for someone else. I don't know if you understand, but I agree with letting things happen, like the first person said, they usually happen when you aren't looking for it. Concentrate for now on you and your son, and eventually someone will come along when it is time.
2006-08-21 09:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your son will get the best if you are happy. i was a single parent for a while & didnt like it all that much so I hear you loud & clear!
In saying that though, now that I have a partner, I really do cherish the days when it was just my child & I, they are memorable moments, don't make them sad ones for your son or yourself.
Enjoy him for what he is, YOUR son.
Just be smart & dont settle with the first guy that comes along just for the point of settling. Unless of course he treats you & YOUR SON with the utmost respect you both fully deserve.
Please just be happy with your son for the present & be patient, the right man will come along, you will see :o)
best of luck to you & your son
happy days ahead for you both.
hope to see your username change from miserable to extatic!!
P.S, just some added info, dont listen to the girl below me, she clearly is just after points, she doesnt have a very nice way of voicing her opinion. Its times like these when you need peoples compassion, not their mean comments.
2006-08-21 09:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Duh, you feel like the Lord is telling you to concentrate on your son, but you are considering disobeying God almighty? Oh, yeah, you will surely end up with one "jewel" of a man if you go against God's will. Think about what you're saying. God is a reward-er of those who obey him. Be patient and He will send the perfect mate for you if that be His will and you do not want to be outside of His will (no man is worth that).
2006-08-21 09:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am a single Mom of 2 boys and right when I thought I would never find someone I did! He is the best father figure to my sons I could ask for. He loves them like his own. Neither one of my boys have met their real fathers and they are ignorant jerks who don't care about them. I am so glad to have found a guy who will love and treat them like his own. You will find someone... Focus on teaching your son and raising him and the right guy will show up out of nowhere (when you aren't looking) Good luck!
2006-08-21 09:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't know what god wants (because there is none) so just do what you want.
think about what is best for the both of you. You can't be the best mother for your son if you are not happy and your life is not fullfilling. find someone, start dating, in the end this will help ur son too
2006-08-21 09:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should still pursue getting a significant other as long as you are maintaining your responsibilities to your son and insuring he is happy as well.
2006-08-21 09:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by Tunasandwich 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋