i want to have kids in my future, but my guy doesnt want kids, i love him very much and want to stay with him but what do i do about the kid part? should i just move on or stay with him and hope?
2006-08-21 01:49:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if he doesn't want children and you do, it's best to move on. You need to find someone who has the same goals as you do.
2006-08-21 01:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is that adamant about not wanting children then he probably will not change his mind. You have to make a decision of whether this man is worth you not having children EVER.
If you can not live with that then I think you should break it off with him, heal from the hurt, and try to find a man that wants what you want. If you don't you may regret it and end up resenting him or worst trying to trick him and have a baby without his consent, then he will ether leave or resent you. Any way you look at it, it would be a bad decision.
2006-08-21 08:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just answered the same question but it was the other way around. either way, you both are on polar ends of the spectrum. this is not an issue that can be compromised. if you have talked with him about this and he is just as adamant not to as you are to have them, then, you must find another guy. this is not a compromisable issue. you can't have 1/2 a kid and bringing a child into the world to placate another will only end up costing the child. good luck
2006-08-21 08:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard question. You must do whatever your "gut" tells you is right. I also don't want kids and I'm 28 and married - but my husband knew that before we got married and said if we have them, great, if not, that's fine too. This guy may be good for dating but perhaps not for marriage just because he may never change his mind - and it would be very hard on you to go through a marriage without children; it would be bad if you started to resent him. Best wishes!
2006-08-21 09:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look no one can decide 4 u but he might come round sooner or later and relize that u really want kids and that he doesnt lyk seein u down in the dumps wen eva ur around kids,but as i said it is up to u so dont feel presurd into staying with him or breaken up with him,eventually u will get kids weather it is with him or some other guy!!!!
2006-08-21 09:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by pink@candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but I wouldn't count on him changing his mind. Some people just don't like/want kids. Even if you were to get pregnant accidently, he wouldn't be happy. Maybe even resentful toward you for "getting pregnant". As painful as it will be, I would end the relationship. You guys want different things in life, it would be wrong for either one of you to compromise on a big issue such as this one.
2006-08-21 08:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by Fool in the Rain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how old u r...if he is young...he may not want children...but he may want children later once he is older...But, if he is one of those guys who hates kids...its always going to be a problem...ask him what he would do if u were pregnant...based on that answer...you might wanna evaluate ur relationship.
Also, keep in mind if you aren't on the same page most of the time, it causes a lot of problems.
2006-08-21 08:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u said u do love him try and understand why he dosen't want a kid then if the raeson is not that convincing then live him or talk to him about it .cos if he really loves u he will care about ur feels
2006-08-21 08:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by elogedieu4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want kids, then he probably won't change his mind..so in that case, it's best to move on
2006-08-25 00:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by ☮Witty Sarcasm♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, if neither of you are willing to change views, then you may ave to call it quits- you shouldn't settle for anything less than you want.
2006-08-21 08:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by greatgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋