My sister and her hubby are visiting from all the way across the country and are here for ten days. They are staying at a hotel and it is conveniently near a subway only three stops away from the stop that conveniently serves my house. But they show up at ten am and do not leave until ten pm! If they want to go somewhere, they expect my kids and myself to always accompany them and show extreme disappointment if any of us does not. We're finding we need some down time alone in our house. My sister has a heart of gold, her hubby is a pain in the neck. I won't see them for another year probably. Can I, and how, do I tell them something? Their hotel is very comfortable, by the way. They just think we should take advantage of this vacation and spend as much time as possible together. A week to go...
2006-08-21 01:40:21 · 6 answers · asked by browneyedgirl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is a tough one! Your sister must really love you to spend ten days in a hotel just to be with you. And her husband? You've got to tolerate him with kindness for your sister's sake! The issue is, I think, that just because this is their vacation, it is NOT yours! You still have things to do in the real world. You need to choose your words carefully so as to not offend. Perhaps as they leave in the evening, you could say, "I'm so sorry I can't spend part of tomorrow visiting with you but I've got....to go to the eye doctor; take an injured friend to her therapy; have a colonoscopy; get my tubes tied; ...whatever works for you! Then suggest that you meet them at a restaurant for dinner in the evening so the entire day won't be lost to not spending time with them. TAKE A DEEP BREATH! In the full scheme of things, 10 days is not that big a deal; it just seems so at the present time. And make plans with YOUR family to have a mini-vacation together after they leave. It's your sister; remember that!
2006-08-21 01:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten days is quite a long time to be spending that much time with you. Maybe you and your family can tell them that you have something to do or already have plans one of the days. You should try an be understanding that they do not get to see you for an entire year. Your sister is excited to see you though! At least they are spending the night somewhere else. I think that you should just suck it up and deal with them at your place. Its not fair to them that they came all that way and I am sure that you are not use to having them around does not help.
2006-08-21 09:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe sit your sister down and let her know that you love her to death and want to spend good quality time but your house and family and kids need thier daily schedule and duties. Maybe set up that when the kids are up, ready, chores done, you can give her a call at the hotel and plan where you can go that day, or do something.
Maybe find something so terrible that pain the neck hubby of herse wont want to come do! LOL!
2006-08-21 08:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 days out of the year isn't so long a time, but I'd suggest getting the family up earlier than they are and giving them a dose of their own medicine for the day. Show up at their hotel with a list of the most boring things you can think of to do. Does their hotel have a pool? Could be fun for the kiddies. They can spend all day in the pool.
2006-08-21 08:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by auld mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy just them tickets for something and give it to them as a 'gift' - it would be rude of them not to accept and you get the gift of some time alone. Maybe they'll get the hint.
2006-08-21 08:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by BettyBoop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just suck it up and spend time with your sister, what if you blow her off now and something happened to her 2 weeks from now how would you feel?
2006-08-21 09:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by Joy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋