Ok, let's see if I can explain this...
I have known "Joe" for about 6 years. We dated for about 3 years or so, and then unofficially broke up and remained friends. About a month ago, he said he wanted to try dating me again. I agreed, and now we've made plans to move in together (in about 9 or 10 months).
About 2 or 3 months ago he told me of a one night stand he had with this girl we both used to work with, but told me it was when we were unofficially broke up. But all the while we remained freinds he would tell me of all the girls he would go out with, but never mentioned this one night stand until very recently.
I told him it sent up "red flags" for me and suspect it happened while we were still dating. He maintains his claim that it was after we became just friends.
My question is this: Should I trust that he is telling the truth and move forward with our plans? (I'm a single mom with lots at stake if I give up my place to move in with him. I guess I'm scared. Help!)
2006-08-21 01:20:29 · 5 answers · asked by dmh1973 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is in the past. I dont know why you broke up in the first place but you did indeed breakup. What dif does it really make now? In any event you dont plan on moving in together for at least 9months, that is plenty of time to decide if you two should really be together. Keep your ears and eyes open and make clear, smart decisions. G'luck!
2006-08-21 01:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's been open and honest about the "break up". If he's telling you it happened during this time, and you have no proof, then give him the benefit of the doubt. If he had done it before you two broke up, then why tell you at all. Especially, knowing that you know the girl and that you could probably find out somehow. I understand you apprehension of moving forward when you have a child, and sometimes that women's intuition is better than any advice I can give.
2006-08-21 08:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by Supa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not move in with the guy period. Unless you plan on getting married you should not put everything on the line to move in with a guy. Its not a matter of whether you like him or whether you can trust him. It all comes down to what makes good sense. Ask yourself what the advantages would be (if any) if you decided to move in with him. Trust me when I tell you- Its much better to live on your own wishing that you lived with the guy than to move in with the guy and later wishing that you could move out. Relationship breakups are hard enough as it is. Living with soomeone that you break up with is even more complicated.
2006-08-21 08:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a true friend, u can trust him and continue with ur life with him. But be very careful and be prepared for consequences.
2006-08-21 08:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Divya T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really is your friend you can trust him
2006-08-21 08:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by catlover309 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋