i dont want to spend the rest of my life by myself and what happens if i dont find anyone else.
should i do what my parents want me to do, or shall i not.
2006-08-21 00:57:11 · 32 answers · asked by Riddler 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you should be honest with them. Tell them that is your life and even though you respect them and love them you, you are the one who is in control of your own life and future. Tell them that you will be absolutely miserable with this girl. There is somebody for everyone, so don't worry the right girl will come along. I wish you all the best!
2006-08-21 01:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by amzalama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Correct is correct in this. Your parents must have a reason for choosing the girl they did. Listen to Correct's advice and answer the questions from the Correct's answer.
Many people who marry for love or who they choose, end up unhappy. It may be that your parents are better able to spot qualities that make a good and supportive wife. Love is something that if felt to deep and too quick, may not last. True love is slow, steady and grows with time. Ask your parents why her? See if you can get to know her in a respectful way.
I'm sure she's feeling much the same that you are.
2006-08-21 01:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well my dear i think you should do what is best for you because you are the one that will have to live with your decision when it comes down to it.It doesn't matter your age if you are young or old and trust me there is someone out there for you and if you rush into anything with anyone because your parents want you too then they are not being fair to you and don't have your happiness in mind. You have heard the old cliche i am sure that there is someone out there for everyone well truly there is but sometimes it just takes time for you too find each other so please don't give up on love or life enjoy life to its fullest be who you are and stop looking so hard soon as you do love will find you it did me when i stopped looking and i am sure it will you too!
2006-08-21 01:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by temb2nice 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, u have 2 follow ur heart. if u dont want ur parents 2 choose 4 u tell them that u respect them 4 why they r trying 2 arrange things 4 u but u think it's the wrong decision and would feel better about going in2 a marriage if it was with someone u choose and love.good luck
2006-08-21 01:04:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be straight with your parents and tell them that you dont have feelings for the girl and you want to be the one to pick who you spend the rest of your life with... after all they cant force you to fall in love they should understand
2006-08-21 01:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer to your question requires, answers for more questions
Go with your consciences. Because its your life which gives you relief in the end.
But some times a sacrifice(for your parents) will give that relief too.Just get the answers simple questions.
1.What made them tochoose that PARTICULAR girl for you?
2.Why you don't want to marry that girl?
3.Do you have any other plans in your mind?
At the End of the day you should feel that relief, that didn't harm or betray your loved ones or anyone else.Because its not your owm life here some body is going to give thier life to as well(that girl)
Answer to yourself and decide.
My best wishes
2006-08-21 01:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by Correct 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like an indian matchmaking exercise! I dont think that its worthwhile spending the rest of your marriage with someone that you don't like. If your parents must get involved in your love life, how abt you allow them to recommend girls. You date for a while and get married only if u love the girl.
2006-08-21 03:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh not this old chestnut again.
Explain to your parents that when you marry it has to be for love. But thank them for their concern that you are not yet married, but that you are only young and when the time is right for you to marry you will do so for the right reasons and not because they think you should be marrying someone of their choice. You do not have to be disrespectful of your parents, just be strong and do not give into blackmail.
2006-08-21 01:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shall not marry someone your parents have choosen for you. It won't be love or anything. I rather spend my life alone than marry some guy my parents have chosen for me.
2006-08-23 02:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Insomnia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend who is Indian was almost forced into an arranged marraige so did a runner and dissapeared.
His 3 brothers found him hundreds of miles away, he was badly beaten and one of them stabbed him!
15 years on and things are still bad as you can imagine, the whole process of arranged marraiges has to come from both sides.
Tell them no, but have your bags packed just in case.
2006-08-21 01:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋