I have this obsession that my boyfriend is going to leave me. He assures me that he loves me and that he will never leave me, but his is one of those people who does not talk much and whenever I ask him if anything is wrong, he says that he is fine. We agreed that whenever there is something one of us does not like or is not comfortable with, we will discuss it, but he never says anything. And he is never jealous or anything.
Now yesterday we had our afternoon nap and meanwhile I dreamed that he left me. And during this 'nightmare' whenever I tried to discuss whith him why he wanted to break up he kept telling me that he was fed up of everything, and still he did not want to discuss what made him arrive to this decision.
When we woke up, and I told him about my dream he just laughed about it and said nothing.
Do you think I had this dream because he is truly losing interest in me?
2006-08-21 00:27:20 · 20 answers · asked by trushka 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it seems like you have a dream of distrust or paranoid and insecurity
First, remember that is your dream, your subconscious mind working at night. In your dream, you have projected him as he left you and he was fed up of everything. That shows lots of trust issue. Not about him. It is about you. You need to trust your self first. You probably feel insecure about him when he is with you. That is why you projected him with that kind of response and behavior in your dream.
Whether or not he is losing interest in you that is another thing. Your dream may have some intuition about him. Otherwise, you won't dream about it.
In conclusion, you feel insecure about him. He may have done something to make you dream about that. However, this is the trust among yourselves. Your intuition in dream may give you a message or signals.
Advice: just watch out of his behavior and yours. At then end, you may end up losing him instead of him losing you.
2006-08-21 04:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, and there is a reason in why you had this dream. I think that you should sit him down and tell how it makes you feel when he brushes the subject off. Make him understand that all relationships does seem rosey as they have their ups and downs. Coming through this is what makes a relationship and that you don't see this happening. That laugh seemed abit nervouse he is probably hiding something from you. So have an honest talk with him and make sure that he understands that he has to say something about the matter or you going to have to reconsider on where this relationship is going. Best of luck amigo as this is not an easy task to do.
2006-08-21 07:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The reason why people have dreams is because their inner self is trying to tell them things that they should know. In that dream of yours, your bf left you for the reason that is he is fed up with things. Your dream is trying to tell you that he might leave you one day because he is fed up with you.
So take this dream as a sign. Stop asking him questions about him leaving you and stop obsessing about him leaving you. You have a big problem and that is you, yourself. If this relationship go down the drain one day, its all cause by you.
Your giving him pressure, he says he loves you and he will never leave you, either you believe it or u just leave him. Coz one day he might get bored and sick of your obsession and end up living you due to your attitude. I dont even think you are inlove with him, you dont even trust him. He doesnt get jealous, doesnt mean he doesnt love you, he trust you and loves you, there is no reason to be jealous. He is the type of person that doesnt talk that much, i am sure he is happy with things. He might be the type of person who doesnt like things to change or just like things as the way it is.
Dont be so paranoid, he loves you. Just be happy with him and start trusting yourself and trust him because you say u love him. Love is about trusting each other.
2006-08-21 07:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Farah_Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You had the dream because of your own fears and insecurities and that's all there is to it.
You have to take his word when he says he'll tell you if something is wrong and don't constantly try to pick his brain. If you keep on him, he may make something up just to silence you and then, if you find out about it, you'll get mad because he lied about it.
This is also a quick way to drive him away. Some guys just don't talk a lot about how they feel, though we'd like them to, and you need to trust that he'll tell you when or if something is wrong.
2006-08-21 07:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax or you will lose him. Your dream is the subconsious part of your brain taking over and trying to show you the situation you are creating in the consious. Just because a man is not talking alot does not mean they do not care. You need to analyze if you secretly are being self destructive to the relationship. This is common ammoung some women who are not happy unless there is some drama in their lives. Insted of talking about him leaving you when you are together, talk about something else. Try talking about him, men like it when women ask questions that let them talk about themselves, even if most me would deny it.
2006-08-21 13:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by drglizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are simply playing your worries or replaying events of the day... easily this is your worry. You are going to worry yourself out of what seems to be a good man. Don't get worried about it, maybe there is nothing for him to dislike or get jealous about because he knows that you love him as well.. just let go of this fear that he going to leave you, because this is pushing you away from him and making him think that is what you want to happen...
2006-08-21 07:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are insecure for some reason and it is coming out in your dream. Your boyfriend is telling you the truth. What happens in the dream is not the issue, it is an underlying problem. Maybe you just need to communicate better with him and you will feel more secure.
2006-08-21 07:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had that dream cuz you're obsessing over it. Why do ya think he's leaving? Here's a news flash: If a guy's quiet and you ask him what's he's thinking. Most of the time they say "nothing". Well, usually they mean it. Guys are not usually as complex-minded as we girls give them credit for (no offense guys!). Take his word on it. Also, your nagging might eventually chase him off. It's like constantly accusing someone of cheating. Eventually they're going to say "to h*ll with it! If i'm going to be accused of it, I might as well do it". Do yourself and your bf a favor. Unless you have a legitimate reason to worry (like he's done it before), STOP IT!!!
2006-08-21 07:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think so. But if u continue bugging him with the questions of ur possible break up then he may really get fed up and leave you. If he says he loves u then why dont u just believe him and move on and enjoy with him while ur together instead of thinking bout those useless things.I think the fed up part of ur dream is true, he may be fed up of ur silly thoughts.Ur being stupid.
2006-08-21 07:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by Roosh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, my girlfriend has the same dream on a regular basis, I have looked this up and apparently this is the mind playing the reversal, that even tho on the surface you are quite worried that he might leave but subconsiously there is a connection that you know that you are quite secure and that he wont leave you
2006-08-21 07:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by Steve R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋