i met a girl(candace) the day befor yesterday. she moved into the apartment nextdoor to me. i whent over there and candace and her friend(randy a gay guy) and i just instantly started talking as though we had been friends forever. later in the night we had music playing and we wanted to dance but only randy knew how so we sat there while randy danced. randy being the coolest homo took me and her out of the seat and got us to dance. it was amazing neither of us danced before but somehow we made it look easy. 10mins go bye and im just grinding her with such passion and love it just exploded, automaticaly there was chimistry.
the next morning she comes to my apartment, and we soon just get right into it. that night around 1130 i knock on her door and she dosent want her rromate to open if its me.
now here i am the next morning and im wondering what to do. i figure she needs space. so in about aweek from now i'll bye her some flowers for her to find infront of her door. and do it right
2006-08-20 23:53:06 · 18 answers · asked by ADHD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sean, remember I warned you about a relationship with a girl in the same bldg? Your hormones are running your show. I remember when I first made love to a girl in the same bldg and she was pee'd when I didn't call the next morning. Candace is playing a game, better not to get emotionally involved. She can be a playmate, but caution against anything more serious.
If you leave her alone, she will become curious and when she gets the itch again, she will knock on your door asking for the sugar. Until then, you should bring other chicks back to your flat ASAP and make sure Candace hears. Let her know you are not dependent on her and that you are a man about town. Jealousy is a great weapon when used judiciously. You need to get the right balance. Keep the knives locked away.
Could be that Randy is bi and not pure gay, so watch out for that also. Some guys start straight and then turn gay, so you get this cross-over phase.
Best, Hell
2006-08-23 00:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by hellbent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In fact I think that "YES" you rushed too fast, but that was not your decision only. Both of you decided about that. you didn't push her, she agreed to do what she did and if she now regrets it, that's not your fault!
Well, if you want this story to continue, then yes, you have to give her some space. Let her reflect over what you two did and put her thoughts in order, cz she might feel confused right now.
The flowers idea was a good one. Yes, you're right. Maybe wait for some days, and then after things have calmed a little bit, send her some flowers, a card, smth nice...chocolates.
If nothing works out call her and try to work things out. I don't think she is so indifferent towards you. I bet she keeps thinking about you all day long, so be patient and find the right moment to show her that you're a nice guy!
Good luck!
2006-08-21 07:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously had second thoughts about that night. I'm sure she feels she rushed it too. Don't do the flowers thing,just wait until you see her and try to talk about it then. Women love flowers but in this case it might end up like putting salt in a wound. Just give her some time and some space. Or talk with her roommate about how she's feeling. Whatever you do let her make the next move, Good luck.
2006-08-21 07:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through your profile and noticed that you've had feelings for candace for quite some time, so forget what everyone else says. Go with your instincts. I think giving her some space for a week and then going over there to find out what's going on(with flowers) is the best approach to your situation. I really hope everything works out for you.Good luck!!!
2006-08-22 02:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet do that, as she probably feels guilty because maybe she thinks that you wanted a 1 night stand only. This is just really a big misunderstanding. The flowers should do the trick try throughing in a box of expensive chocolates. That should get her thinking. :)
2006-08-21 07:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why, we call it as , love at first sight , it is really very intresting to know , now you must go little slow and can make it for ever , take little more time , one day you both will be able to make it forever , good luck to help some one become a normal human and leads a natural life ,.
2006-08-21 07:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be feeling alot of things. That she rushed into it. That you used her. That you think she's easy. Etc. Women are weird. My suggestion would be to try and talk with her. Tell her how you feel. Flowers might also set a good impression.
2006-08-21 07:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by jagergurl06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't she want her roommate to open the door if its you? If he's gay then she shouldn't care right?? This is seriously strange...forget the flowers and forget her. I think this girl could be trouble.....
2006-08-21 06:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One night stand. Some things are just meant to be left alone. This is is one of those things.
No flowers, no nothing. Leave it alone.
2006-08-21 07:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by OldyMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"the next morning she comes to my apartment, and we soon just get right into it." did you say you two had sex???
perhaps she feels something other than chemistry... maybe the best thing to do is just carry on with your life and leave her alone for a while...
forget doing anything else, of you might look like a stalker...
2006-08-21 07:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋