Do you think it's ok to be someone also to attract women?

Question

Do you think it's ok to be someone also to attract women? I read this book about attracting more women.It's all about changing your personality.I did it for a while and it works,but in the end of the day I feel really bad because it just isn't me at all. I think women should like you the way you are, you can't really be fake/someone also for rest of your life,because you won't live it happily.What you think?

Answer 1

The best way to attract women is to be yourself...Nothing worse than thinking that your hooking up with someone and then discovering that they have been bullshitting you the whole time...

Answer 2

I don't think you have to change your total personality and I agree that others should like you the way you are, not a "fake" version of "you". HOWEVER, if you know you have irritating behavior quirks, or if you know you're not ept with conversation or caring about others or talking about THEM instead of yourself all of the time, you can "MODIFY" your behavior to make yourself more attractive to females without compromising your true self. I don't think the books are calling for you to be a totally different person, just giving you suggestions on what sort of behavior would be acceptable to a women. So..."MODIFY"....don't completely change. It's called a "learning experience" and that doesn't make you any less of a person than who you already are. Good luck.

Answer 3

Preach!

Hell yeah you're right. There is no reason in the world you should be something you are not. You decide who you are, and being something else instead of that is just plain an insult to your existence. Only one person in the world knows what you want, and that's you. Being fake will slowly eat you up inside until you don't remember who the real you is anymore.

Don't be something you're not just for some girl, cause she isn't worth your time if she only buys into something you are not.

Answer 4

Why not? Women do it all the time...and I'm a woman so I should know. Seen it happen before on more than one occasion. But if you want to get anywhere other than a one night stand its best to just be yourself. If they won't accept that then they weren't worth your time anyway. You'll find someone eventually who will love each and every endearing quality and quirk you possess.....good luck to ya!

Answer 5

You are absolutely right,,if you try to be something that you are not,,and end up landing a woman,,in the end she will see that you were a fake.Most woman love the companionship of an honest man by their side,,not a fake.Just be yourself and you will see in the end you will attract the righ one for you.
If you do not like yourself for who you are ,,,and try to come out as someone else who you are not,,it spells disaster

Answer 6

OK, here's the real deal; most women will tell you to just be yourself....WRONG!! Chances are good that women may not like you for you...that's why it's important to do a little acting...tell them what they want to hear, even if it's a lie. Pretend to be what they want you to be....to an extent. If what they want you to be goes against your own personal beliefs, then that's where you draw the line.

Answer 7

I know a guy that is trying to be like that. You can see right through the person that they are faking it. Just be yourself. I tried being different to impress guys and they can tell I am not like I say I am. It is kind of a relieve. I made myself out to be better than I am. Its easy to do that online. In person people can tell who you are. Even liars are seen through eventually.

Answer 8

Stay true to yourself. But then again the more people you meet, the more you learn and this helps fine tune what your looking for!

Answer 9

i agree, i think you should always be true to yourself