Kay. Well.. I went out with this boy for about eight months. At first he was always excited to see me. Then that slowed, and he didn't want to really talk anymore. (He wasn't much of a talker, when we started.) Finally, I talked to him about it...Well Breaking up.. and He said Maybe we should till we could see each other more. (Long distance.) I loved him.. and I thought about him alot. I was wondering why? He hasn't had a Girlfriend, yet. I was sad that I loved him. I thought maybe he could be someone else to me.. A good friend or like a brother person. Lol. But it's hard. Lol. Then he comes back to me .. saying .. He loves me more than a friend... I was confused again .. Now, I'm kinda sad .. I don't love him anymore.. He doesn't realize that a relationship takes talking. I couldn't reach him for awhile.. and Just quit. Now, he saids ... He wants to talk.. Unlike before. I was just wondering.. >_> Should I try again? I feel so .. I don't know strange around him.
2006-08-20 23:30:26 · 15 answers · asked by kaisers_angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'll add details later. xD I ran out of space.
2006-08-20 23:31:16 · update #1
Define Grow up? K. I used to live where he did. I'm not used to the guys close to me. Well the way they act. >_> The ones I want are taken. xD I make good grades. :P
2006-08-20 23:37:36 · update #2
Sassy, I like you. xD It is a REAL problem. A problem is cofusing to someone. This is confusing to meh. :o Thanks for the reply, though.
2006-08-20 23:40:37 · update #3
Sounds like you're very young. At you're age, you should be doing exactly what you are doing... Learning about other people, yourself and relationships.
Sounds like you already learned your lesson from this guy.
The lesson you should learn here from me is that people don't change. He has a weird thing going on and he's never going to change.
Find a guy that makes you happy from the beginning.
2006-08-20 23:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is such a strong word to use in any situation, and communication is the key to any relationship. Loving someone means loving them no matter what. Its hard to see but it sounds very much like your holding on to an idea rather then a feeling. If you loved this boy then those feelings would always remain and you would not need to ask the question to try again. If you loved him as a friend / brother person then again this type of love would also remain. You need to work out if you do actually love him or if this is just a passing thing. And if you wants to know you, then give it time to see what he is willing to offer. He may after all consider you as just a friend he would like to talk to.
2006-08-21 06:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by angel jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound so sad. Now I'm sad for you.
Long distance relationships don't ever work too well. He's had time to realise what you mean to him but you used that time in a different way and now you don't feel love for him anymore, things won't ever go back to the way they were. You've accepted the way things were without him and moved on. You can't just undo all that and it sounds like he's messing with your head.
If you're not comfortable around him anymore then there's little point pursuing the relationship and if you're happy with the way you are without him then don't go back to him. You have to tell him though.
2006-08-21 07:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sindri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is not Love.....sounds like something that is an immature teenage thing. Second, you are long distance.....why bother? You are trying to create something that is not there. Be Done, sweetie! You sound like a confused person. Instead of worrying about having a boyfiriend, you need to figure out who you are, have some goals and direction in life and set some personal boundaries and, for heavens sakes........stop blabbering!
2006-08-21 06:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should move on. If you loved him before and he agreed on breaking up before then for sure he doesn't deserve a second chance. He should have stayed and work things out. He'll take you for a fool if you take him back. move on. Soon you'll find someone else. Maybe the ones that you like are the ones which you don't deserve. Remember you should't judge someone by his or her appearance.
2006-08-21 06:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by booboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank God you ran out of space....you're wasting your time "wondering" about this guy. You're young and don't need the burden of having anything permanent with someone just as confused as you are. Just let it go and go back to bed. Write again when you have a REAL problem.
2006-08-21 06:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if u are saying now that u don't really love him then tell him the truth tell him what you feel.And try to find out exactly what he thinks of you and if he is willing to try this out,by being "part" of the relationship tell him if you are going to try this thing again then he has to give more then he did before.
2006-08-21 06:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by SugaPie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bwaaaaaaaaaaah
ill give u my opinion, just forget him. if u feel anything, after its all been dragged out as u said, i think u would mainly feel lust with alot of pity.
wat i would do if i was a girl. give him the flick and get a man that knows wat he wants. just imagine if he cant decide if he wants to talk or not. want he gunna be like wen u ask him about a family.... you'll both b old and grey before hes made a decision
2006-08-21 06:42:27 · answer #8 · answered by jarrodg2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start out as friends, maybe a new start is needed. Don't rush into things that will make you uncomfy. Or you'll end up feeling the pressure.
2006-08-21 06:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by bratworth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun it sounds to me like you are very confused indeed,but for the most part,,if you do not feel right about starting back up with him,,then please by all means don't.If you put yourself in a possition with a relationship that you are not one hundred percent comfortable with ,,there will be problems in the future.
Good luck
2006-08-21 06:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by ladydi_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋