my baby mother is filling my son with crap something happened to him quite seriously which concerns a cousin of theres and she is slandering my name and telling my son that i did it what do youi think i should or how i should go about doing it and wont let me see my son anymore well so she thinks
2006-08-20 23:30:04 · 18 answers · asked by rastaman D. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is playing a very dangerous game that will end in unhappiness for all of you. The child will suffer horrible consequences and irrefutable damage. She will pay dearly as one day this child will make their own decision and despise her for her CHOICE with regard to his well being and needs.
Get an attorney and sue for your rights as well as his future well being. Remember she must be able to PROVE any and all allegations she is reporting. Step up and do not be afraid. You have rights and an obligation to your son. Good luck!
2006-08-21 00:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you don't have a court order stating your rights as a father of this child....the he/she said crap goes on every day and everywhere. Girls get pregnant....don't bother getting a court order establishing parental obligations and the Guys sit back and want to visit the child but don't support the child.
I don't know what is involved in your problem issue....What your cousin or relative did has nothing to do with you other than he's your cousin. Slander? now that's a term.....that doesn't fit in this situation.
Remember the saying" "stick and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me"! This childish saying is truth spoken. Your former girlfriend is using words to hurt you and she is in control of the situation because she's using your child as a pawn to win the game.
Women who do this are spiteful, manipulative and controlling. You need to take matters in your own hands, petition the courts for your rights to visitation. Be aware by doing this you'll also be signing yourself up for years of child support!!!!! If you aren't supporting this child.....and helping the birth mother financially via a court order....you really have no right all to complain about what the birth mother does or doesn't do.
2006-08-20 23:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See this what can happen when 1 person is the primary carer of a child. They can be so eaten up with spite or hurt, that they take it out on their previous partner through the child.
That is so unfair to the ex and to the child.
Please go to your local Citizens Advice, or a solicitor, and get some help with this.
2006-08-20 23:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she so angry towards you? You must have had feelings for each other once, maybe you could use that as a stepping stone to communicating with her, or if she totally won't speak to you maybe you could ask a mutual friend who could act as go between and try to put your side of the story to her and vise versa?
As you're the baby's father, you do have a legal right to see him (unless the law says otherwise), maybe you should get legal help.
I hope you can get this sorted out for the baby's sake. He needs both parents.
2006-08-20 23:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, difficult question. is your son old enough to make up his own mind? how about speaking to your baby mother's mother? sometimes the older generation can see past the emotions and realise what is best for your son, their grandson. enlist any help you can, but most of all, don't join in the b*tching - she'll only back off more. keep talking honey, it'll turn out ok in the end. Trust.
2006-08-21 00:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Jo H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to court and get parental rights. Then there is not much she can do. My brother has not seen his son in three years and it breaks his heart but he thinks it is too late. You would not want that. children need there fathers in there life and the courts know that. Go to citizen advice and they will point you in the right direction.
2006-08-21 10:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by TERRI-ANNE D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family drama drives me crazy! He said, she said, they did, etc. etc. The kids get caught in the middle of it!!!! by so called Adults, adult enough to make the kids, but not mature enough to act like parents!!! Go get some LEGAL advice and not participate in the drama, maybe the mother gets off on it and you'll forever have that crap in your life, so nip it in the butt now, and legally!!!
2006-08-20 23:58:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to consult a lawyer about this one. You may be able to secure a free interview for advice - try the Yellow Pages or your local Citizens' Advice Bureau.
2006-08-20 23:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by mad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and book an appointment with a solicitor, and fight for access through the courts. She can't stop you seeing him for nothing. Lesser men have walked away, thinking they're spiteing the mother, but they're only hurting their kids. FIGHT.
2006-08-20 23:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a job for a solicitor. They will be able to tell you what your rights are.
And I know I will be accused of being anal, but could you use full stops in future? Made this hard to read without them...
2006-08-20 23:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by keefer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋