We finally are going to meat each other. I'm 21, she's 20. What should I bring? flowers, or a huge fluffy toy, maybe? where to take her? should I hug her when I meet or not?
many thanks
2006-08-20 23:19:08 · 22 answers · asked by Mr. Owl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Old chap....absolutely DO NOT buy her any flowers, presents, gifts of any kind. Do you want to start this relationship by signalling that you are the one who must win her approval, that she is the prize???
NO.....keep it low key, coffee and a bit of shopping perhaps. Make sure she pays her way and let her know that you want her but you can take her or leave her at the end of the day.
This all sounds counter-intuitive but I assure you that will flick all her attraction switches big time.
Come across as non-approval seeking, come across as the real prize, the rare opportunity for this lucky girl as if you could care less whether she takes it or not. Always be a gentleman, make her feel secure but NEVER EVER spend money on a woman you don't know.
If you follow this advice to the letter.....you will get more results with this woman than a rock star on tour.
Viking xxx
2006-08-21 04:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by Viking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god!!!
No flowers, no fluffy toy, and definitely don't hug her.
No to the gifts because it sends the wrong message. Sure you like this girl, that's already obvious to her cause you manned up and asked her out, but why are you giving a complete stranger a gift for? Whats the occasion for? You giving her a prize/reward for dating you? It should be a miracle that she is holding your attention.
No to the hug because again, you don't know this woman, why are you greeting a stranger with an awkward gesture meant for loved ones? Save the hugs for when you to get more intimate, first time don't bet on it having the effect you want. You aren't there to get the hug that friends and family get, you are there to lock lips and show her why she should be with you.
Don't take her to the movies or at a fancy restaurant, because again it supports spending of money and it does little for you to talk over. Take her to a place where you two will have a lot of activities to take place and have time/no loud noises to hold a conversation. Take her to a fair, boardwalk, or even possible a theme park because that's always fun.
If you can't afford any of the suggested places. I think you should have a light lunch for the first date in a fun/casual place (a nice/healthy deli or cafe is what will hit the spot). Its economic, plus you can eat simple food and talk.
Cause that all that should be happening on the first date, talking.
Good Luck ^_^!
2006-08-21 06:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by silverbolt_64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say, "finally", obviously you've been introduced to each other but have never met in person. So, give her a nice short hug and smile at her and say," It's nice to have finally met you!".Then appoligize for not meeting her sooner! You don't really know what her reaction and thoughts and feelings are when you both meet. Try not to be nervous, ask her if she's a little nervous because you are ( trust me, you will be) so will she!
Tell her that you have to go back out to your car for something, If you like her, bring back a yellow flower. Yellow means friendship, it's a good way to start out. If you don't like her, leave and never come back! No, just kidding....
It will be a little weird at first, so ask her if she's hungry and how hungry she is and go from there ( good home cooked meals from a buffet is a good start). Also, since it is your first date with each other and it is still day light out, you could go to a park or you could even ask her if she has a favorite spot anywhere and if it's okay to go there! You both could go shopping together at the mall or something like that. Remember that you want to spend some time together and to get to know her a little better. Offer to pay for anything she wants as long as it is reasonable!
Be a gentlemen, open her door for her, kiss her hand,(not in a weirdo way), get some ice cream or something sweet together ! After all your celebrating meeting each other, so have fun! but be just as sweet and nice! Do not check out other women! This is a big no no! Tell her how beautifull she is and smells etc. Compliment her outfit and everything, women like that. Because we try hard to look good for you guys and guys should show more appreciation. When she sees that you are cool and calm, she will become less tense. You could take her to a salon and offer to pay for a pedicure or manicure for her and you both could get one together! Unless that seems too awkward for you, it's okay. What ever you do, at the end of the date or day! Don't make it too late or too long! Be reasonable, you'll see her again if she wants to see you again. Do not be touchy touchy feely feely, she would probably be uncomfortable with that! Say a short sweet good bye and go from there!
2006-08-21 07:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experiance dude, just be yourself.
If your meeting for the first time, then I am guessing its in a town, city, market place or a shopping center. If that is the case then dont worry about bringing something, because you (or she) will be carrying it for a period of time.
If you are at a sea-front, or have any amusement centers, theme parks, etc, then play a few games and try to win her a toy there instead.... and just go whever your feet takes you. Just be yourself. Dont try to go places which stops you from making a conversation, like watching a film.
If she is not familiar to the place your at.... ask her "is there anything youd like to do, go, or see?" as an example.
As for hugging when you meet her, thats just an option. Its not a bad thing to hug someone. If you have been looking forward to seeing her, then hug her!!! Hug her nicely and in a friendly manner. If your not too confident at the hugging stuff... then DONT!! You will still have a chance to hug when you say good bye later in the day... so dont rush that sort of stuff.
Just be honest with her... if you are nervous, tell her. She is probably the same too... you never know, but just be yourself and good luck. I dont think I can help anymore.
All the best!!!
2006-08-21 06:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by The Avenger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the gifts sound a little over the top for a first date - it would make me feel more nervous personally. You can always treat her on your date drink/ice cream whatever and she won't have to carry stuff around with her.
I would say flowers are better after a few dates to show you like her (and you'll have more idea of her taste)
Hugging depends on how well you know her already over the phone or net, I would say no though, or a small hug and kiss on cheek not a cuddle. You can see how it goes through the date.
Plan a short date like a coffee shop/quiet pub which you can extend if you click., eg a pub which offers food or a fun activity so you have something to talk about. Cinema is rubbish for first dates as you don't talk.
2006-08-21 06:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by Rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noooooooo fluffy toy no never give a fluffy toy on the first date just b yourself flowers is a nice idea and a hug maybe a kiss on the cheek when you meet
2006-08-21 06:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't bring her a whole bouquet instead bring her a single pink rose and perhaps a card, in that card u should say how excited you are to meet her, and what you like about her, and how you can't wait to get to really know her.
I think a semi-romantic/semi-casual is always nice for a first date...you don't want a high end romantic restaurant, just cause it requires too much etiquette for the first date...try like a nice small italian restaurant. My recommendation...ask her what her favorite foods are ...chinese? japanese? italian? mexican? or whatever...and based off of that...find a restaurant you have heard or known to be some what romantic....and go there.
When you meet her, perhaps a hug would be good...but it totally depends on her too..some chicks won't hug until the end of the date...so...just play that by ear and based on how she is responding.
2006-08-21 06:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so glad you asked this question, i'm going on a first date myself in a few days (i'm 24 by the way) and it's nice to know that fellas are excited and nervous of first dates just as we are! I personally would not like to receive a gift of any discription on the first date, but for a second date i agree that one flower would be lovely. Remember to hold the door for her, be polite and smile. I would hold off on any kind of physical contact until the end of a date, go to give her a peck on the cheek but slightly linger for a bit and see how she responds. I can't stand men being too forward. Just be yourself and enjoy! Good luck!!
2006-08-21 07:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Miss Sausage ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! Its a lot of fun to finally meet someone for the first time. I like the fluffy toy idea, it gives her something she can keep forever to commemorate your first date.
Be a gentleman, and allow her to be a lady. Have fun and good luck. I hope your friendship will deepen and enhance both your lives.
Love ~The Fat Lady
2006-08-21 06:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by Fat Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a huge fluffy toy... flowers and choccy would be nice. Go to a nice restaurant, don't hug when you meet- give her a peck ;) Put your arm round her back.
2006-08-21 06:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by Rox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋