What should i do?? iv been going out with my b/f for 4 months. When were together we have a really great time. I think a lot of him and would be really upset if i didnt see him anymore. However we only get to see each other once every week and he never really makes the effort to contact me anymore but whenever i question him about how he feels about me he just says you know how i feel, i like you a lot.
Soon though ill be seeing him almost every day as he has had a transfer through work to my department.
What should i do? end it now? or wait till he moves into my office and see how things go? i dont want to be made a fool of. im a very proud person and it isnt like it would take me long to find someone else.
2006-08-20 22:46:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to have good honest communication with any relationship. Tell him how you feel, and what you need to have to have a relationship.
You haven't dated a huge amount of time, but it is enough to be fully honest with what you expect in a relationship. I am honest from the get go. It is better that way. If the expectations are not met, then it is time to move on.
You are right, there are others out there who will give you the time you need.
2006-08-20 22:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't think its working let it go.
The thing is when you only see someone once a week they do tend to have a life and you probably do as well, So I wouldn't worry too much about this, see how it goes when he transfers and see how you feel.
I lived with my partner for 2 years and now we only see each other every 2 weeks which is REALLY hard but it works because you have to realise that people do other stuff and they have to get out and live their lives, the fact that hes with you is a totaly bonus and you enjoy each other company- just see how it goes if it doesnt feel right then finish it- rather now after 4 months than after 4 years eh?
2006-08-20 22:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is just friendship you want, you can continue the friendship and also become work mates, but if there is more on one side than the other. it will be a big mistake to work with each other.
You will have to take the time to talk and I don't mean chat between snogs.
Make a meal or arrange to meet at your favourite place and talk 'just talk' even if it takes an hour or two 'Talk'.
Be prepared to be upset, arrange to meet a good friend after. You might have some good news for them, if not there is a shoulder for you.
"Daddy Dave"
2006-08-20 23:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to give it some time. It's only been 4 months so you need to see how it goes after he moves into your office. If things don't improve then you should cut him loose. From what you say, it seem like he really does like you since you mentioned how you guys have a great time together. So why not give him a chance?
2006-08-20 22:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by * TeXaS cHiCk * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was in a relationship where the guy made no effort to see me, (i always had to call him, and I had to do all the plannning), my mother told me that it would not work out. Even though I did not want to believe her, it didn't work out. I don't want you to break up on this assumption though, so talk it over tell him how you feel, and then see what he says and go from there. best of luck!
2006-08-20 22:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by Alexa's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it now-- he's emotionally unavailable based on what you've said. You now have a prime excuse: "I have a rule: I don't date anyone working in my office, it can get too complicated. Let's just be friends." Then get out there and find a man that treats you right and really deserves you!!
2006-08-21 01:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another "Man The Hunter" situation here.
He has caught you and no longer feels the need to do any running.
Play it cool and wait to see what happens.
To be honest you seem to know already that you are ready to move on.
2006-08-20 23:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont lessen to the doughnut who repled first why not wait till he gets the transfer and see how it goes if it dont work hey no probs you havent losst ne thing! and if you chuck him now you may passed up on somthing special so give it a go you havent lost any thig if it dont work and if it does you could gain alot good luck!"
2006-08-20 22:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by chickenbutt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't end it now. If youreally love that guy just give him some time. Your relationship is quite fresh. Try not to pressure him and let him call you. Ignore him for a while. He should react to that, if not, then break it up.
2006-08-20 23:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by booboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait and see how things develop when he transfers over. Give him a month or two. He might surprise you. (You can dump him later if he doesn't.)
Love hurts. Even when you find the right one.
Good luck!
2006-08-20 23:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋