i have taken to sleeping with a woman that is not my wife. for over a year now i have skulked and cheated away. maybe once a month or at worse 2wice a week. i want to stop but don't. the time i have is intense but that is i know because it ain't real. i dint have to discuss the relationship debate with the other one. i can do it and scram.
2006-08-20 22:46:00 · 17 answers · asked by Hattori Hanzo 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
look its great to have a fling now and again but you've got to greedy,take the bull by the horns and gain con-troll.get rid of the mistress and have a break,spend some time thinking how lucky you was to have two women on at the same time and then you can have another fling when your more relaxed about it.Don't tell the missus,she will make you life hell for the next 20 years!!!
2006-08-21 03:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Indiana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, cheating on your spouse is not a good idea at all. But it obviously troubles you as you have come looking for help. If you want help, I would go to a doctor for some sure advice. I would recommend trying to make your relationship more interesting with your wife. That way you would not feel the need to compensate a lack of romance/spice in your relationship by cheating with someone else.
I also think that it is vital that you own up to this with your wife because if you don't do it, your wife may find out or it will just trouble you even more, take the high road. Your wife would be alot more accomodating if you told her rather than her finding out.
2006-08-21 15:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by pedlamaniacs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually things like this begin to eat at a person. You know what you are doing is not right and so you are punishing yourself with it.
The worst thing you could do is confess this to your wife, why should she have to be put through the selfishness that this act is.
You have two choices that I can see. Stop the affair or continue. If you stop don't look back. If you continue then accept the responsiblility of it and stop whining about it.
You have made this mess so now you need to be a man and deal with it.
2006-08-21 05:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you're asking, but it sounds like you're addicted to the affair. Any time you do something over and over again that you know you shouldn't do, you have to think about addiction. The only way to stop is to come clean with your wife, and stop seeing the mistress and get counseling, but it sounds like you haven't hit rock bottom.
2006-08-21 05:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you know you are wrong and what you are doing is wrong. yes the grass looks greener on the other side. but stop and remeber who is there for you when you need support? who does your laundry and picks up after you? i thing you know the answer in your heart you need to end the relationship now. before you wind up with more issues than you already have. good luck and take care!!!
2006-08-21 06:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if you are not very happy with yourself, and you shouldn't be. at least that shows you do have some morals. Get out of the relationship and spend the extra time working on your marriage. soon you'll start to feel alot better. good luck.
2006-08-21 06:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by beebee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not a mental health question. You have to think about what you're doing to both women. If you're feeling sick, it's your conscience trying to tell you something. What you have with this 'other woman' is pure sex - you could try masturbating. Women aren't playthings put on earth for male satisfaction.
2006-08-21 08:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by cymry3jones 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame you poor thing!!!! I feel so sorry for you!!! NOT!!!!!!!! I hope your wife finds out and kicks your butt and the takes you to the cleaners for every last penny that you have, you are scum, slime, a cheater and what's worse is that you've done it before, will do it again and are still looking for sympathy.......
2006-08-21 05:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Pie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you obviously don't care for being with one person, so instead of staying with her, have the decency to tell her the truth so she can find an honesy respectful man, not a liar, cheater, and then you can be with whomever you please without feeling the guilt. You'll just have to deal with the consequenses later.
2006-08-21 05:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by nurseTINA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i wouldnt be feeling that great either if i was a cheat and a liar so maybe you deserve to feel like this then you might no what your wife is going to feel like when she finds out
2006-08-21 05:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by ââ¢Â¥ ââ¢Â¥abc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋