Here's the scene: A person (not one of your friends but more like an acquaintance) likes you but you don't like them. Even though this is the case, you say you want to be friends with them.
Do you think this means that you secretly hope the friendship will develop into something more, either so you won't have to fully disappoint that person when you reject them or for some other reason?
2006-08-20 22:33:46 · 30 answers · asked by Sindri 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Absolutely not. It means exactly that. Remember this because once you are placed in the friends category, very rarely are you moved "up" to more than friends.
The person who says this pharse, means it, literally. Here where problems start. The person being told this pharse often tries to look deeper into it. Or they translate it into something else.
2006-08-20 22:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by Hey You 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is an excellent question, and a good reason why I bother to answer questions here.
First of all, I would shed light on the fact that you are not being honest - with either yourself or this person. You say you don't like them, but will "ease their pain" by being freinds with them. Let me say that you aren't doing them any favors by leading them along like this. Eventually, either they will find out, or something will happen where they want the relationship to blossom, and you will be forced to reveal your true feelings.
Why waste both your and their time?
If there is another agenda, like you not being sure if you want the freindship to develop into something more, only you can answer that. I assume that other people may have a say in that, like in a situation where your best freind is dating this other person's best friend, and it would be "convenient" if you were to date this other person so all of you could go out. Even if you didn't like the other person. How wrong is that?
Put yourself in the other person's shoes, and imagine how you would feel if you found out later on that you weren't liked at all - even from the very start? I think you'd feel used.
Don't worry about rejecting someone or disappointing them. The reality of reality is that we will all be disappointed with other people at some time in our life, and to be led down the wrong path to ineviatbility just creates more animosity in the end.
Be honest, truthful, and straight-forward. It'll save you time, hard feelings, and keep your life in perspective. Let people know what you think, but remain respectful - which is obvious you are - so that you and everyone else has no questions about who you are.
In the end, it's all for the best.
2006-08-20 22:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by Scott Rinke 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could mean just wanting to be friends, but it usually means its not gonna happen. Like when a person declines an invitation and you say maybe next time, if that makes sense.
2006-08-20 22:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by fnqbigboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Puff, the Magic Dragon" is a song written by Leonard Lipton and Peter Yarrow and made popular by the group Peter, Paul and Mary in a 1963 recording. The song is so well-known that it has entered American and British pop culture. Contents [hide] 1 Lyrics 2 Urban legend 2.1 Bans 3 Television Specials 4 Cultural references 5 Other versions 6 See also 7 External links [edit] Lyrics The lyrics for "Puff" were based on a 1959 poem by Leonard Lipton, a nineteen-year-old Cornell student. Lipton was inspired by an Ogden Nash poem titled "Custard the Dragon," about a "Really-O, Truly-O, little pet dragon." Lipton passed his poem on to friend and fellow Cornell student Peter Yarrow, who created music and more lyrics to make the poem into the song. In 1961, Yarrow joined Paul Stookey and Mary Travers to form Peter, Paul and Mary. The group incorporated the song into their live performances before recording it in 1962. [1] The lyrics tell a bittersweet story of the ageless dragon Puff and his playmate Jackie Paper, a little boy who grows up and loses interest in the imaginary adventures of childhood and leaves Puff alone and depressed. The story of the song takes place "by the sea" in the fantasy land of Honah Lee. [edit] Urban legend Believed by some people to refer to smoking marijuana, due to references to paper, dragon ("draggin'") and puff (of smoke?) - and a rumor later incorporated into the film Meet the Parents - the song became a hippie anthem. The authors of the song have repeatedly and vehemently denied any intentional drug reference. On stage, they have often ridiculed that idea by comparing it to songs such as "The Star-Spangled Banner" that could also be construed as drug songs if the listener were of a mind to do so.[1] Lost in this controversy is the point of the song -- that whatever the dragon may have stood for symbolically, the child of the song abandoned it once he became an adult. [edit] Bans Nevertheless, the song was banned in Singapore in 1963.[2] Singapore has also banned other songs associated with "drug culture" like "Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds", and "Yellow Submarine".[citation needed] [edit] Television Specials Puff holding Jackie Paper from the 1978 cartoon.Beginning in 1978, a short series of 30-minute animated television specials based on the song were produced with Burgess Meredith in the title role. The series included Puff the Magic Dragon, Puff The Magic Dragon and the Land of the Living Lies, and Puff and the Incredible Mr. Nobody. [edit] Cultural references The phrase "Puff the Magic Dragon" is also American military slang for the AC-47 and AC-130 gunship airplanes used in Vietnam, so called because the planes' Gatling guns fired red tracers that gave the appearance of breathing fire. The Red Hot Chili Peppers song "Apache Rose Peacock" refers to the placename "Honah Lee". In the movie Meet the Parents, Greg Focker (Ben Stiller) is riding in a car with his fiancés father (Robert de Niro). The song comes on the radio and Greg mentions that it has connotations to marijuana. Puff was once referenced in a Far Side cartoon, in which an oil-coated dragon lies dead on a beach as a shipwrecked oil tanker sinks on the horizon. The caption reads, "Tragedy strikes off the coast in a land called Honah Lee."
2016-03-26 23:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some times it is best not to step over the friend line cause your friendship is never the same if it ends.but if that little percent that it does work out its a miracle but to prevent any hurt its best to say that the best part of relation for you and me is to remain closest best friends.
2006-08-20 22:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by gahmecc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys know that this sentence is bad news. Most of the time, they won't even remain as friends.
2006-08-20 22:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just friends means your not interested in a romantic relationship.
2006-08-20 22:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that would if you are certain that someone you are getting into such relationship with is expecting a miracle to happen. Be open and tell them that its just that level you would be with them and if they have any future expectations you better go seperate ways.
2006-08-20 22:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by Coolguy_punjabi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means whatever the person who said it wants it to mean. For mean it means just that...that I want to be just friends...and maybe have sex from time to time.
2006-08-20 22:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by makeherwett 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if sb tell this in most cases it means that he/she doesnt want to get in a close relationship
2006-08-20 22:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by k k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋