Ive been with this girl for 3 months, its a long distance but when do meet we can be very intimate, she lets me touch her almost anywhere. I would like to touch her butt and breasts just out of curiosity but she seems to be quite protective about it (but not in a threatening or a "no way" kind of way), im not going to force her, right now im just waiting. Im wondering if theres a way to make it easier for her? I have no intention what so ever of making love to her.
-Ive already asked her, but not when im with her, ive just asked through text "is it okay if i do such-and-such?"... and she just seems shy about it, its not like "if you touch me im gonna dump you" or something. The relationship came out of friendship so ive always paid alot of respect to her body.
-were under 18.
2006-08-20 21:44:52 · 18 answers · asked by Just_another_nice_guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her to tell you when she wants you to stop. Be honest, tell her what you want to do while you are doing it and (important) what you are thinking while doing it. Go Slow! Tell her that you love what you see and feel. She is embarrassed, and uncomfortable. Make her feel like she is perfect, gorgeous, "a Goddess", AND safe - you are going to stop when she says STOP. She needs to know that you aren't going to "kiss and tell." She needs reassurance, acceptance, and security.
2006-08-20 21:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Honey 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to make love to her then you shouldn't really touch her in those more sensitive areas because it is sooo easy to get carried away. Doing it out of curiosity is probably even worse. I'm glad you're waiting though. That shows respect. Definitely don't do anything unless you have her consent and even if she seems to say yes at first but then says no later don't keep going just because of her initial answer.
It sounds like you might ask her through text quite a bit and if that's the case then she might feel pressured to let you do that stuff. You should let her know that you won't do anything unless she absolutely wants to 100% but just be aware that it's easy to think you want to keep going in the midst of how good it might feel when, outside of that feeling, you never wanted to go that far in the first place.
2006-08-20 22:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sindri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are under 18. Even though most girls loose their virginity before they reach the age of 18, some of us would rather wait for the right place, the right time, and the right guy. I'm not saying that she doesn't like you it's just that she might think what you have is too special to spoil it with getting too physical.
Try to keep your hands to yourself and wait for her to be ready. If you want go ahead and talk to her about it, but be respectful about it. If you notice she doesn't feel comfortable talking about it, tell her that you understand and that you respect her position on the subject, change the conversation.
Be patient and good luck!
2006-08-20 22:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by metztli99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do? Is NOT touch- I know this is hard, because you're super horny and stuff but for real, don't touch, don't be tempted.
Consider this- for every person that you have sex with, not only have you had sex with every person the OTHER person has had, but a part of your soul mixes with the other person. You won't see or feel the spiritual damage for several years- but like a huge zit below the skin that won't go away, it'll break open. And you'll be hurting bad in a really bad way.
Just take my word on this- I know, I've got so many scars on my soul that death looks pretty good- because of my belief in Christ I'd be made pure and strong when I die.
2006-08-20 21:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First and foremost, you can't force anyone to do anything unless you want to end up in jail.
Secondly, if she shows no interest in having sex with you,keep your hands to yourself,stop texting her about it. I don't know of a girl or woman that likes to be grouped,just because she hasn't yelled rape or stop doesn't give you the right to touch her and maybe the reason why she hasn't gone to second base with you yet because your showing her that all your thinking of is sex.When a girl \ woman turns cold,suddenly want to leave,swings at your hands,moves away from you,that means NO! Like you said she maybe to shy to tell you to stop. Be a gentlemen at all times. This is just one of the many reasons why women don't trust us. Hope that helps.
2006-08-20 22:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should spend more time together if you want to start getting intimate...honestly it sounds like it is too soon to be doing so much heavy petting. I think you should take more time to get to know her better by going to the park or on long walks, find an interest for you both to do together and give it more time before doing something you might later regret. long distance relationships tend to fade out to be honest with you. out of sight, out of mind is true in alot of cases I have found...
2006-08-20 21:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first things first.. what do you look for in a relationship? is it sex? then, it's not right.. if you love her, you won't do anything more than touch almost everywhere.. you might think i'm a such a freak or whatever but my answer is "until you get married".
2006-08-20 22:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by bluey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I understand from my experience that alot of women et aroused by simply toucching them at certain sensitive parts of their body. That might be keeeping this gal you away from touching her boobs and butts. Pay attention to how far you would go and she would want you to. Only then make a move.
2006-08-20 21:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by Coolguy_punjabi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is ok for you to touch anywhere. Any girl will not say touch me there or here. If u want u can go to any limit as if she has to object she would have been done that till now.
2006-08-20 21:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by arooon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When she is ready she will tell you. Its that simple. Don't pressure her. There is much more to a relationship than how much you get to touch. Focus on other things when you are together. Go see a movie, go do something fun.
2006-08-20 21:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by Elim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go slow. Having sex at your age can turn out disastrous. Instead of trying to feel up on her, why don't you just accept what she let you do and not try for more. She will feel more comfortable with you, will appreciate your respect for her and will eventually lead the way...so don't rush.
2006-08-20 21:57:27 · answer #11 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋