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Question

I have my own place, car and a job, not much money and sometimes no money, no girlfriend and no out life, like some people but i cant stop thinking about killing myself and ending this **** life, i just dont see the point anymore.

wannabcitygal its got nothing to do with what i've got and what i haven't got i dont give a f**k about material things, I dont care that i dont have a gf or have much money.

Bonzo i dont have a pc i use the one in work.

R. F i cant sell my car i need it for work i travel 48 miles a day to and from work.

Answer 1

Maybe you need some kind of stimuli to help you get yourself on track. Maybe you need to seek a call girl to help you change your luck. Make sure she is clean and also, sex is not that important at this time. Her company will be benificial since she has many friends. It is worth a try. Remember, she is a lady that deserves respect, regardless of her chosen profession.

Answer 2

At some point, everyone becomes 'burn-out', 'tired and frustrated', and just 'sick of it all'...sometimes 'even sick of being sick and tired'. What makes things better is realizing our individual actions mean something...can make a difference. It not something that comes from having a car, job, or a girlfriend...as you very clearly indicated.

Getting back to basics...what is the reason you obtain the car, obtain own place, a job...aside from fulfilling your basic physical needs? How did you feel? That sense of fulfillment/wholeness from being productive can still be. You can 'tap into it' by doing things that make you feel that way again. It may have nothing to do w/ fulfilling everyday obligations. Something that makes you feel not like a robot--'going through the motions' but free, more in control of life.

Sometimes the 'little' things make the most significant impact.
One day just take a walk and consider what a difference it made to you even in the smallest way (what did you see, think, feel, experience, etc)

I hope this helps. Also, if thoughts persists, please see a professional

Answer 3

The point is, this is your life!!! It sounds like you are sucessful, if you have your own place, car and a job. Maybe you are spending too much time at work and not enough time for yourself. Call a friend and go out to a ball game or a movie or somewhere you would enjoy and take care of you. Maybe you should talk to a Doctor.
Please don't give up on you and your life. There are still so many things for you to see and do!

Answer 4

I know where you are coming from with this, because I have suffered depression for a long time and I have been where you are now.

You have to understand that the thoughts you are having, the ones about hating your life and wanting to end it because it feels hellish - they aren't created by YOU, as such, but the chemical inbalance in your brain that makes you feel depressed. It's like any other illness, its NOT your fault. But there are ways to deal with it.

Material things, like money or cars or houses, don't make you feel happy when you are depressed. All that crap you hear about counting blessings and being grateful for what you have when others are worse off - yes thats all true, but isn't an answer when somewhere in your head you feel like its all worthless.

You need to take control of this situation, because it can and does get better with the right action. I have had times where I could do nothing but sit and weep because I hated myself and everything felt terrible - I don't feel that way today, though I do have down phases.

The best place to start, if you can, is your doctor. He or she may well suggest anti-depressants. Its up to you whether or not you want to go down that route, but I have found sertraline to make a huge difference. Counselling will also help, so ask your doctor to refer you.

This will get better, I promise, but it takes time.

Answer 5

You look at the Sunny side of life.You have car,house,job and mostly money also which many of the people donot have.Occasional cash shortage is normal.You have proper cash/saving plan.What you lack is confidence.You may have become extreme introvert and in a shell.Break open this shell of isolation,and come out,have friends and cultivate some hoby.You have to visit some dating sites and defnitely you will have girl friends and a wonderful life.You have to create your own atmosphere.Read some books Like How to Win Friends and How to Stop Worrying and Start Living etc.You have every right to be happy.You have to change youself.Try to have friends from today.Invite somebody you know for tea or dinner to day itself.See how your life changes.Happiness is purely a state of mind and it does not depend on any thing. I am sure you will write a happy letter to me after sometime.Wish you Good Luck.

Answer 6

As you are already aware material things don't guarantee happiness,since you have a job but no money maybe you could look for another or maybe apply for a promotion at work?

As for the girlfriend,how about a personal ad? You don't have to place one yourself but how about replying to a few? If you don't meet a girlfriend you might make some new friends which could give you a better social life.

Remember you are not the only one feeling like this,there are others out there going through the same thing who also want better lives.

Please please do not entertain any thoughts of suicide. It is not the solution to your problems. Confide in a family member or a work colleague,maybe they can offer a helping hand.

Answer 7

I don't have a cure for feeling this lousy, but because I'm fairly old, I can tell you that your feelings are not facts about you and your life, but they are responses to what's going on on a daily basis and if you can change your circumstances even in a small way, your feelings will begin to shift. Think of one thing you can do that you enjoy, no matter how insignificant, and make yourself do it in spite of your feelings. Think of the way you feel as being like the weather; it's not static - it's changing all the time in response to what's going on in the atmosphere. To cause a change in your internal weather, you need to put some good experiences into your daily routine and also make plans for things like holidays or saving up to buy something you've always wanted. This is not a miracle cure; it takes time, but it's a heck of a lot better than just obsessing about ending it all. I've been there - it's bloody hard but it's well worth staying the course. To be happy we need :a) Something to do
b)something to love - person,pet or hobby
c) something to look forward to/some kind of plans
Hope some of these tips help.

Answer 8

You sound like you're in depression since you know your life is coming along fine but you still can't get happy. Maybe you need some St. John's Wort or a pharmaceutical, if you prefer. Never think of suicide!! It's the worst thing you can do to your friends and family. Get out and take a walk in Nature. Sometimes life is a crock of crap, it seems, but then something will happen and you will be so glad you're still alive. The point of life is life, whether it's fun or not. Also, if you want more money, I recommend selling your car. The exercise will do you good. God bless you and keep you.

Answer 9

I have felt that way too. I used to want to drive my truck over a bridge and end it. I kept thinking what are the important things in my life. I dont have a boyfriend or even kids. That makes me sad. I decided to keep living because I knew my family would miss me. My dog loves me and misses me. I thought of the things I still want to do in life. What you are going through is depression. It is not easy and really hard to deal with. You have to take things one day at a time. Right now I am feeling bad because I went out with a guy and he didnt even call me back. I have to realize that I tried my best to meet someone and it just didnt work out. Hang in there. Understand that depression happens. Concentrate on your future. Take life one day at a time. Realize you cannot do it all. I dont know how old you are or where you are from, but you can talk to me. I know just how you feel. [e-mail]

Answer 10

One thing u have got is loads of excuses! U dont sound like you have ever had it really hard. There are ppl out there, Myself included, who have been at the bottom of the bottom. Life is a gift, but its also a trial. Man or woman, You have to use what You can to make a life for yourself. Giving up seems the easy way out sometimes, but its not. Its all about your frame of mind. You need to readjust yours. Its not as hard as it sounds. Just change your short-term goals.

Answer 11

I think you need to think about the things you do have that aren't material and you need to stop measuring your life and success by what things you have.

You need to think about who you really are and what makes you happy.

I can tell you if you remain sad you won't attract someone because they will feel your sadness.

Maybe you should think about something that interests you -- a hobby, a sport and find a place to share that with other people. It will give you focus.

If you're still feeling so lost, try talking to someone (even call a crisis line). It will help if you can vent some of this and reach out to someone else.