You see, i moved to Kuwait ten days ago, i am lebanese, and he is lebanese too. we hang out in a group all the time, and last week we started having "looks" and things get intense sometimes. nothing happened yet, and i learned he has a Girlfriend back home. he wants us to go with the flow. i know he is a player, and he is a friend of my friend's fiance. it is so hard, especially that i really like him, but not sure how to handle this, don't want to be played or hurt, but my stupid self keep hoping that he will like me enough to change... what to do?
2006-08-20 21:16:53 · 23 answers · asked by Ninamore_7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, more info: i leave in October back to Lebanon, he is due to go for a few weeks before. i confronted him about his gf, and he said he is not that into that relationship. i am not taking anyone's guy, i didn't make any moves, so please, chill, i am no evil person. just stuck in one of those gray areas between right and wrong...
2006-08-20 21:26:45 · update #1
Dear Nina,
I know that it is a good and strange feeling. To love someone and do not be sure , it is a real sense or not?
It is not easy to give you a suitable and suffitient answer. If anyone tell you something, it could not deeply satisfy you.
1- the best answers are in hands of your near friend or biger brother and sister. Because they found out more about your character.
2- I am a boy and i have girlfriend, I am sure if I tell another girl that I love you, it will be a lie. Except I getting bored of her, and it will be seeable.
sit relax and think with your self in what condition did you see him and what age you are in and is it a love or passions or pertinacity with someone.
At last I believe this is one of the questions that the one answer is inside you not in others brain or mouth.
Best wishes
2006-08-20 21:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by darbandiamin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey he aint going to change and just think about this if he is giving your the bedroom eyes so on and so fourth and he has a girlfriend even if he dumps her and goes with you what do you think he will do while you two are together and the next lucious lebanese lady that comes his way he will do the same thing and you will end up getting hurt you reap what you sow and if you make this bed now when it gets hard and rough you will have to lay in it
2006-08-20 21:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by p-nut butter princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he will not like you enough to change. That is just simply his character and personality. He'll only change if HE wants to. Nobody else will be able to help him with that.
The fact is you have to accept him for who he is RIGHT NOW and DON'T look at his potential or what you'd like him to be. Go for a one-night-stand with him and realize that's all it is, then contact his girlfriend and tell her and say, "I thought you'd like to know", or, just forget the loser and move on and just think, "yeah, he's hot, I had good dreams about him" and that's it.
2006-08-20 21:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you want ?
A long term relationship or just a "companion" for the moment.
If for long term, it's not worth it. You will get burn and you already know he is a player.
For short term, do whatever you want.
I thought lebanese ladies are more conservative. Why would you want to play with fire ?
2006-08-20 21:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU stear clear of this guy. First of all you would be cheating with someone elses man. Would you have that happen to you?
Lets say he chooses YOU and then whats next.......the next pretty face he comes across?
He has charmed you because it is what he does best. Con and charm women.
Find a guy who isn't a player.
I can't imagine any sort of quick superfisous relationship with him will lead you to heart break
2006-08-20 21:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me my dear. You already know he is a player. You can do better. If he will cheat on his gf with you, then he will cheat on you with someone else.
This guy is bad news. Stay away. If you get involved with him you will only get hurt and will not be available to some other guy who can be a real boyfriend.
Stay away. He only wants one thing from you.
2006-08-20 21:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by nobadkids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just have yourself a fling why does everything have to lead somewhere? Enjoy the moment for a change and quit worrying about the so called consequences.
2006-08-20 21:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a girl friend and is happy to cheat on her by having a relationship with you, he will probably do the same on you one day.
Andy
2006-08-20 21:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he's a player, then just enjoy the flirting but don't take it any further.
You will get hurt -- especially if he's holding on to a girlfriend.
If he becomes single... then maybe.
2006-08-20 21:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kitia_98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least wait until he no longer has a girlfriend. do you really want to help him make someone hurt like that? Plus, if he would cheat on her he would do the same thing to you.
2006-08-20 21:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by kimberly b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋