(I am not in love with him yet just really like him). Nothing has been mentioned since we are fine and everything but I wonder did I hurt his feels not saying it back, he has not said it since which is fine. I want to talk to him about it but don't really know what to say to him, he has a tendancy to clam up very quickly and he can be hard to talk to at times, I did try and talk to him about it a couple of days after he said it but he wouldn't talk about it and I then ended up promising not to bring it up again unless he did. What do you guys think, a guys point of view would be good how would you feel?
2006-08-20 21:11:07 · 12 answers · asked by sultrysagittarius 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has told you how he feels, thats not a bad thing. Most blokes wouldn't usually be the first to say even if it was how they feel so he is certainly more in touch with his emotions than most. The fact that he refuses to talk about it would indicate that it has hurt his feelings, and not wanting to talk about it is the typical male macho way of hiding that fact. I know, I have done it myself. However what would be more hurtful to him long term is if you were to say it back and not mean it. So I would say you have done the right thing and if in time you do feel you love him tell him and i'm sure he will be more willing to talk on the subject because he won't feel his pride is at stake. I know it sounds silly but male pride is priceless to us, as its great to hide emotions behind.
2006-08-21 00:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by petedavey001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but can I answer anyway?! Well done for not doing the automatic knee jerk reaction and saying it back to him if you don't mean it. If he wants to tell you he loves you then let him! Be flattered. If he means it he will say whenever he wants to. There is no need to bring the subject up with him. You know what guys are like, he's probably forgotten he's said it! If it really is love, he'll tell you again and if it turns out you don't/can't love him, then don't be with him. Let him be with someone that can love him.
2006-08-21 04:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Claire R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont mention what age either of you are . if you are fairly young i'd say explain yourself and how you feel in a letter maybe,so he knows whats going on in your head. if you are older ,say late 20's , he may be after something more and you dont want to give it i.e. moving in or marrraige etc. in that case i would say , tell him you cant give him what he is looking for but you wish to remain friends if thats what he would like(the ball is in his court for that part).you sound like a caring person and i admire the fact that you are actually going to the trouble of getting advice on this. love is a word that is just thrown around too much these days. some times you have to be cruel to be kind. best of luck with whatever you decide.
2006-08-21 04:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's OK. Don't worry I don't think you have upset him. He loves you, he doesn't mind if you take your time about saying it back. At least when you do say it, he'll know that you are being honest. Go at your own pace, it's not a competition.
When you love someone it is a pleasure to tell them, whether they return your feelings or not. At least he has the advantage of being able to win your heart in the future.
2006-08-21 04:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A hug and a kiss will mean you love him.
Stay like that and you will fall in love with him so don't worry.
Even if you want to leave him after a while words are not that important , Everybody break up after these words not before.
2006-08-21 04:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Opposite hap pend here, but I felt I had to say it back. I think you've done the right thing. Cause once you say it back its kind of expected all the time, and you know deep down that you don't mean it!
2006-08-21 04:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months is not that long... Do you think he really means it? Love is a very profound thing. It should only be said when he truly means it. Is he a very sincere person?
2006-08-21 04:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by pureessence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop analysing - you will spoil the special moment in advance - when you do really feel you love him and have the urge to tell him.
2006-08-21 04:16:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not something you should say just because he said it first - its meaningless.
When you are sure that you feel the same - tell him then.
2006-08-21 04:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by NJP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it...but seems like he just wanted some. Or he did something stupid and he is hiding it.
2006-08-21 04:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by berettaz26guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋