Ive been with this girl for 3 months, its a long distance but when do meet we can be very intimate, she lets me touch her almost anywhere. I would like to touch her butt and breasts just out of curiosity but she seems to be quite protective about it (but not in a threatening or a "no way" kind of way), im not going to force her, right now im just waiting. Im wondering if theres a way to make it easier for her? I have no intention what so ever of making love to her.
2006-08-20 20:55:01 · 24 answers · asked by Just_another_nice_guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
-Ive already asked her, but not when im with her, ive just asked through text "is it okay if i do such-and-such?"... and she just seems shy about it, its not like "if you touch me im gonna dump you" or something. The relationship came out of friendship so ive always paid alot of respect to her body.
-were under 18.
2006-08-20 21:11:25 · update #1
Communication is what makes relationships work so open up with her and say your body turns me on so much - I would love to feel what your breasts feel like - can I touch them, would that feel good. And say the same thing about her butt...just tell her you want to take things slow too but you are dying to just touch her and feel her body - that way she knows what your intentions are and if she is protective, she will either say oh ok, as long as you are not going to try .... or no I'm not comfortable with that - but either way you make her feel sexy and wanted and that is a good thing. Don't feel stupid if she says no, just ask her to tell you when she would be comfortable with that cause you would love to just touch her.. that's all - open up..
2006-08-20 21:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its this simple hon, just be honest with her. Pick a non-threatening time, when you to are alone together somewhere where she is comfortable. Tell her how you feel about her, Then tell her about your curiosity to explore her body but that you dont want to rush her or scare her in anyway. Speak softly but clearly, look strait into her eyes and make sure that she doesnt look like she feels trapped or uncomfortable in any way. She may be just as interested in a new level as you are, but does not want to come off as easy or anything. Also, make sure you let her know that she can take all the time she wants to decide how she feels about the concept and dont push or nag her about it so that she feels guilty.
2006-08-20 21:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by rxtech05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time when she lets you. Its ok to try, if she says no, stop. If not, go ahead. Butt and breasts shouldnt be the big "no", but, if thats as far as you've gotten, good luck. Maybe you could let her know that you wont push sex just because she lets you touch. That might make her feel better. Touching doesnt hurt anything, but sometimes its hard to stop when you get things going. Just be patient. She's probably afraid she will do more than she plans when in the moment and regret it later.
2006-08-20 21:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the next time you guys see eachother go out somewhere where there is a lot of people so you or her don't get that far
you are doing a good job at respecting her
give her the floor to tell you when she is ready
believe me long distance relationships are great cause when you see each other it always like you are seeing each other for the frist time
2006-08-20 21:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by yomom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Lisabug on this one. Its way better in the long run to leave that until after marriage. If you think you need to gain some experience before getting married, you're wrong. It only makes marriage more difficult.
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2006-08-20 21:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the people involved to when you all are ready. Anyone under the age of 18 I would say it is an absolute no no.
2006-08-20 21:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no intention of Making love to her, why do you want to touch her butts and breast. Touching those things might lead to another thing. So keep your hands to yourself.
2006-08-20 21:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by freeall_freeme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like both of you are not ready for physical relationship. If so, don't go overboard with your touchy touchy thing that could put both of your to lose control. Resist your temptation until you are fully commited and ready.
2006-08-20 21:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women don't like there breasts touched, others due to inexperience feel awkward. I'm sure when she's ready she'll let you know!
2006-08-20 21:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it? It may seem awkward, but its easier to agree on whats going on. Why dont you want to make love to her? She might get the wrong idea?
2006-08-20 21:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋